Hello,
Please could I get some help/guidance?
My daughter has multiple severe allergies (Anaphylaxis) to:
-eggs
-nuts
-peanuts
-dairy
-sesame
-lentil
-penicillin
She is due to start primary school this sept, she will be joining Reception. I've spoken to a senior member of staff at the school regarding my daughters allergies and they have informed me that they do not allow packed lunches. They seem very adamant about this..
Last year at her first nursery (who also banned packed lunch), they made a mistake and gave her dairy cheese which resulted in my daughter having a severe reaction and nearly dying. Obviously after all of this I want to avoid anything like this ever happening again. She's 4 years old and she trusts any adult that helps her, I want to provide her safe food from home and eliminate anyone 'giving' her food that could potentially cause her harm... It's a large school with 90 children in Reception so I just want to reduce the risks as much as possible but I feel like I'm fighting against the school and getting no where.
The staff member made a flippant comment that "it's like opening your door and being hit by a bus, you just never know what will happen" which is NOT the same as suffering from multiple severe allergies. I feel really alone in dealing with this and wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar?
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Multiple Severe Allergies + School Won't Allow Packed Lunches?
AllergyMumma · 07/06/2022 16:52
Irridescantshimmmer · 07/06/2022 17:26
Tell the school that due to your daughter being at high risk of anaphylactic shock, she is covered by legislation ( Equality Act 2010)
Protected characteristics are fully covered so if I was you, I'd put my foot down with them.
Do not take no for an answer and tell them you are sending your little girl to school with a packed lunch for her own safety.
Don't let them walk all over both of you, so you will have peace of mind that your little girl is safe with them.
Innocenta · 07/06/2022 17:29
Also, can you push them to make sure that her classroom teacher and any other adults who are regularly around her will have completed epipen training? Not only do that they can administer it safely but also to underline for them how serious her allergies are.
urrrgh46 · 07/06/2022 17:09
Does you're DD have and EHCP? If so ask for an emergency review and get it written into the EHCP that you provide any food/drink your DD consumes.
becausetrampslikeus · 07/06/2022 17:01
My niece had a bad reaction to a school meal that was served to her in error because the cook didn't think the small amount would matter
And when staff change / go on sick they might not be aware of which child has a problem
Yes the letter should help - point out the medic is advising packed lunches so if they refuse to allow it they are disregarding medical advice
it then means it does not open any flood gates - only children with a previously diagnosed condition and a medical statement/ recommendation would be allowed packed lunches
Simonjt · 07/06/2022 17:34
A packed lunch would be a reasonable adjustment, allergies are covered under disability legislation.
My sons primary school have the same policy, they tried to stick to it but weren’t as rigid as yours, I asked the head to provide a signed letter stating that they wouls guarantee that my son wouldn’t be exposed to any of his two allergens, oddly enough they said no.
Stormchaser1502 · 07/06/2022 17:26
This is atrocious! From a fellow mum of a dc with severe food allergies, needing an epipen several times in school, you absolutely have a legal right to feed your child what you wish!
my dd was at a primary that set out to make all KS1 children have school meals. They couldn’t force this within ks2 due to the implications of compliance among all parents to pay for such a thing!
im assuming your school is along the same lines?
if school don’t listen, then take it to the disability section of education within County. This is definitely a disability and should be treated as such!
would they insist a diabetic have chocolate cake because the rest of the school were?! No! They’re being pig headed and ignorant
PastMyBestBeforeDate · 07/06/2022 17:50
I would start to follow up every conversation about this with an email asking them to confirm their decisions and reasons. You may need evidence of exactly what's been said so you don't have to keep having arguments about this.
Beees · 07/06/2022 17:07
They can't legally enforce this what happens when she no longer gets free school meals are you all expected to pay?
If they are being difficult I would honestly just be telling them she's having a packed lunch and that's the end of the conversation. Personally I'm amazed they have never had push back on this nonsensical insistance they have to all eat the same hot meal.
AllergyMumma · 07/06/2022 17:11
I think this is a good idea to approach it from the disability angle, I'm not too sure if she understands the severity of her allergies as I found the 'hit by the bus' comment really insensitive.
