Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

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Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

DD has flight on Wednesday if it doesn't get cancelled. I'm hoping my recent wobbles will go away once she's back and I can get back on top of things. Thanks for the support,much appreciated.

Thanks @SwiftyFifty . I do have the app but nothing yet. I’m feeling a tad nervous!

I hear ya. Keep your eye out in the app. I got my bloods via swift queue not at my doctors so unsure if that’s why the difference. Make sure you have a pen and paper ready when they call! I would want to know all my results not just a generic “ all ok” type thing. Keep us posted!

Thanks @SwiftyFifty. If they’re too rushed on the phone I might ask for the full results in writing - but will they do that do you think?

If they don't you can still go down with ID and ask for a print out of the results

Not drinking has turned me into much more of a yes mum. I think because I'm not spending out on wine I'm like fuck it why not and I'm also still mad for sugar in a way that I wasn't when drinking, so it suits me too 😂 I'm not sure it's the greatest for the kids considering we've just bought 3 packs of ice creams and sweets and other stuff🙈 But we're having fun and it's nice not being a hungover no parent all the time on weekends.

Evening all! I hope you are all having a good Saturday. So, I went out for dinner this eve (early obviously, given I am already home). The restaurant was a drive away and normally I’d be a bit preoccupied in the run up about who would drive. Sometimes I’d offer to drive just to stop my mind racing about whether my OH would offer or whether I should ask if he could drive (obviously never wanting to sound like I was that bothered 😂). Typically if I offered to drive, he’d go ‘yeah ok’ but then proceed to have one pint of weak beer 🤯. Anyway today, I knew I wasn’t going to drink and it was so liberating not worrying about the driving issue. I didn’t drink, he actually didn’t drink either but i wasn’t thinking about it at all. Back home with an infusion getting ready for an early night. My toddler is not sleeping well at the moment so I’m knackered 😴

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@Raindancer101I'm terrible for the treats (because I want them for myself 😂). My OH never really buys them sweets but they know I’m a soft touch. My eldest (4), will beckon me to the sweets aisle in the supermarket and say ‘mummy, they’ve got those sweets you like! Would you like to get some?” Knowing I’m obviously going to get him something too if I get some for myself 😂 I can’t help but admire his strategy

Thanks @Notbwinetimeitsmyprimetime.

One social occasion down, one to go. We met friends in the pub and most others were drinking. I stuck to the Guinness Zero and mostly chatted to another mum I know quite well who didn’t drink much. It was actually better than I was expecting and I’m proud of myself for getting through it.

Morning old friends 👋

In case anyone noticed I’d disappeared (probably not!), just wanted to pop in and confess that I’m officially a fallen comrade. I do feel disappointed in myself, but must acknowledge that being part of this group seems to have significantly shifted my mindset and - most importantly - broken my zombie-ish, unthinking daily drinking habit.

We are 66 days into the year and I’ve had a drink on 9 of them. Which is 9 too many, but still a lot better than 66! I still don’t drink during the week, even if I’m socialising, and generally speaking I’m managing to be quite circumspect about the amount I have at weekends, actively stopping after 1-3 glasses and definitely before I’m into certain hangover territory. I always have plenty of alternatives to hand, and quite often find I’ve poured myself a big soft drink at the witching hour without even thinking about it. So maybe - maybe? - I’m feeling a bit better equipped to moderate, but only time will tell.

I found @freshstart2026’s calendar breakdown for last year really interesting (keeping one of my own now to keep myself accountable), and the likelihood of gathering momentum across the year will be a big watch out for me, but I’m hoping I have the tools to self-regulate and be very honest with myself if it’s not working. Thin ice, I know. Maybe I’ll be back on here with a vengeance in a month or so!

I’m still lurking on the thread (didn’t for a while because I felt so shame-faced), and still picking up tips and information, but mainly to cheer you all on from a distance - I feel so proud of every milestone you reach. I’ve found huge value in the community, support and wisdom here, and wish the very best for all of you x

Morning.

I have now listened to the podcast with Wayne Linkeker on it. I found it interesting. My takeaway was why the hell is he going back out there this early in his recovery? That didn’t seem the wisest move to me, especially given what happened when he went back previously. To your point @BitOfFun2026, sounds grim about O Beach - obviously that’s an extreme example but it sort of makes you realise what drink/drugs etc does - we all think we are being hilarious and gregarious and having a great old time and in reality - we are kind of just embarrassing ourselves and behaving in a way that would make us cringe when sober of if we were being filmed.

Re the blood test results, @freshstart2026- I got my last lot done privately, but I did then put them into Chat GPT and it gave me a good analysis. I do an awful lot of training, so I put that into the equation when I asked it to analyse them as some of the harder efforts I do can affect certain markers. Might be worth a try, the nhs do upload them onto the App too.

Good to see how folk have navigated the social situations better than expected! We had a family meal yesterday but I wasn’t tempted either. I’m particularly pleased about this as I’d done my long run that morning and the evening of that I often get a huge trigger as I feel I deserve a wine. I feel so much better for going to bed fully hydrated.

Cross posted with @EnjoythemoneyJane. You’ve done brilliantly. You’ve hopefully rewritten how you allow alcohol into your life. Tracking the consumption seems like a good idea to notice patterns. It sometimes takes time to be mentally prepared to be fully sober, even if that’s your ultimate goal, or not!. I think it took me all of last year doing some of the ‘work’ I needed to do on myself and have a few months of moderating (which did creep up for me, but I did need that period to cut back significantly and do a lot of thinking) before getting to this place. Not sure I’d have been able to just go cold turkey, so to speak.

