Calling Time on Wine - the next 100 days after the first 100 day reset | Thread 3: Continuing to support and navigate together.

[needastrongone]

As promised, a new thread.

As the title states, this is the third thread. It started for those of us who wanted some support and a safe place to navigate a 100 day alcohol reset. Most of us on the thread wanted more time and space than Dry January to fully reset and maybe reflect more on our relationship with alcohol than one month.

What we also found was the most wonderfully supportive and uplifting set of folk, all with the common intention of being AF from January for 100 days. A few blips along the way for some (including me at the beginning) but for those that have, we’ve tried to understand why they happened and most of us have continued to be AF going forward and managed 100 AF days since January.

We are going for another 100 (we all liked the idea of breaking being AF into chunks of time) and I don’t think it matters one bit if new folk want to climb on board and start from here, we can all offer a friendly and non judgmental place here.

@needastrongone also really sorry to hear about your friend

@Iamateadrinker same with the sweet stuff...but I definitely feel better in the morning after a night of chocolate than a night of wine...

Interesting news item this morning about delivery companies (woosh/deliveroo) etc delivering alcohol at a click of a button.. I was guilty of getting a woosh delivery which was my go to at 5pm almost daily. No need to go to the shop, more expensive but readily available. Whilst I appreciate an alcoholic would get booze regardless I do agree this is far too accessible for someone with a drink problem! Obviously this is a huge chunk of their business at threat but regulating it would make sense.

@therockingbird I would use whoosh regularly for my wine or drink of choice that day, I'd through some other groceries in so it looked normal (who was I kidding). It just made it easier not having to do the walk of shame to the shops. It definitely helped to increase my alcohol intake taking that barrier away.
I haven't used whoosh since I stopped drinking.

Also the 25% off 6 bottles of wine would always mean a binge week.

Oh yes the Whoosh delivery ordering loo roll and dog treats and two bottle of chicken wine.
Felt quite low this weekend - didn’t fancy a drink at all but I just know that friends are out doing stuff partying etc and I find I don’t get invited to stuff as much as I used to, I think I need to find sone new sober friends tbh.
Twenty weeks tomorrow for me and others the day after. 20! Well done us. For the new ones, first two months drags then I promise it starts to glide by

Morning everyone.

Thank you for the kind messages. The last I heard re our friend was yesterday morning, and that a scan was going to be done that day to assess for brain damage. I haven’t heard anything since, and I don’t like to keep messaging or asking - I remember from DH’s stroke that you're so overwhelmed anyway it’s like another pressure (in the nicest possible way, as folk really care obviously).

I heard that radio article re Whoosh (and similar) deliveries this morning. In fact, there was another one last week which was heartbreaking where a lady had lost her sister, whose alcoholism had escalated significantly when these had become available (I think they lived very remotely, which limited her drinking before then as much as it can do with this awful disease). I don’t think it should be up to delivery driver to assess whether someone is drunk or not, which is the excuse these companies are now using (that the same regulations apply re not serving someone drunk).

I haven’t used the delivery services for alcohol but definitely guilty of calling into various shops (often different ones to spread the guilt I guess) and buying other stuff as well. I’m shaking my head at myself looking back, if that makes sense?

I am also the same re having a sweeter tooth since stopping drinking. I run a lot and generally eat very well so I’ve gone with it but yep - it’s definitely increased. I suppose I’ll have to tackle it at some stage but I’m still at the ‘it’s way better than a bottle of wine a night’ phase!

@SwiftyFifty - it’s funny isn’t it, because you probably don’t want to go out boozing for hours these days, but it still stings at the omission. I’ve always had a huge part of my friendship and social group centred around running, where drinking just isn’t a big thing (very few totally sober folk but the vast majority drink very little, sensibly, special occasions etc). It’s funny how the mind set changes and you slip into their way of thinking, so yep - if you can find some social activities not focussed on being out socialising around booze, I’m sure that would help. ❤️

Morning all hope your weekends all went well xx we ended up cancelling our lunch with friends yesterday as there was some who were ill and secretly I was so pleased 😄 I had a lovely lazy afternoon watching rubbish TV with my youngest and we had a great time! I've definitely become a snacker since not drinking, and I am reaching for the chocolate in the evening but I don't mind at the moment if it means I'm not looking through the bottom of a glass every night I think it's worth it!!
Talking about our holiday last night and DH asked how I felt about having a drink while we are away, I immediately said "oh yes I will probably drink, I'm on my holiday!" And as I've said before I tend not to over drink while away, but I was thinking about it and I actually don't think I will drink, I think it would be pointless, why should I drink every night for a week when I'm really enjoying not drinking, what good is it going to do me!?