She says there is only one child in the whole school who has packed lunches and he is a non verbal autistic boy who refuses to eat anyone else's food...surely my daughter has a medical reason why school meals are not suitable as well. She was quick to point out there any many kids with allergies at the school and they manage them fine, but this is MY child and I'm not willing to see how it goes
urrrgh46 · 07/06/2022 17:07
I would approach this from a disability point of view and special educational need. When a child has a special educational need or disability (schools use a wide view of what a disability is and no actual dx is required eg a child with asthma is disabled if the asthma disadvantages the child in relation to other children or how the child can participate in school) then they are REQUIRED BY LAW to make Reasonable adjustments for that child in order for them to participate fully int he education on offer. So I would argue that you providing a suitable lunch for her is a REASONABLE adjustment for her disability of severe allergy. I think you're entirely right NOT to trust the school to never make a mistake.
AllergyMumma · 07/06/2022 17:39
no she does not. is this applicable to allergies...should I get one and if so how?
urrrgh46 · 07/06/2022 17:09
Does you're DD have and EHCP? If so ask for an emergency review and get it written into the EHCP that you provide any food/drink your DD consumes.
Caveydavey · 07/06/2022 17:54
OP you are being way too nice. Honestly way too nice. Do you have someone who is naturally erm assertive to take to your meeting? There really is no need to stand for this shit and you should be feel any gratitude that they might allow you rather white hot fury at their lack of respect for your daughter.
First put in an official and written
complaint about the comments from the member of staff. That wasn’t a bit ‘inappropriate’
that was hugely unprofessional and demonstrated a complete lack of awareness of safeguarding.
People don’t generally get hit by buses as they take precautions and beyond the comparison not making the point the speaker wanted it implies they see safeguarding your daughter as something that chance has a role in rather than management. That they used a comparison about accidental deaths to a mother whose child has nearly died because of an accident actually makes me angry for you. Send your complaint to the head teacher and the chair of governors. Do this because your complaint won’t mark you as a trouble maker but will ensure staff take better care of your child. I am a teacher. This shouldn’t be true but it can be, in some schools.
In the same letter:
Ask why they
are insisting that they won’t make a reasonable adjustment for your disabled child and ask them to confirm this in writing.
Ask them to confirm that they are planning to go against the recommendation of her allergy specialist.
Ask for their experience in feeding children with such multiple and severe allergies and ask them to provide you with a specific risk assessment.
Ask them what training they are planning for staff involved.
Ask whether they have consulted their insurers and whether the companies that provide the food have certified all food free if all possible contamination of all of the allergies.
Additionally,
thank them for reminding you of the security issue around all food and ask them how they intend to store your daughter’s lunch box to make sure she is safe.
Double check their policies for making all staff on site, including supply, aware of who your daughter is and check who has been trained in using the epi-pen and check where it will be kept.
Ask anything else you can think of.
Be angry and implacable. There is no need for this to happen. It’s not appropriate and any sensible school would be overjoyed that you will manage this for them.
I seriously question the ethos of a school commuted to policy rather than people.
Mummyoflittledragon · 07/06/2022 18:04
Your dd needs and EHCP. My dd has one for another reason. I imagine one for your dd would detail the allergies, what affect ingesting the allergens will have, and give the procedure for looking after your dd in the event of anaphylaxis.
AllergyMumma · 07/06/2022 17:39
no she does not. is this applicable to allergies...should I get one and if so how?
urrrgh46 · 07/06/2022 17:09
Does you're DD have and EHCP? If so ask for an emergency review and get it written into the EHCP that you provide any food/drink your DD consumes.
Innocenta · 07/06/2022 17:03
This is a reasonable adjustment for disability. Push them more firmly - it's absolutely unreasonable for them to say no. You have every right to insist on this for your DD's safety.
(Adult with multiple allergies and anaphylaxis, though I don't have DC.)
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MrsMariaReynolds · 07/06/2022 18:08
Family style meal time for reception-Y2 sounds like a cross-contamination nightmare waiting to happen. (I work in a primary school, during lunchtimes and see every day how easily things can go wrong) The mind baffles!
Stick to your guns, Op. I cannot believe a school would be so insistent on a no packed lunch policy that they aren't willing to accommodate your child's needs. I am so sorry :(
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