Not sure I’d reason why you can’t contribute still though! X

Thank you @needastrongoneagain

I’m not sure I’d have the cheek to keep posting when I’ve definitely toppled off the wagon, but staying in touch with this thread is really helpful for me, just to keep me focussed and mindful about what, when and why I’m drinking - remembering how far I’ve come and how much I stand to lose by sliding back into familiar old habits.

Which sounds a bit grandiose, given I’ve basically just done Dry January 😂, but I really do feel there’s been a rewiring somehow, which I hope I can keep building on.

Of course you can still post again @EnjoythemoneyJane you fe still done 50plus days which is amazing! This thread is us trying to do 100 days it’s certainly not exclusive, we missed you!

@EnjoythemoneyJane I'm another one like @needastrongone who moderated part of last year which has helped me now. I'm in my 50s and have never been successful previously in attempts to control my drinking. It really resonated with me when previous posters were talking about how you can't expect immediate fixes when you've been drinking for years. You've not drunk for 50days this year and actively thought about your drinking and that's a really positive change. Be proud!

Good morning all, day 68 for me.. unbelievable! I’m not missing it bizarrely. I am loving the sleep, the feeling of a clear head in the morning and my skin is looking far better than it has in years!! I had a social situation to navigate this week at work - chose an mocktail and didn’t have to explain myself. Fortunately I didn’t overthink it beforehand, had one mocktail and went on my merry way sober and proud. Tomorrow is my birthday - I’m not one for cracking open the fizz on special occasions so it should go by without too much fuss. @EnjoythemoneyJaneyou've done a stellar job and should be proud. Don’t vanish from the group because you’ve had a couple - your mindset has clearly changed as you’ve managed to control what you’re drinking. Not everyone is going to hit the 100 days and that’s absolutely fine. I’m still thinking that the 1 year goal is doable. . Getting through the summer alcohol free is something that I want to try and achieve. I have chosen warmth and peace today - normally I’m on the rugby pitch in the rain. Happy Sunday all xx

Hello everyone! Some great results all around, even managing to moderate from being an every day drinker is an amazing accomplishment. Well done everybody!
Day 67 for me, two thirds of the way through this first challenge, and I am still planning to continue afterwards. I’m curious to see if I can make it through the summer as it’s when I really enjoy drinking.
I’m feeling a bit more energised now after feeling slightly off it through January and February, but I was also dieting, so it could’ve been that.
I don’t know if anyone else checks, but I wear an Oura ring and an Apple Watch (I’m a bit of a victim with gadgets 🤣) and my resting heart rate has dropped from 62 to 52 since December which is quite incredible given that my exercise routine hasn’t changed.

I'm back to Day 1 again 😔Should probably move on to a different thread. It was a friend's 40th and I did take the car but ended up leaving it. The trigger this time was a series of shitty messages from a situationship partner basically calling me fat (Because I'm now a size 8 and not a 6 due to the calories I was drinking). Off to go and beat myself up a bit more now

You 're not at Day 1. You can't undo all the dry days you.just did. They still count. I've had a wobble too and lost a couple of days but I'm.damned if I'll write off the 60 good ones that came before.

@BonosToupee - same! Give me a health metric I can measure and I’m there for it. 😊 It’s actually one of the things that motivates me the most, looking after my long term health, and trying to negate any further damage that I may have done already. My sleep score on my Garmin is consistently in the 90’s now and my HRV has improved (although I’m marathon training, so probably fitter too). The drop in your RHR is remarkable and very motivating I assume?

@BitOfFun2026, I think @Hedjwitch likely has a more realistic approach to any blips. They don’t negate the dry days and starting at Day 1 every time we do slip would completely demotivate me personally. It’s a ‘journey’ etc etc. You don’t give up an entire diet because you ate a biscuit.

That said, I’m thinking you probably feel twice as crap now. Physically, because you have a hang over and mentally because you drank so you aren’t feeling great about yourself either. We’ve all been there. Well done for identifying the trigger (the messages) - can you now work on what you do next time this trigger happens? You could sit with the feelings of hurt and anger and then decide that you can’t control the contents of the message, but you can control how you react to it or to the person that sent it. Or you could acknowledge you’re hurt, sit with the emotion, then choose to distract yourself perhaps with a more positive alternative. We all know that the answer isn’t at the bottom of the glass, but that said, we all have to be ready to figure out the alternative, and that happens when we are ready and not before.

I’m drinking Hip Pop Komboucha, using a wine glass! This is because all the tumblers in the house are either dirty or broken but it does make it feel more sophisticated!

Thank you @needastrongone that's much appreciated. I'm hoping that I won't face those kind of messages next time I decide to get involved with someone! (I did make a thread about his diet/exercise obsession and didn't take the advice but he's now blocked regardless - after I called him a Temu Joe Wicks first!)

Doesn’t sound like he exactly adds anything to your life @BitOfFun2026but who am I to judge?? 😊

Oh he's completely gone now! I think he thought there was more to it than there actually was, and I don't want someone like that in my life.I'm chatting to someone else anyway with a view to meeting soon. I also managed to fall over last night and now have a bruise on my face... that will take some explaining at work tomorrow! (Reminding myself of that in future every time I feel like having a drink!!!!)

Good to hear from you @EnjoythemoneyJane - I always enjoyed your posts and was wondering where you’d got to! Please don’t be a stranger, it sounds like you’ve really overhauled your habits, which is a huge achievement. And you’ve had dozens of dry days too!

Day 67 for me and am doing okay. Second social situation was postponed due to illness so I was quite relieved! Looking forward to my weigh-in tomorrow and hopefully getting my blood test results (though this is also making me nervous).

Thanks @freshstart2026! Hope everything goes well tomorrow - it sounds like you’ve done brilliantly with all the changes you’ve made this year (definitely better than I have!) so I’d be amazed if it doesn’t pay off for you with some reassuring test results x