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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

705 replies

YummyMummy1208 · 05/08/2010 09:47

Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

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StewieGriffinsMom · 05/08/2010 16:28

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Headbanger · 05/08/2010 16:40

The kind of people that take pride in being a 'yummy mummy' are precisely the same women that say "Oh I'm a real girly girl I am!!" as if that were a good thing, and not a phrase that deserves a resounding back-handed slap and the removal of all rights to vote

SixtyFootDoll · 05/08/2010 16:45

Nods wisely too, stroking chin.

Harryan · 05/08/2010 16:49

Wow I have seriously just lost an hour of my day reading this thread.....I will never get that hour back you know! [Grin]

She's still a crazy girl though, I mean you don't become a "perfect" parent you learn it.
Her OH (A term which I hate, much prefer DP)needs to learn from his mistakes.
Now She obviously didn't like being critisised about HER parenting skills so why should she assume her partener get the same??

But then again she is still young, and has lots to learn Counselling would help them both immensly.

StarlightMcKenzie · 05/08/2010 16:51

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BonniePrinceBilly · 05/08/2010 16:52

She's off to bounty no doubt, where her illiteracy textspeak will be appreciated and they will all call her hunny and chick and agree that he's a useless twat just by dint of having a penis. Bet she has a ticker by teatime.

Thank fuck they can all congregate there and generally leave us alone here!

MathsMadMummy · 05/08/2010 16:53

hmm. finally opened this thread and only looked at the first page and the last page. soooo confused...

may have to read the lot

unfitmother · 05/08/2010 16:55

That would get my vote for quote of the week!

Harryan · 05/08/2010 16:58

Seriously mathsmadmummy Think Veeeery carefully before you do.....

Do you really have and hour or two to spare for this thread (which I may add was well worth it)?
If you do I beg you to take in supplies...i.e Wine and chocolate!!

It really is better than watching your fave movie

foureleven · 05/08/2010 16:58

Dont mathsmadmummy - you will lose a small part of your soul.

unfitmother · 05/08/2010 17:00

Do not read this thread sober!

lifeas3plus1 · 05/08/2010 17:00

Wow, I've had a shower (whilst leaving ds on his own) been to the shop, been to the park where I told ds to be careful then said "I told you so" when he fell and landed face first on the pavement (he is ok may I add) given ds his dinner come back and there's 13 pages to read through.

Has op agree'd that she's being unresonable yet or is she still spouting her shit?

Think i'll be back Later when ds is in bed! He's driving me crazy and needs an early night!

proudnsad · 05/08/2010 17:01

Glad we 'entertained her morning' though!

MathsMadMummy · 05/08/2010 17:02

oh you lot HAD to go and tell me not to didn't you.

have you people never heard of reverse psychology?!

oh well I will have to save it for later as I do actually have some clearing up to do

knickers0nmyhead · 05/08/2010 17:03

Has she bollocks agreed that she is unreasonable!!!

lifeas3plus1 · 05/08/2010 17:05

Figures!

MIFLAW · 05/08/2010 17:06

I imagine the OP as a woman with a LOT of cuddly toys.

ljgibbs · 05/08/2010 17:07

I wonder if YM will take her foul mood out on her OH tonight and nag him even more about how he can't do things properly... poor bugger (him not her)

weegiemum · 05/08/2010 17:09

"Bet she has a ticker by teatime."

43 mins 22 seconds till teatime
5 mins 37 seconds till wine o'clock
It has been %%three miniutes fifteen seconds%% since I last lambasted my OH over his parenting

nancy10 · 05/08/2010 17:19

Yes, I thought that, poor bloke. If I had a £1 for every time my dh did something I didn't agree with I'd be very rich! But our kids lives weren't compromised.
I know of a similar situation to this but it was the dh who was over the top, we were at their BBQ in there very secure, straight, can see everything at all times, garden. When suddenly he started shouting really aggressively at his wife, telling her she should be keeping an eye on their son and what was she doing sitting around talking. It was awful, everyone went quiet and she scuttled off to pick up their son, who had been playing really happily with all the other children. It also made all the other parents look incompetent because the children were similar ages (2-3 years.)

slhilly · 05/08/2010 17:20

Speaking personally, I thought that mid-thread, it was quite funny seeing the sparks fly, but by the end she'd started to focus on advice but people were piling in to take the piss, and that's never nice. It degenerated at the point when it would have been good to have been helpful.

If you're lurking, YummyMummy, you might want to get a copy of "Letting go as children grow". As for learning to cope with your OH having a different approach to parenting from you, I think you could start by reflecting on the van incident for yourself, and then talking to him about it. Your expectations are very different -- my guess is that you expected your OH to actively play with your DS in the van, your OH thought that the point of going into the van was that the van itself was the playground and he could simply enjoy the atmosphere while DS amused himself. Many partners vary in their view of what is the right balance between "active playing" and "just being around"; you need to acknowledge this with each other, and then come to a joint agreement about what is acceptable.

SkiHorseWonAWean · 05/08/2010 17:27

This thread has been a real treat - I'm loving "laxi-daisy"! Am also wondering what to make of the due-any-day "are education standards dropping?" threads...

Morloth · 05/08/2010 17:49

Earplugs are your friend, what is the point of forcing husband out of bed to deal with DCs if you can still hear them?

Original poster
YummyMummy1208 · 05/08/2010 18:28

and here i c u all r, still having fun trying to make other people feel crap.

U lot really r bored housewives rnt u?

I have mentioned this area 'AIBU' on a few other topics now and most of them all agree u lot on here really dont actually put in any useful comments, just take joy in upsetting the OP. Well what ever floats ur boat.

Now u can carry on saying how i must be at home ear bashing my OH by now and oh that poor bloke and yes im insane and an unfit mother...but at least i dont neglet my child unlike most of u on this thread.

Your poor children.

Have fun girlies!!

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 05/08/2010 18:33

Hardly neglect dear...at least we can spell anyway...