Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

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Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

I know what you mean, the battle can be exhausting sometimes. I really hope your DD is okay and home soon 💐

I appreciate it’s easy to be despondent but 63 days in the grand scheme of an adult life packed with booze (if you’re anything like me) is not a long time. You must also be incredibly stressed and worried which makes those urges even stronger. You are doing great 💪

Morning.

@2026x - weirdly, I hadn’t thought about it like that - I was thinking how LONG 2 months sober is - and actually - it’s nothing compared to the time I spent drinking. We expect miracles too from this short sober time, and I’ll keep this in mind. Thank you.

@Hedjwitch - I completely understand. But the bottom of the wine glass is likely to make you feel worse rather than better, especially when you’re doing so well. Fingers crossed for your daughter.

That’s brilliant @BitOfFun2026on BOTH counts - and both bits of positivity will help - new job and not drinking. Awesome!

@needastrongone I also have a tendency to expect things to improve immediately! However, the more I understand about how alcohol impacts our body, the more I appreciate that even once the alcohol has gone, we are different following years of unhealthy / dysfunctional drinking. Our brains have been rewired to some extent. You can rewire it back again but it takes time. I've never been very patient but right now I am so grateful to be on the journey that I (mainly) don't mind. I have moments of frustration but life it already pretty good and most importantly, I have reversed the trend and I am moving in the right direction. I'm not killing myself anymore.

I think you recommended "They think it's all sober"? Have you listened to yesterday's episode? 😱It's with Gary Lineker's brother - his story is terrifying.

It's raining here and it's 3 degrees 😒

This is potentially outing if anyone on here was in the local shop just now and heard me tutting.
A miracle has just occurred!
I called for some veg and thought I would get an AF beer for tonight as a treat.
Not one to be had.
Not one.
I scoured the beer, lager, wine, spirit sections focused on finding my grail.
Not once did I feel regret/ sadness/ longing for the real deal.
Unthinkable before I started this " challenge".
Honestly I had the same emotions as I would have had going down the baby aisle.. just wasn't interested as it wasn't relevant to me.
However it does show that we have a long way to go as a society when out of maybe a couple of hundred different items there wasn't one AF option. No doubt the company would say there isn't the call for it..well there won't be if they don't offer anything, obviously I won't try there again.
By the way this is a medium sized supermarket, not a corner shop.
But well done me 😄
Thanks to everyone on this thread

@needastrongone @Hedjwitch

I just saw a quote from a friend of mine who is sober, "The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit. Be patient and keep watering."

Thought it was apt to our conversation

Just listened to the Wayne Linekar podcast. He still sounds really ill to me. Interesting how his body or immune system went into total shut down after he gave up. He used to drinks loads and think he’s working in the wrong environment to be sober long term. I can’t even spend longer than two hours in a pub imagine being in night clubs every night!
One of the presenters said it took the full 100 days before he got his spring back! So I’m hopeful in a few weeks for a pay off lol. Notice I said a few weeks- that’s all it is now folks but I am going to carry on for a bit longer, I can’t actually imagine pouring mysekf a glass of wine now. Think I have shut it out of my mind. I am also planning things for early October ( family stuff) and thinking well I won’t be drinking then. Good sign I hope

@SwiftyFifty As I was listening to him talking about going back for part of next season I was thinking.... really??? That doesn't sound very sensible to me😳

Hopefully, for his sake, he finds a way to stay sober whatever he does.

@SwiftyFifty @2026x I hope with sobriety Wayne Lineker finds his behaviour changes too, the way he leches over very young women is embarrassing. I used to love going to O Beach when I was younger but the last couple of times it was full of drugs, people fighting, girls being harassed and people so drunk that I saw one girl literally squat and pee in the middle of the dancefloor - not really the sort of environment for someone to get sober!

@BitOfFun2026

😱

Sorry to put a downer on things but it’s Friday night and I’m a tad fed-up TBH. I’ve come so far, I deserve a glass of wine to relax on Friday night, is how I’m feeling right now. Plus I have two social occasions this weekend and am dreading them sober - I’m just not looking forward to the weekend at all. Sigh.

