Calling Time on Wine - the next 100 days after the first 100 day reset | Thread 3: Continuing to support and navigate together.

[needastrongone]

As promised, a new thread.

As the title states, this is the third thread. It started for those of us who wanted some support and a safe place to navigate a 100 day alcohol reset. Most of us on the thread wanted more time and space than Dry January to fully reset and maybe reflect more on our relationship with alcohol than one month.

What we also found was the most wonderfully supportive and uplifting set of folk, all with the common intention of being AF from January for 100 days. A few blips along the way for some (including me at the beginning) but for those that have, we’ve tried to understand why they happened and most of us have continued to be AF going forward and managed 100 AF days since January.

We are going for another 100 (we all liked the idea of breaking being AF into chunks of time) and I don’t think it matters one bit if new folk want to climb on board and start from here, we can all offer a friendly and non judgmental place here.

Checking in
Thanks for the new thread

I’m here! My energy has returned and I’m so here for the next part of the challenge!

I’m here! Day 100 for me!
I genuinely don’t think I’d have got here without the last thread, so a huge thanks to everyone.
I’m not a good poster, but reading everybody else’s stories helped me to not feel alone xx

Thanks for the new thread @needastrongone day 100 for me 🥳 I honestly can't believe it, it's honestly down to you amazing people and such a great thread 🥰 I am hoping to be more active on this thread.

Here's to the next 100 days and whatever they may bring

Day 100!! I can't believe it. This has been a transformative time of my life. Thanks to everyone on the first two threads - you are why I am here.

Thanks especially to @therockingbird who started the last thread and thanks to @needastrongone for this one. onwards!

Hello! Checking in on day 101 alcohol free! Thanks for the new thread @needastrongone

Still undecided how the next 100 days looks for me but marking my place anyway. Today is 101 and will be another dry one.

Joining a little early as on day 96 but planning to push on.

I can't believe how much better I feel and happier I am not drinking . Currently no intention to return

Checking in on day 100 :)
@needastrongone thanks for the new thread x

Great to hear, @SwiftyFifty

Checking in end of day 95 just got in from my first concert sober, had an amazing time danced all night.

Hello all, I'm here and on day 112. I'm still avoiding socialising as its not safe for me to be around temptation but maybe that will change after another 100 days. If it doesn't, it's probably a sign I need to make some non drinking friends.

@Yearoftheskin i was feeling the same as you and not really socialising. Last night helped me turn a corner. Fortunately the friend I was with doesn't drink but there were plenty of people out drinking I was worried I would be too tempted to drink but I was fine. It was interesting seeing people change as the drink to hold. I'm up now feeling great ready for work.

Morning all. This thread has such positive vibes as we applaud each others progress. I love that we are all excited to continue - who would have thought that when we started!
I was thirsty when I got home last night from work and popped to the shops for a coke and a bottle of sparkling water! I can’t imagine buying a bottle of wine or drinking one even at this stage and I really hope that continues!
I need to now focus on trying to lose a few pounds- can’t keep eating whatever I want as “ I’m not drinking”

Morning.

Glad you’ve all found and joined the thread.

I celebrated 100 days with a 5k race last night!! It didn’t start until 7.30pm so by the time I’d driven home, showered eaten etc there was no chance of me sleeping well. I’d probably have ‘rehydrated’ with a glass of wine in previous years but settled on water and then a hot chocolate and therefore pee’d all night too!!!

Re socialising, I guess folk have to do what’s necessary for them and that’s the important bit. They talk about this on the They Think it’s All Sober podcast. One of the hosts continued his old life, so to speak - got by on AF beers etc, the other needed the time and space away. Both say their friendships have changed but not necessary for the negative - some existing ones have deepened and new ones have formed. But yes, some of the ones around drinking have drifted but that’s made them reflect on that fact too.

@Yearoftheskin would any of your friends be up for a walk or daytime coffee or similar? I’m kind of lucky I guess in that a lot of my socialising is around the dinner table with friends or family who don’t have the same relationship with alcohol, or dog walks or with a pair of running trainers on.

Glad you had a great time @Icecreamhelps - on the few occasions where I’ve been ‘out out’ and not been drinking in the last 100 days, I’ve had much deeper and more enjoyable conversations than when I was pissed! Not that a concert is that sort of venue!!