@SwiftyFifty I'm sorry you were feeling flat, could you arrange things for more early lunch time/ afternoon so you can go out and be social but come home when it gets to much, tbh I think it's a bit poor of your friends to be leaving you out, could they not perhaps do things that actually encourage and support you instead?
@therockingbird you did really well at your dinner party, was anyone else not drinking or just you? I bet you enjoyed the food more than anyone else because you could really taste it and have woken up feeling refreshed, and are not starting the week feeling a bit rough like if you had drunk yesterday, that's what I'm loving now , actually starting the week off in a good place x

Evening all! Day 135 here and I've got another 15 day streak under my belt/ 2 weekends. After drinking two weekends in a row it's a relief to have easily got another fortnight under my belt.

How I feel about drinking has changed so entirely that I've decided that I'm also going to give up vaping. Very early days with that but I'm hoping that much like the alcohol, it will just become something I used to do and won't consume my thoughts but I'm a long way off that. Reminding myself that it was like this with alcohol back in January so I can definitely do it 🫠

Hi all - checking in to say that May is not going well for me. I went for a promotion at work and didn’t get it despite preparing so hard and feeling I’d really earnt it after working really hard. I felt totally crushed and have been drinking most nights just for a bit of escapism and to try and forget about it. I know I should just “get over it” but I find it hard. I haven’t drunk tonight and am trying to get back on track. I have a social event at the weekend where everyone will be drinking, but I might just say to DH that I’m not going and he can take the kids if he wants. Hope everyone else is doing well x

Morning @freshstart2026 really sorry to hear about your promotion. It's a big disappointment especially when you've put so much effort into something. Did they give you any feedback or reasons?
Ive been knocked back for promotion in the past once I'd actually been doing the job on a secondment for nearly a year but still didn't get it. Ironically that position was made redundant so I'm actually better off in the one I'm doing now. I'm glad your still here and when you're ready you will finish those 100 days.
I'm on day 134 and I've saved over £1600 so technically I've given myself a payrise and put myself in the best personal position.
You can do this @freshstart2026 ❤️

Morning.

An update re our friend - they are stable and have been a couple of days now so they are going to try and reduce the sedation today.

I’m so sorry re your job @freshstart2026, how incredibly disappointing. Were you given feedback? Gently, you know the wine isn’t going to give you an escape, and it’s ultimately going to make you feel worse (been there too many times to count how this is the case for me). So well done on not drinking tonight. You are allowed to sit in your disappointment, totally fine. If you think going to the social event will mean you drink and you don’t want to drink, then absolutely stay at home. They will be a time when you can go and not drink.

Well done @Raindancer101 - the weekends AF feel ‘bigger’ than weeknight not drinking don’t they. Sounds like you’ve reset again but blimey it feels like a battle sometimes doesn’t it - that wine demon sitting on the shoulder encouraging you.

Still doing well too @PeacheyPeach!

@needastrongone sorry to read of your friend I do hope they make a full recovery back to health soon

Checking in still dry. Nothing to report really just plodding along with life.

Morning all
Sorry to hear about your setback with the job, @freshstart2026 it's so disappointing isn't it when we feel like we've given our best and we get our hopes raised, these are the times when we have to dig deep tho and think that drinking isn't going to change anything that's happening, it's about getting into our own head and dealing with it the best we can, you can do it, you've done it before and it's realizing what triggers you and preventing that trigger before It's even happened.
@Raindancer101 hope you're as successful with giving up the vaping as you are with this, you've got the willpower so you know you can do it, it's such a great mind set to be in xx
@Icecreamhelps wow that amount of money is amazing that you've saved, you need to treat yourself!!
@needastrongone glad to hear you're friend is stable, xxxx

I'm checking in on day 39 , it actually has flown by, usually in the past it's dragged but I can't believe how quickly the time is going x

Morning all xx
Checking in on day 40 for me , love getting to the end of the day and ticking off the stayed dry on the app it gives me a real sense of achievement!!
Hope everyone is doing ok x

congrats on 40 days Peachy. That's a really solid number. Pretty soon you'll have to add it up in your head rather than always knowing the number.

Well done on 40 days @PeacheyPeach 🎊

I haven’t checked in for a while but am still successful. Some really motivating updates on here
(apart from the heart attack one - hope all continues to improve there). I think it’s probably been about 11 days for me so far (doesn’t sound much but im
pleased) and I didnt drink more than twice a week before anyway but even that I could tell wasn’t doing me good. Not even massively fancying a drink now

@Uncertain111 hey lovely you are doing amazing, the first two weeks nearly done and they're the hardest I think so well done.

Well done @Uncertain111 you’ve got past the hardest hurdle! Keep focused and don’t let temptation take hold. Remind yourself often why you stopped in the first place. Eventually the thoughts of ‘just one’ disappear and the days rack up alcohol free. By day 30 you really can see a noticeable difference in your appearance - the puffy look disappears and the white eyes twinkle. Keep going my lovely xx

Well done @Uncertain111 your doing great.
I made a batch of switchel this morning to enjoy over the weekend. Really enjoying exploring different drinks its like making potions.
Made some cookies this morning but they were a bit squishy like cakes but my boys still woofer them down.
I went to visit my parents this evening it was lovely spending time with them and relaxing rather than clock watching so I could get home and sink a bottle of wine.
Hope everyone is well.