to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

[YummyMummy1208]

Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

Yummy - maybe you need to step back and look at why you are angry with OH. I doubt what you have said in your OP is the real reason or the whole story.

In your OP you said you were angry 'right now and generally' since you had DS. You must be bloody tired being angry and therefore unhappy all the time and on top of that you are pregnant. Try talking to someone, your midwife, GP maybe or a counsellor.

You are probably over-reacting to every little thing and so your OH is ignoring genuine concerns along with the petty ones. I probably wouuld in his situation tbh.

I'll ask again has your child ever been injured in OHs care other than the window incident?

YummyMummy1208 Thu 05-Aug-10 14:26:37
"Yes could i borrow that please knickers0nmyhead? "

Well done!! For laughing at yourself I almost forgive you for accusing me of neglect

"The beauty of the shower, though, surely, is being able to pretend not to hear them."

Inside my 'ard exterior is an OP struggling to get out.

knickers, I could do with that duct tape to mend something actually so bring it over!

MIFLAW, she's 20 months old and still suffering from separation anxiety. And for some reason* is not convinced that her father is a suitable substitute for me.

*Not the same reason as the OP. My husband does as much childcare as I do, we're both part time.

I still feel really sorry for OP's OH. I would hate to be in a relationship with someone who thought i was such a twonk. Op needs to do the right thing and leave this poor man. let him find someone who loves him and values him.
Then Op can go for some counselling and get some help with her low self esteem issues.

This might help everyone.

duct tape is in plenty supply here. I use i to keep nappies on, to tape both dcs to the wall whilst I shower, plus numerous other things!

Oh well. I guess shouting at kids can't work for everyone. There goes my challenge to Gina Ford's supremacy ...

Thats what the OP needs knickers - with your duct tape you have just reminded me - one of those toddler wall chairs they have in some helpful swimming pools that you can strap them into while you get ready.

Well, my DD is 14 months old, crawls up and downstairs on her own competently.

I go up to have a shower and if she doesn't follow me, she stays downstairs on her own!

I'd make it a quick shower and keep a sharp ear out. But I would leave her downstairs on her own. She has the run of the whole house now.

I

yabu.
totally.
kids need to learn, and so do parents.
can you honestly say that there has never been a time when you have looked at a situation with your son and thought, oh shit i really shouldnt have done that?
cause i cant. as parents we learn from our mistakes, and the only time you can really compain is if we dont learn.
your son came to no harm, so why are you harping on about what could have happened?
why not save the worry for when soemthing actually goes wrong?
your oh done nothing wrong other than doing something you wouldnt. but so what?
he is as much of your childs parent as you are.
and he is allowed to parent in his own way.
as you said he is getting up with your son so yu can get some rest, so he cant be all bad.
stop finding fault where the is none.

Eh?
What did I say?

OP you really are very precious...........
and I hate the phrase 'Yummy Mummy'

Its shite.

Thanks for the laugh OP. You really are a very self centered control freak aren't you. I'm another one that feels sorry for your DH

You are all very boring now. Zzzz.

I have discovered what a bunch of knob heads u lot on this forum actually are and will stick to the other ones that actully give constructive advice not a bunch of shite.

Thanks for entertaining my morning tho.

oh and i hate the phrase SixtyFootDoll. Its shite too.

you really are pathetic. lol

bye bye!!

oh bye then..

door. arse. out. etc.

Oh dear

I think I might flounce too as OP has ignored all my nice posts.

what.
a.
twat.

Never risk posting on AIBU if you only want the general opinion to agree! OH is an equal parent-you have to let him do it his way-unless you could stand him telling you what to do. Make sure the house is safe and there isn't a problem.

Priceless.

You're off to find a nice forum that gives constructive advice. You are not looking for constructive advice, you are looking for people to agree with you!

Was that the door hitting you on the arse op? Fuckwit.

Has she finally gone ?
Thank god for that. she was unstable, right? maybe contact her mw/hv and tell say that she'd not fit to have another child. only joking. just dreaming if what should be done.
She truely is mad.

YABU.

For constructive advice read

'Oh hun he sounds like a right twat, of course he shud look after yur babba properly'

and other such gems.

am wondering how i can insert the phrase 'sixtyfootdoll' into conversation?

Maybe the Times will run a weekly column on the life of a Sixty Foot Doll?