I feel fed up too today. Ive had a hard week, argument with DP, crap going on at work and overeating plus lack of exercise.
Must get back on track tomorrow!

At least I have no social occasions though! Good luck!
(athough I had a nice dinner out last Friday and really enjoyed myself without booze (admittedly was just with 3 friends and over dinner is much easier).

Amazing! :)

I’m feeling the same tonight! Could have gone to the pub but felt like “ what’s the point”
I don’t really want to drink ( at all) but just want something to improve the mood etc.
We ll feel good tomorrow - no highs but no lows I think it’s just getting used to that

I'm also a bit bored tonight and have had a mad week at work. Im not craving alcohol but I do want to break the boredom and alcohol would do that. I've ran out of nice sparkling drinks and face masks so I've ordered some cawston press cans to try and more fancy masks.

Triggery evening here too for similar reasons to others: felt like I needed a lift and a reward for a long stressful week!

Thanks for all the kind words re redundancy.

Gosh seems like a bit of a glum night for many of us.

I actually felt upbeat earlier this week, especially with the lovely sunshine - looking to put into action some of my learnings from Sarah Rusbatch's Beyond Booze (which I finished this week).
It's such a positive and uplifting book with so many great ideas on how to have an enjoyable life without booze..

But im so bloody tired in the evenings all I want to do is flop. I just don't know how to energise myself...

I feel ok tonight despite making some big slip ups this week in work. I'm consciously giving myself the grace that I extend to others, its OK to get some stuff wrong. But I've been treating myself to loads of skincare as a pick me up and I need to reign it in favour of some free things. Roll on the light nights and after dinner walks.

Well, a few hours later and I’m now in bed and very glad I didn’t drink! It’s that same old cycle isn’t it - really wanting a drink, riding it out and then feeling relieved you resisted when you come out the other side. I am curious about whether it goes away. Given the amount I was previously drinking, I think for me it will probably get weaker but never disappear entirely.

I’ve woken early on day 66 after another glorious unbroken sleep. It’s hard to believe I woke up every. Single. Night from about 2-5am when I was drinking. I honestly don’t know how I got through the day!

I’m not looking forward to my two social occasions this weekend but I know I won’t drink. I’m not sure if that’s due to sheer willpower or a habit that’s been formed - strangely I can’t tell. It does feel like it might be the latter.

What has everyone else got planned this weekend? Wishing you all a good one!

Went to bed early as was bored and fed up. Didn’t quite the the sleep I was hoping for due to ds being out til four and I just can’t sleep properly when he is out. He s 19 does that ever change!?
I was in a good mood earlier in the day but just felt low later but not necessarily attributable to not drinking I guess. Just boredom,
Today and tomorrow I am going to the cinema. Never used to like it but seems to be my social life these days. I am losing a little bit of weight slowly now down about 5.5 pounds since Xmas but I have been consciously eating less too
Anyway another wet day to contend with. Hope we are not feeling glum again tonight!

Just wanted to say I'm still here! Not had a drink now for ages and now not missing it. Enjoying being sober and barely think about it usually. As long as I have something to drink in the evenings that's not water, I'm happy enough.

Day 61, feel OK the quality of my sleep is my biggest motivation. @freshstart2026 I honestly don't know how I was functioning before.

@Hedjwitch you must be so worried about your DD how are they have you heard from them?

@SwiftyFifty I know the feeling of waiting for them to get home, it has passed for me. My youngest DS who's 20 got home at 3am but I was fast asleep.
It's my weekend off nothing major planned, mostly relaxing with my book and some housework.

To anyone who’s had a blood test… I was told I’d get the results in five working days, so Monday. I have to ring the GP surgery apparently but do you not get the results in writing? I’d much rather see it properly set out on paper than just be told over the phone by a brusque receptionist!

Mine got posted in the nhs app. Do you have this if not download. I got text messages as they arrived so I could go in and check