We are having a quiet weekend doing some family related stuff, so I should be ‘safe’!

Morning @SwiftyFifty - it’s so strange but brilliant isn’t it how much we’ve progressed from just 100 ish days ago. I must read the first few weeks of thread one occasionally to remind myself of this fact. I think you were right not to overload yourself in terms of trying to be AF and look at your eating habits, too much overwhelm and I’d press the fuck it button!

I’ve just unfollowed Ian Callaghan. I get my strength from here these days and he’s boring me!

Morning all, today will be a test of sorts! Weekend home alone (teens still on holiday with their dad) I’m at the rugby club later today for a game (I’m the photographer). There will be celebrations afterwards as it’s the final match of the season for the team - big burly men drinking no doubt. I won’t socialise afterwards and quietly make my exit. ☺️ Surprised how fine I’ve been about the boys being away - was sure I’d hit the wine , it just hasn’t happened which is amazing! I simply cannot drink again in my head, the off switch is broken in me so it’s a hard no. So lovely to see you all following on from previous threads, what a wonderful little community we’ve built. Have a great weekend all x

@Icecreamhelps that's good to hear as I've got 2 concerts coming up in the summer and I wasnt sure about going but I might feel differently in a few months.
@needastrongone Its been a real eye opener for me, realising now how many of my friends and family are drinkers and its difficult upsetting the status quo. I think that's why I'm avoiding it. Walks are a good idea though.
@SwiftyFifty I know what you mean about IC, this thread is a more real and less preachy!

I feel the same way! But it was his posts that you so helpfully included in the early days that got me to stick with sobriety. But in the last month or so he has just gone too far with the midlife stuff and menopause advice lol! (I unfollowed him when he made a comment on wearing flip flops because it reminded him of the sounds of having sex I clutched my pearls and hit unfollow)

96 days sober and just started losing weight this week, and I am finally sleeping throughout the night too hurrah

@IjustbelieveinMe I missed the nugget re IC. Hilarious! He really does have an opinion on everything

@IjustbelieveinMe the flip flops comment 🤣 I’ve just had a symbolic moment I needed to share.. been faffing in the kitchen pantry all day building shelves. Made a right old mess but hey ho! As I’m sorting through kitchen cupboards suddenly a full (unopened) bottle of Tanqueray gin fell out and smashed 🫣 the irony is ExH bought said bottle of gin for me for Christmas presumably from the boys. I just shut it away and forgot about it! Now my kitchen stinks on gin.. anyway it’s gone, not that I was ever tempted to drink it.

Morning all, are you accepting newbie’s? Day 1 for me today. I would like to get 100 days dry because I’m tired. Tired of the hangovers and feeling rough. Tired of thinking about drinking. I need a break.

Morning all.

Had to laugh at the irony of the smashed gin bottle @therockingbird! You are doing so well with the DC being away.

@HeadingforaHundred - we absolutely would love extra company, join us! We have all felt exactly those same things. Most of us have had a few attempts at stopping too, so it’s not like we’ve all just miraculously managed to navigate 100 days just like that! For me, I moderated last year - got fed up of still thinking about drinking all the time - but more negotiating how many units or days I was going to allow myself that week - then decided just this was just as exhausting as fully stopping. That said, I’m glad I did do some moderating last year as I got a bit more time and space to figure why I drank, why I didn’t want to drink and what my triggers were.

I’ve linked the first thread - just for you to see that whatever you’re feeling now, we’ve all felt!

I finally listened to the last episode in the series of They Think it’s all Sober pod this morning. It’s quite long, but you’d all be safe just listening to the last 45 minutes or so - as that’s where it gets really thought provoking. They had the CEO of Alchohol Change on as a guest. He’s not an advocate of full sobriety (although now sober himself) , more changing folks relationship with alcohol (which may include full sobriety over time). One phrase stuck - ‘we are Whooshing our way to very many early deaths from alcohol’ - referring to the fact you can literally get more booze delivered in ten minutes, without regulation, if you run out these days.

I had a mild craving last night but I think it was more because it was Saturday night, I wanted a trigger to relax for the evening and I was a bit knackered.

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