FUCKING HELL I HAVE JUST HIT MY MIL

[slushy]

OMG I feel so guilty it is my time of the month she was shouting at my dp for 10 minutes about him and his sister not talking. Saying how horrible for her, so I stood up and said it has not exactly been great for me either you know, I have had a lot of stress lately worried because of my health this has been going on since dd was born.

She said I was a fucking evil bitch you will get what is coming to you I am fucking going. I followed her and told her not to come back without a apology she grabbed me and started strangling me in front of my poor dc. So I pushed her off and she tried to bite me the only way to stop her was to hit her so I hit her and it desended into a full scale fight my DP tried to break it up and she bit him.

I had her hair to stop her harming me and let it go when dp intervened. She said she is gonna phone the police and have me done for assault so I have phoned them they say I was assaulted. I don't wanna press charges MIL is a nurse and will lose her job as well as her son. I am so ashamed of myself, I hate my bad temper and I cannot believe I did this in front of my children.

Blimey. Tis all a bit Jeremy Kyle

OP- sounds like she needs to tweak her HRT dosage...

Sounds like the MIL is way too over-involved in your lifes - she has no business shouting or criticising your kids AT ALL!! She has too much power in your house. A period of "no contact" seems a good idea, but I bet she won't stay away for long.

Well done standing up for yourself.

Altinkum I thought that too but although dp is injured (but as I said it is not bad enough to require treatment) and the marks on my neck have faded, MIL was also injured apparently she has bruising on her face I really didn't think I hit her that hard. As for the biting that was done when my dp got in the middle to stop her and the police officer said my MIL said she was scared that my partner was going to hit her as well and when he grabbed hold of her she bit him in self defense which she is apparently allowed to do when someone grabs hold of you.

It initially happened in the door way so no one other than me or my DP saw the initial start of it the neighbors saw the tail end of it. Basically she said she doubts the CPS will want to spend all the resources and money it takes to run a court case when no one was really that badly harmed however charges have not been dropped but she does not think cps will have enough evidence to charge either of us. I don't understand either to be honest but it is what I was told. Either way it is on record and if there are any further complaints of anyone it will show her character.

Can not beleive the police, well actually I can.
A few years ago a mad bitch woman hit my then 4 year old DS1 in a supermarket as she considered him to be "in her way" she then went in to a mad rant and went to hit him again (he was stood holding DHs hand when she hit him and was not in her way at all) any way I smacked the bitch to get her away from my child, she hightailed it stright to the police station while I was still at the supermarket waiting for the police to come, she got in her complaint first, pulled out the good old race card, said I hit her because she was black (she forgot to mention she belted a 4 year old child) and I was up on a charge of aggravated racial assault and ABH, thankfully it got laughed at in court and it was proved I was not a racist (I would have hit her what ever colour she was) but I still got fined for hitting the bitch, best £225 I ever spent

Animation There is no way she is ever coming back now. My DP has seen her for what she is and has said for me to not worry about it, if she can do this then she would have done more harm than good to our dc. He said I always try to defend her but I cant defend this.

Dp may speak to her if he wants but she is not seeing my dc again I won't have it. If my partner hit me I would not let him near my children so I am certainly not going to let my MIL near after this.

RunawayWife £225 fine it must of been so infuriating to go through that when you where in the right. I guess I should feel glad they didn't decide to charge me, I mean be honest ladies in court who would you believe, a nurse and outstanding member of society who is a old woman.

Or a 22 yo mum with no qualifications and had her first ds at age 18.

Altinkum I know I was really annoyed as well maybe she went down there crying I don't know but as I said they will review but she advised me that it probably wont go any farther.

Although now I am relieved I didn't get a fine.

nice op

What AlaskaNebraska said.

SLUSHY now things have calmed down a little I just wanted to say I've never been so immediately drawn to a thread as your one entitled FUCKING HELL I JUST HIT MY MIL!!!

There have been quite a few "my bloody MIL" threads on here lately (most with good reason) and your post was like the pinnacle of them all.

hope things are improving in your home now & you have a lovely weekend with your family. xx

Sorry, why are you worrying about her losing her job as a nurse if she is an alcoholic? She is better losing her job than someone losing their life because she is pissed or hungover and cant look after them properly .

Yes, you lost it and feel bad, but she started it from what I can gather. If someone did this to you in the street, you would defend yourself, so why should you feel guilty for defendng yourself on your own doorstep?

You were provoked. Your children will see that it's better to defend yourself then be beaten up by an evil grandmother and be humiliated and physically wounded.

If somebody was strangling and biting me, I'd do far more than hit them I can tell you.

Just dump her. You owe her nothing and she's lucky you're so forgiving and aren't pressing charges.

Who bites people? That is just fucking bizarre!

And this was in your house?

Well if it was me, the ghastly woman wouldn't be crossing the threshold again. Ever.

My house, my rules, which means no screaming in front of childrem, no biting, no throttling etc.

Sorted! Next?

Findingmymojo Thanks things are ok. Between me and my partner, ds is very upset he keeps asking why Nanny hit mummy, so I explain but it just comes up again he has also been quite argumentative today which is understandable.

ILoveHens I have said I am willing to press charges but the police have said they doubt the CPS will proceed. But it has gone on record and maybe next time she hits one of her other children they will go forward too.

Strangely enough I don't feel guilty now I have gone over and over this in my head and it all happened so fast and I don't believe it could of been handled better. If a partner treated me the way she did I would boot them without a second thought. She is not coming back no matter what.

I am also going to have to name change now as I posted this under my usual mn name I was shocked (and would have been called a troll anyway I imagine) and phoned my family last night and of course my entire family now know and I am sure this wont be coincidence some of my friends and family in RL visit here so I have probably outed myself. They have been good so far as to not say but if they read this thread then they will know.

i've hit mine before now and if the bitch ignores her grandchildren again, i will smack her silly!!!

aye you tell it as it is in da hood sista

Happy new name slushy

Hope she will stay away from you now xx

What classy people you all are!

I don't really see how anyone can blame the OP. If some attacks you, in front of your children, (or in any situation for that matter) what on earth are you supposed to do other than defend yourself?

I'm shocked this woman is a nurse! She sounds like a nasty bit of stuff, and no-one can blame you for simply defending yourself. I pity her patients....

There is nothing wrong with defending yourself or your partner/ children.

RunawayWife, could no one in the shop wtness that the woman had hurt your child in the first place?
It is ing that you were the one punished for it.