Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

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Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

Good Morning it day 90 for me. Storm Dave battered my garden last night and it's currently pouring down here.
@freshstart2026 well done on the weight loss goal. Also lovely to hear from you. I don't think I've lost any weight yet, in fact I think I've put weight on. I went shopping for clothes the other day and saw myself in a full length mirror I've definitely put on a few pounds. I'm going to figure out how to use my digital scales today and see where I'm at because I know I'm eating more.

@Hedjwitch sorry to hear your struggling, but Im glad your still here posting and wanting to get back on track. It was around this time last year I lapsed so I'm really conscious that right now so still just saying to myself I'm not drinking today.
@needastrongone I'm looking forward to the next 100 day thread, from everything I've read it's between 90 and 120 days is where our cognitive function and all the rewiring of our neural pathways shows the benefits.

Wishing everyone a lovely Easter Sunday 🐰 🐣

Happy Easter to you all. Checking in on day 96! Wow 🤩 @Hedjwitch keep posting and remember why you started in the first place, it’s ok to have a wobble - we are all here rooting for you! The next 10 night will be tough for me. The boys go away with their dad today.. I’ve never been apart from them more than one night! It will not break me - I will keep posting and also keep myself busy. Plenty of diy that needs my attention so that’s what I’m going to focus on! I’m still in disbelief I’ve got this far - I will not break this amazing effort because I’m going to be rattling around the house alone. I plan on keeping busy, seeing friends and having a good declutter. Have a great Sunday all. xx

I have been watching this and reading about you all since 6th Jan! Today is 90 days for me. The early days were helped with the Ian C posts that gave me awareness of the cravings and the reasons behind it. Something clicked in my head and my one bottle of red a day habit stopped. I haven’t lost weight, but in the last week my sleep has been incredible with the most intense dreams. I am also able to cope better with my very demanding micromanaging boss without the booze. It’s changed my life.
Thank you all for sharing your journeys, I will be signing on to the 100 day thread and if I am still lurking please know you are heard.

Well done! Don’t lurk ☺️ we are a lovely supportive bunch. I’m also having bizarre dreams.. it’s. Taken a while to get back to a normal sleep schedule but most definitely worth it.

Great to hear you’ve found a palatable substitute! Have a fabulous holiday.

I drank on my mums trip. I’d planned to drink because it was going to be a huge struggle with my social anxiety otherwise. But I’m still so angry with myself and feel hungover and horrendous.

@freshstartdon’t be. You have been an inspiration and you had one blip in nearly a 100 days. Ok it will take you a day or two longer to get there now but just forget it and crack on.
was it just one? How did you feel during and after?

@SwiftyFifty it was a boozy mums trip so there were multiple bottles of prosecco, wine, cocktails etc (not all consumed by me lol). I don’t know how much I personally had but would estimate just over a bottle of prosecco/wine and a couple of cocktails. The hangover was horrendous. I drank the next day too but had that thing where I was so hungover that I didn’t feel drunk IYKWIM.

I really need to work on my social anxiety. I have had it all my life. Alcohol just helps me open up and feel less boring.

@freshstart2026 please be kind to yourself a small blip doesn't undo all your great achievements so far. Plenty of water and a early night should get you feeling better tomorrow. You have already reflected and learned from your time away that will help you next time.

@freshstart2026 just a bump in the road, you’ve learnt your lesson by the sounds of it. You’ve come so far, don’t let this be more than what it is - a minor mishap. Hopefully you’ll feel better tomorrow.

@freshstart2026 hope you're feeling a bit better, hangovers are not fun. I hope you had a nice time away and it hasn't ruined it for you. A few drinks and a hangover don't negate all the prior sober days.

@freshstart2026 i echo everyone else saying don't beat yourself up about this. I don't think I could have done such an event sober either - at least not for now.
Hope you feel better tomorrow. You really have done amazingly well and the weight loss is amazing.
(I'm still stuck at around 6 pounds down, and I do feel better for it but feels like slow progress with developing and keeping to good eating habits.

That said, whilst I did scoff a load of chocolate today, I did also go to the shop for some last minute bits including 2 bottles of wine for visiting family (who we were not expecting before but decided to pop in on way home from holiday - a very welcome surprise actually, they did call before!) - served multiple drinks over long lunch and not once had any desire to drink and was happy with one can of Trip and a lot of peppermint tea later on (have found the Aldi peppermint pyramid ones are really nice BTW).

Oh god @freshstart2026 I could easily drink all that, did regularly and fear as soon as I get the taste for it I will dive straight in but the hangover is the thing I fear. Hope you feel better soon. It doesn't undo the fact you've done 3 months without alcohol! Many of us joined with the aim to reset rather than permanently abstain.

I'm on day 96 but I'm woman down so it doesn't feel like something to celebrate. I expected to arrive at 100 days glowing and feeling a million dollars so I'm feeling extra sorry for myself at the irony because a hangover would be better than this. It's only a bad cold but it's completely put me on my arse. Then again, it's probably put me off drinking for another few weeks because I can't face feeling hungover so soon after being unwell, so every cloud and all that.... 😂

I'm slightly struggling with thoughts of camping trips and summer hols without booze though. This was my downfall last year ( I was still going strong at this point in the year). I'm hoping things will pan out differently this year but there's a lot of things I need to work on still..
Defo up for the next thread though and hope lots of us will be on it!

@Raindancer101 sorry to hear about the cold - my in laws are here with us both with hacking coughs so I fear I may come down with something - no signs of having caught it yet tho.
Do you at least have a quiet day ahead tomorrow so you can relax and rest?
MyDP is working so I'll be taking the in laws and kids out somewhere - but needs to be a cheap day out as have spent a small fortune on food for the last 2 days!!

