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Children getting changed in front of the opposite sex for PE-age 8 and 9

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Ayerightyouare · 03/08/2010 22:25

I am new to posting,not lurking,and after a fab glass or two of Spar 2 bottles for £7.50 am off and running dear children at their grans for a sleepover,ahem
My children,boy age 8,and girl age 9,expressed extreme anxiety over the "changing for PE arrangements"...ie the girls had to get changed in front of the boys and vice versa,in the same classroom.
I saw the headteacher about this before the end of last term,and, to the point, was told that "Well,Mrs insert name,you are the only parent who has brought this up,I like children to be children,innocent,there is no problem,we don't have the staff to supervise 2 different sex groups,there is no problem,the children are okay with it,and you are welcome in to come and see them change in front of each other"
I told her about some of the,for want of a better word,pornographic things that I had heard children of this age speak about.
I do not agree with her,for the sole reason that my children have told me that they do not like this.And,I will not come in as a stranger and watch children changing when I know my own children's feelings on the matter.I explained that children in the school system are not going to go against their teacher when they know that they have no choice in the matter.
I really felt patronised TBH.
Now,in the last week,I have had an example of "creative writing" left on my kitchen table by a 10 yr old girl.I have lots of my children's friends around,and they often do "arts and crafts" at the kitchen table.
Here is what she wrote:

"My Daughter's name, you are a dick head, you suck dick, eat shit, you fancy name of boy,and have sex withname of other boy every night.
name of other boy has cheesy nipples and you suck them every night.Just to tell you how do you know boys name has cheesy nipples do you suck them, got it, you suck other boys name dick don't you? "
I mean,come on,this is a 10 year old girl.It is not her fault,she is just showing what that age group has been exposed to via the media.Her Mum is very very strict.
When the school term commences,I am making an appt with the headmistress and basically demanding that she allows children to retain their dignity when getting changed.I have spoken to my daughter regarding this piece of creative writing,she has just turned 9,and she is very uncomfortable about getting changed in front of boys considering what she has now been exposed to."Sucking Dicks" indeed. Am I being Unreasonable ?

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SirBoobAlot · 04/08/2010 00:31

What "nonsense" are you expecting them to get up to, exactly? Comparing willy size?

BitOfFun · 04/08/2010 00:31

Sorry if that looked like backstage gossiping- no. I just wanted to catch Anyfucker while she was around.

scurryfunge · 04/08/2010 00:31

Well, come on....you are not real are you?

Ayerightyouare · 04/08/2010 00:31

Any Fucker,

Would you get undressed and dressed in front of males thet you had no say over??

Would you??

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TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:32

ohhhh i would be getting the plants/books/desks/chairs/doors/windows/blackboard/smart board etc all crb checked to be on the safe side!!! you never know where danger lurks

serotoninbutterfly · 04/08/2010 00:32

OP, you mention having a member of the office staff looking after a group while they get changed.

I would be less comfortable with that than same sex changing TBH

ParanoidTwit · 04/08/2010 00:32

They do F'in compare willy size and this has been happening since Y3!!!

Ayerightyouare · 04/08/2010 00:32

Sir Boob a Lot

Those were the Headteachers words,not mine re "Nonsense"

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TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:33

They compare willy size from reception age!

Ayerightyouare · 04/08/2010 00:34

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SirBoobAlot · 04/08/2010 00:34

I know it "F'in" happens - they're boys. It starts about five, and finishes when they're about 80.

PixieOnaLeaf · 04/08/2010 00:34

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scurryfunge · 04/08/2010 00:35

Right, I'm off to count paedophiles, sorry, I mean warn my children of suspect conversations on the internet.

PixieOnaLeaf · 04/08/2010 00:35

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TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:36

Scurry check under their beds!!!!

BitOfFun · 04/08/2010 00:36

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ParanoidTwit · 04/08/2010 00:36

It's not the IQ it's the age. You are all much older than me so are more disconnected with what's going on. Ah, the penny drops at last!

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TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:37

Pixie....let me know if it works lol

SomeGuy · 04/08/2010 00:37

I think you should stick to Special Brew, it's much cheaper than Spar wine.

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BitOfFun · 04/08/2010 00:38

I'm on my best behaviour anyway after getting told off for my last escapade

serotoninbutterfly · 04/08/2010 00:38

I'm not old PT, not old at all!

Getting bored of no reveal though...

BaronessBomburst · 04/08/2010 00:38

It is perfectly possible to get changed in front of anyone in a modest manner, you know. What do you do on the beach?

Actually, I can't usually be arsed but I live in Holland, so that's 'nuff said.....