Hello,
Please could I get some help/guidance?
My daughter has multiple severe allergies (Anaphylaxis) to:
-eggs
-nuts
-peanuts
-dairy
-sesame
-lentil
-penicillin
She is due to start primary school this sept, she will be joining Reception. I've spoken to a senior member of staff at the school regarding my daughters allergies and they have informed me that they do not allow packed lunches. They seem very adamant about this..
Last year at her first nursery (who also banned packed lunch), they made a mistake and gave her dairy cheese which resulted in my daughter having a severe reaction and nearly dying. Obviously after all of this I want to avoid anything like this ever happening again. She's 4 years old and she trusts any adult that helps her, I want to provide her safe food from home and eliminate anyone 'giving' her food that could potentially cause her harm... It's a large school with 90 children in Reception so I just want to reduce the risks as much as possible but I feel like I'm fighting against the school and getting no where.
The staff member made a flippant comment that "it's like opening your door and being hit by a bus, you just never know what will happen" which is NOT the same as suffering from multiple severe allergies. I feel really alone in dealing with this and wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar?
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Multiple Severe Allergies + School Won't Allow Packed Lunches?
AllergyMumma · 07/06/2022 16:52
Palebluelily · 07/06/2022 17:03
The school needs to take your concerns seriously and it's hard to believe their stance on this. Most schools have robust policies concerning allergies.
You should speak to the headteacher, and if you get no proper response, go to the governors.
urrrgh46 · 07/06/2022 17:07
I would approach this from a disability point of view and special educational need. When a child has a special educational need or disability (schools use a wide view of what a disability is and no actual dx is required eg a child with asthma is disabled if the asthma disadvantages the child in relation to other children or how the child can participate in school) then they are REQUIRED BY LAW to make Reasonable adjustments for that child in order for them to participate fully int he education on offer. So I would argue that you providing a suitable lunch for her is a REASONABLE adjustment for her disability of severe allergy. I think you're entirely right NOT to trust the school to never make a mistake.
Innocenta · 07/06/2022 17:14
It's actually great they've already made one exception. That shows they will if pressured enough. You can get this exception made for your DD too.
A lot of kids have allergies but not all allergies are equally severe.
handmademitlove · 07/06/2022 17:15
I would ask them if they can 100% guarantee that all food served to her will be free of all allergens? How do they ensure mistakes are not made? They will not be able to make that assurance due to the possibility of human error. I would also, if I was being particularly difficult, ask if they have discussed the issue with their insurers? Then ask them to put everything in writing. Then contact the school nursing team for your area and discuss it with them. I would also ask about food used in class as part of the curriculum - this is where my children were given the wrong foods. Because the classroom staff were not trained in the same way as the lunch staff. So asking my DS if he eats porridge at home and him saying yes meant they gave him porridge. Except it wasn't the gluten free / dairy free version we fed him..... Ask to see the policies on managing allergies within school. Ask who will be trained in epipen use. Ask where they will be stored - because in the school office locked safely out of reach when the keyholder cannot be found is not a good answer!
Lentil63 · 07/06/2022 17:17
Go to your GP and ask them to write to the school too. Is it a state school? I suppose an independent school could argue that you were aware of the rules but they would also be very aware of litigation.
Write to the school yourself and set out exactly what your daughter is allergic to and the consequences of her coming into contact with these foods. Ask for reassurance that the school will 100% guarantee that she will not be exposed to these allergens, that they accept responsibility if she does and can ensure that there will be a person trained to administer her Epi-pen at all times.
They are being ridiculous and must surely relent. I hope you let us know the outcome. Good luck!
PS
My granddaughter who is vegan and lactose intolerant was given milk at school, you are right to be concerned.
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Innocenta · 07/06/2022 17:24
Keep escalating it if they keep being difficult. You're doing the right thing - your DD obviously has very serious allergies and you already have medical evidence.
You might need to make a plan to keep her lunch in a safe place. Perhaps in the school office? I think it's unlikely someone would tamper with it maliciously, but not impossible, especially if they don't understand how serious her condition is. Or she could have a locked lunch box.
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