@freshstart2026 like others said one small blip is nothing. onwards and upwards.

I found today surprisingly hard tbh. I hosted easter dinner - absolutely lovely day, lovely food, lovely family - but I hadn't realised this was my first big family holiday dinner since I stopped drinking and I usually drank quite a bit - latterly (like xmas) mostly in secret. Half of us weren't drinking at all but some were having cocktails (I had an AF one as did SIL), beer and wine. I found myself thinking a drink would be nice but I stayed on the AF beer and am glad I did.

At one point I was teasing BIL who was drinking wine about counting his cards wrong in the game we were playing. My son said "in fairness mum you have done that too" and I realised that there were years when we were playing games and I was sozzled and making mistakes. Glad this wasn't one of them.

Thanks all. I wish I’d never gone on the trip as I know I’d have reached 100 days if I hadn’t. OTOH we did “make memories” and new friends.

I’m actually looking forward to tomorrow, going back to work and getting back to my routine.

Morning.

Sorry I’ve been MIA the last few days. Like a few of us on here, in my infinite wisdom I decided to host Easter and cook everything from scratch, with a few folk that have dietary restrictions). I’m exhausted today and very happy today is a relaxed and easy day, hoovering up both physically and the leftovers! Like @anewyearthisyear I had a few fleeting ‘a glass of wine would be nice’ moments too, but decided against it as there was a lot of cooking and organising etc to keep me distracted.

Chiming in (belatedly) to @freshstart2026, it’s a blip. Nothing more. Doesn’t negate all the amazing progress you’ve made in the last nearly 100 days. You’ve been a beacon of positivity and once you’ve had a couple of good nights kip and gone back to a normal routine, things will feel better. I would say gently though - from what I read on here - You Are Enough, I don’t for a minute think you’d be boring on a night out - you are just judging yourself harshly, like we all do, and probably caring far too much what others think, again like we all do.

@anewyearthisyear - well done for not drinking. Hold onto the observation your DS made re the games, that’s quite a strong incentive to continue to not drink.

@Raindancer101 - so sorry you feel crappy. You only feel bad due to illness, which you absolutely couldn’t help, rather than self inflicted grimness, if that’s any consolation (probably not). 😊

i noticed Ian C mentioned below, and absolutely agree his posts resonated so much at the start. I’ve unfollowed him now as I felt he was going a bit too far with his ‘harsh truth’ concept and posts about diet and menopause etc. Any one else feel similar?

What a lovely day it is here today! I’m so looking forward to forward to a quiet day.

Thanks all, this thread resets me so well. ❤️

@needastrongoneagain yes to I C and his aggressive posts ( about menopause Wtaf)
@freshstart2026 I was wondering in bed last night was it an immediate relief when you decided to drink and even before you had one you felt less socially anxious? As this was me on many occasions- it’s like your whole body relaxes once you decide. But then of course you kick yourself the next day
i have another social event in a pub this afternoon. I’m at the stage where I think what a waste washing hair getting dressed up driving over etc as I will have to leave after two hours as I just can’t cope longer than that! It’s not tat I crave a drink I just get tired and all talked out

@SwiftyFifty - I’m peopled out these days after a couple of hours, drink or no drink and care less and less about the fact that this is the case and that I ‘should’ want to be out hours and hours. Enjoy the social, if you can!

Managed another sober afternoon. Realised that people don’t really get drunk- must have been just me! Now we ve done so long I enjoy telling people I don’t drink and why I stopped and they are interested. It’s definitely not as enjoyable or as easy socialising sober BUT I never have to think about it again ( at three in the morning) and remember everything so overall it’s better.

Morning.

I’ve been telling folk too. I think in previous attempts or during my moderating stage I was ashamed to say I had a problem with alcohol but now I just tell folk I was using it for therapy post DH’s stroke, it wasn’t a positive relationship to drown my feelings in a bottle or more of red wine a night and I needed a break. Everyone just sort of says words to the effect of ‘fair enough’.

Getting to that stage took a bit of time though! Fair play to you for being honest.

@SwiftyFifty hmm, interesting question. For me I’d say it was a relief after the first sip as I felt I could relax more in others’ company having drunk wine. Then I just lost track as I consumed more drink. I don’t remember going to bed (!) but I did text DH at about 1am saying I was gutted that I’d drank.

BUT since then I’ve gone backwards - I drank on two days but am still feeling anxious, negative, low mood and like I don’t like myself. In other words, all the destructive thoughts I used to have frequently when I drank. I don’t know how much of this is down to alcohol and how much is due to not taking my meds again due to being disorganized and in my defence very busy. I must start taking them again today.

@needastrongone thank you x

In bed after another day sober. This is probably a very dumb question, but how long will it take to feel how I did before this two-day blip? In other words, if you’ve not drunk for over 90 days and then drink for two, do you get back to feeling good again quicker than it took to feel good after stopping on 1st January following years of heavy drinking? Or am I looking at another 90-plus days again now to get back to that state? Sorry, not articulating this well at all…

I know exactly what you are asking. I read an article once about a guy who was sober for a long spell and believed that when he drank then he wouldn’t get a hangover. But he did.
I don’t know if hangovers ( for me) just became worse with age but I think you should recover quicker. You’re probably feeling more low than before as you are annoyed with yourself more than you would have been when it was more of a daily habit.
I really hope you feel fresh again soon sending you lots of positive vibes