to have installed a pole dancing pole in my living room...?

[superv1xen]

been having lessons for months now and decided to get one put in at home!

its amazing for fitness and so much fun, i have really toned up since doing it and i am thinking of possibly teaching it from home if i get good enough. and dp enjoys watching me practise although i reckon the novelty will probably wear off soon

my mum did a bit of a "cats bums mouth" when she first saw it though and dp darent even tell his mum i have got one! haha

Incidentally, some of you might like to watch this

I didn't see anything there more suggestive than I have seen in gym competitions.

"Why does your DH enjoy watching you practice then? and with a 'wink'"

My DH likes watching me loading the washing machine in my pyjamas, or doing my hair in the morning, men are like that.

paisleyleaf - the same reason as I enjoy watching him play in his band (he plays drums in a rock band) - because he is good at it and looks hot doing it.

and porcelain, you are quite right, the moves are more gymnastic and not particularly suggestive.

haha yeah porcelain my dp likes looking at me whatever I am doing, it doesn't have to be anything particularly interesting or "sexy".

that youtube clip is great btw, I have saved it to my favourites and I am going to try and do some of the more complex moves, she is seriously good!

I have a friend who has installed a pole in her dining room. She's actually dismantled her dining room table to put it in there.

She is single, so no oggling DH, and uses it as a way of toning up - I have to say the results are fantastic.

To answer previous comments about women who pole dance buying into the objectification of women a la playboy etc, and normally being under educated, she has a 6 figure salary in a high profile job, is very intelligent and has managed to succeed in a very male orientated career. She just went to classes with a group of friends and enjoyed it, so wanted to be able to do it at home as well.

All you judgey pants out there - why do we have to accept the rule that exercising on a pole is inherantly misogynist? Why is it different to bopping up and down on a cross trainer? Do we have to accept the view that because something happens to originate in a stippers bar that it is forever off limits for normal decent people? That, despite it being a very difficult and effective form of exercise, it reflects on us negatively for using it?

I've never done it btw, I'd be crap, but a lot of you seem very closed minded. Although superv1xen seems like she was expecting that response anyway!

It's different to a X trainer, cos people don't open their legs and show their fanjo to the audience.

Least, they didn't do that last time I was at David Lloyd's.

Porcelain, you get all huffy when prostitution is mentioned in the same sentence, yet you said:

"As an aside, I also can't see how women who decide to make their living as pole dancers are being particularly hard done by. They are self-employed, choose where to work and who to dance for. I would be more worried about the poor guys being fleeced out of £20 for 3 minutes of seeing less flesh than you do on late night channel 5, or £100 plus an hour for a girl to chat to them while they buy drinks for her. Poor feckless bastards..."

Whether you have any problem with prostitution, exhibition, whatever, is completely up to you, but you cannot dispute that doing pole dances for money for strangers is still selling your body.

This is not the same as doing pole dancing exercises in you sitting room. Still tacky as hell, but for different reasons.

And OP, I think part of the reason for you installing it in your sitting room is because you want attention. Same reason why you posted it here.

Call me judgey if you want, I don't mind - you asked.

Ha Riven, my friend is doing major renovations - or so I thought - perhaps she's just gone a bit, uhm, hormonal since becoming pregnant.

Would pole dancing be such a popular form of exercise if men weren't paying women to do it for them in sex encounter establishments?

It's not just a form of exercise is it? It's a statement. To pretend otherwise is disingenuous.

"[The dangerous idea that] "feminism" means not having the right to choose what you do, how you dress, or how the dynamic between a woman and her partner works."

Yup that's feminism alright- supporting your right to gyrate round a pole in your vest and pants in the name of liberation

Dittany, your work here is done- how can you improve on this grasp of sexual politics? It's perfection.

My favourite bit so far:

"And perhaps if when they were older, and perhaps at a friends house, they did see such a video, then they would realise that the girls in the videos are real people, like their mum, and feel less inclined to objectify them."

Arf. Perhaps.

'It's different to a X trainer, cos people don't open their legs and show their fanjo to the audience.

Least, they didn't do that last time I was at David Lloyd's.'
Nonno Mum - that reminds me of the thread about the woman blow drying her fanjo at the gym.

I can't help but agree with MisSalLaneous, I have no problem with the keeping fit aspect, and you may tell yourself that that is all it is for to justify having it. Doesn't stop it being tacky and it looks like you're enjoying the attention and thinking it is cool and sexy, hence posting about it.

cool and sexy to have a pole in your living room

arf

I guess you could get an actual sexy Pole to stand in your living room if you're hard up. Still won't make you sexy, and might freak out the poor guy...

sal, good plan

I rather like Polish men

You'd have to show some effort and at least do a handstand or two. Otherwise you'll be, you know, closed minded.

(Oh, and by the way, the "you" was generic, of course "you" being AF is fabulous, pole/Pole or no pole/Pole! )

Just another thing to dust & polish

tether the first time i have ever laughed out loud at a thread - inspired!

I will never eat a grape again.

Whats wrong with a skipping rope fgs?

pmsl at Dittany: A cross trainer is not a great big phallic symbol to slide up and down on.

So true. Might as well paint it veiny and put two beanbags at the bottom. Make a real feature of it.

I agree that the kids are going to be revolted and embarrassed in retrospect. I remember seeing my mums contraceptive pill and being a bit at 11 years old. I think actual stripping equipment would definitely have put me off my dinner.

It's not empowerment really. If it were just about the exercise your OP wouldn't be so 'Carry On' in tone.

i dont really get it.

the op is doing something perfectly legal in the privacy of her own home, not for money, not for an audience, for herself as a form of exercise.

did anyone see the women on britains got talent? it looked like the kind of gymnastics you would see at any circus show, she didnt strip, she used the pole as a gymnast would use the bars or the beam. i see no problem with it, her home, her choice surely?

When pregnant I could burp better than a newborn baby. It made me feel better, so I guess I could argue it had health benefits. Perfectly legal, in my own home and all that.

But not even I could argue that it was good taste to share this marvellous talent of mine with the neighbourhood.

Some things should be kept private.