FUCKING HELL I HAVE JUST HIT MY MIL

[slushy]

OMG I feel so guilty it is my time of the month she was shouting at my dp for 10 minutes about him and his sister not talking. Saying how horrible for her, so I stood up and said it has not exactly been great for me either you know, I have had a lot of stress lately worried because of my health this has been going on since dd was born.

She said I was a fucking evil bitch you will get what is coming to you I am fucking going. I followed her and told her not to come back without a apology she grabbed me and started strangling me in front of my poor dc. So I pushed her off and she tried to bite me the only way to stop her was to hit her so I hit her and it desended into a full scale fight my DP tried to break it up and she bit him.

I had her hair to stop her harming me and let it go when dp intervened. She said she is gonna phone the police and have me done for assault so I have phoned them they say I was assaulted. I don't wanna press charges MIL is a nurse and will lose her job as well as her son. I am so ashamed of myself, I hate my bad temper and I cannot believe I did this in front of my children.

I'd press charges, tbh.

She sounds like a straight up ghetto fishwife.

How scary.

christ almighty, get yourself here

Drloves . No they are not the same your mother sounds much worse I am sorry for that I know how hard it can be.

There will be no contact now DP has also agreed with me, unfortunately DPs family are all scared of her and will also no longer speak to us.

Take photos of the marks. You were within your rights to defend yourself but I think you will feel better about yourself if you work on your temper.

Loving the expression "straight up ghetto fishwife"

OP, let this be the moment you resolve never to let things get so crazy in front of your dc again ... hopefully things will be calmer and feel safer generally if you never have her in your home again. Good luck.

"DPs family are all scared of her and will also no longer speak to us"

Hmm. Is that necessarily a bad thing?

Slushy, your MIL sounds toxic and I would advise you, your DP and children to cut all ties with her. This is not a one off incident (you say she's been violent and abusive to family members before) and you do not need your kids thinking this behaviour is acceptable or behaviour that granny could dole out towards them. You and your DP also don't need the stress of dealing with an alcoholic and violent woman.

It's v diffficult - I cut my mother out of my life 8 years ago but life is now much calmer and I'm not always worrying about what she might do next.

the bites may need treatment.was skin broken?how is your son,is bite serious?wash thoroughly under free running water.might need go A&E

My mother once through an empty Old El Paso taco shell box at my dad.

She bit her son. She's feral, man. Would you want a nurse like that treating your child? I wouldn't. She has only herself to blame for her ghettoness.

Press charges as maybe this will be the best thing for her if the court orders her to get some anger management help.

nurse (or any medical) facing assault would be suspended and face disciplinary

Well, tough. She should have thought about that before she tried to strangle someone and bit her adult child.

That's just so whacked.

statement of fact not a value judgement.regulatory bodies expect good personal conduct (that includes off duty) and police do inform regulatory bodies.understandably these things are taken v seriously

No she didn't get to bite me because I hit her when I saw, dp is a bit sore but not requiring medical treatment he pushed her away before she got a good grip.

I will see how things go tonight and then see about the doctors in the morning, I assure you I have not hit anyone before with it only screaming and shouting, I have not done that since I was 15. I think it was a mixture first period and health worries.

Ds seems hurt and upset with MIL but he is not physically hurt. I am gonna try and put him to bed now.

Slushy - what a bloody nightmare!

I agree that the thread title should be changed to 'My fucking batty MIL strangled me!!'

I can only echo what 95% of other people have said. It wasn't your fault, she's mad.

I am really pleased that your DH is 100% behind you - it makes the world of difference.

Do what you have to with the police - deserves whatever she gets. I hope she does get de-registered, she shouldn't be nursing.

DS will be OK, it's not like it happens daily. Just remind him that you and Daddy wont let her hurt him and tell him what FakePlasticTrees said Granny lost her temper and tried to hurt Mummy, so Mummy had to stop her. You should never try to hurt someone when you loose you temper. Don't worry, niether Mummy nor Granny were hurt and Daddy won't let Granny do that again

Shit happens - ignore any of the slightly odd posts.

Big HUG.

monitor the son bite swelling/inflammation/pain get to GP pronto

Sometimes it's good to have a bit of fisticuffs, just to once and for all make sure you are not going to have to put up with a cunt like your MIL again.

I hope she has a black eye.

what a dumbass thing to say

< yawn >

Good grief.

Take photos of your injuries. Assume you have a digital camera so you can ensure they have dates and times? Just in case MIL tries to claim either of you assaulted her (rather than her starting it and you acting in self-defence).

Oh, yes, using violence and force is so good for people.

Press charges, get a restraining order and never see her again (and if the rest of the family take her side then you are better off without them as well).

Sounds completely mental, do not engage.

Can I ask what kind of nurse she is in? If she is in care of the elderly, well I've had experience of my dad being cared for in a ward where the staff couldn't care less. My mum worked in wards where some of the nurses were downright vicious. For the sake of her patients she shouldn't be doing that job.