Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

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Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

Morning everyone, @SwiftyFifty glad to hear your energy is coming back.
My sleep is so good now and I can remember my dreams.
I had my first drinking dream last night. I dreamt I was in a posh cocktail bar and I ordered a cosmopolitan and tried to pretend it was a mocktail, whoever I was with wanted to taste it and I felt panicked.
I had a good clear out of my clothes yesterday they'd been just thrown on my dresser for months and such a state. I filled a bag to get rid of and organised the rest. Next job is to sort out my dresser drawers I have tons of old bottles of moisturiser and hair care products.

I had a good clear out of my clothes yesterday they'd been just thrown on my dresser for months and such a state. I filled a bag to get rid of and organised the rest.

Super satisfying @Icecreamhelps ! 👏 👏 👏 It’s great having the energy and time (due to not spending it all drinking) to do these sorts of jobs isn’t it?

@freshstart2026 it certainly was, I went to bed feeling good. I need to tackle my garden next too. Good luck at work today 💐.

Thanks! The bathroom is next on my list when I’m feeling better. Similar to you it’s full of old products and half-used bottles! I’m aiming to have sorted the whole house by day 100 of this challenge. That might be a little ambitious…

Another thought - day 62 means there’s 38 days to go. 38 sounds like nothing compared to 62! If I can do 62 days sober I can most certainly do 38, so it should be very much achievable 😊

@freshstart2026 - please stop being so tough on yourself about your diet. I think you are amazing, look at the changes you have made by being sober. I think that was your most important and significant change to make. The diet will sort itself out when you feel it’s time. You are doing so bloody well - pat on back time and not beat with stick time 😊❤️.

Thank you @needastrongone 🙏

Day 61 here. I lost a day almost experimentally,by having a glass of wine after a day messaging dd who is in Dubai! Just one glass gave me a broken night and I felt headachy and groggy the next morning. I dont know how I used to function on a bottle a night!
I'm not beating myself up,it was a useful reinforcement and lesson.

@Hedjwitch yes don’t beat yourself up you’re in a stressful situation. Probably a good reinforcement for you as to how bad you used to feel in the Olden Days. I still am so grateful and thankful when I wake up these mornings that I have no hangover. As I’ve said before, I really have no idea how I functioned. Hope DD is doing ok

Thanks @swiftyfifty . She is ok but scared and just wants to come home. Hopefully she will get out soon.

@Hedjwitch I hope you Daughter is able to come home soon xx

Wow, 38 days does sound like nothing doesn't it. We're almost 2/3 of the way to 100! My next mini goal is 75 days and I'm feeling confident!

I'm loving the productivity. I got a couple of house tasks done last night after the gym which made me feel so good as before as I'd either be recovering from the weekend or drinking. Both options involve sitting on the sofa and doing not much else. I've realised I'm the recent days that I feel much less overwhelmed by life and everything is more manageable? I think I'm calmer and less snappy too, so not drinking clearly agrees with me.

@Raindancer101 I've realised I'm the recent days that I feel much less overwhelmed by life and everything is more manageable

This is a big one for me too. I was starting to feel perpetually overwhelmed llast year. It was awful.

@Hedjwitch - it’s a learning. An understandable one. I had a glass while my father was on end of life and that particular day at his bedside had been quite traumatic. I felt exactly the same thing as you describe the next day. But… when he actually died and after the funeral (all very understandable triggers), I had this knowledge and it made me stronger so I’m ’sort of’ glad it happened because I didn’t even think about drinking then. I hear flights are leaving from Dubai now.

@Raindancer101 - I forgot to mention the other day, I hadn’t realised you’d moderated for a year or two before stopping. I did too, and it taught me a lot. It reduced my drinking significantly, but it also made me realise I was always negotiating with myself about when I could reasonably have my next drink and that was exhausting. It did give the space to get to a point where I could stop drinking though.

My DH loves AF Guinness. He’s not great at drinking fluid, so his nightly one of these helps in that regard!

@BitOfFun2026 you can change your own username within your settings. I’ll look it up how you specifically do.

Had my closest shave yet today! Even bought a mini bottle of wine at the supermarket!

Husband came home and told me he is being made redundant. Total shock, very unexpected.

We are fortunate to be fine financially while he finds something else but boy oh boy the trigger was HUGE. I honestly came sooooo close.

It was actually thinking about this thread that helped, remembering people’s posts about having a drink and not really gaining anything. Cooked our evening meal as quick as I could and shovelled it down whilst necking Nozeco!!!

Obviously now I am relieved not to have succumbed but the voice was so convincing at the time.

Safely tucked up in bed now and running clothes laid out for a v early start before work 😅

Well done @GreenCherries! If you feel good about yourself now (which you definitely deserve to!) you’re going to feel AMAZING when the alarm goes off in the morning 🥳

Thank you @2026x! Feel a bit too wired to sleep trying to process what this big change will look like so not sure how bouncy I’ll be in the morning, but it will 100% be amazing to wake up not feeling shit because I drank the mini bottle and then opened and ploughed through a full bottle (which I am sure is what would have happened!).

Onwards!

@GreenCherries
Sorry to hear about the redundancy.
Well done for staying strong. That's really amazing, especially when you were so close to getting wine.
Good luck for tomorrow and hope you're OK!

Hi everyone, Day 53 for me. Can't believe how fast it's gone! I was reading alcohol free material and marking my no drinking days off on the NHS app. Now I just seem to be doing AF with less focus on it!
I have a glass of some thing AF ,with ice and lime/ lemons every night. I love trying all the new non AF out there. Isn't it expensive though! I love Three spirit and AF with after glow.
I had a weekend with my family and we usually drink a lot! There was champagne flowing , I had a moment where I thought..I want one but it passed and I had a wonderful evening. There were a few of us not drinking as well - which helped.
So pleased I started this journey. My weight loss has stalled but I'm really not bothered. It's more my health, skin and hair that I care about. I did not look healthy drinking!
Menopause is challenging enough with out being hungover so I'm grateful that I'm still here and on track.
Love coming back every now and and seeing that you are all doing great!

@GreenCherries well done to you!

@GreenCherries so sorry about your DH redundancy, I can imagine the urge to have a drink was strong so bloody well done for not giving in to it.
I'm loving this sunshine been cleaning the bathroom I'm seeing my home through a new set of eyes and there are lots of maintenance jobs I've not kept on top of. My bath needs resealing, some pointing outside, damp patch on the chimney breast so need to get the flashing checked the list will probably get bigger. I was feeling a bit overwhelmed and thought about wine but it's not going to fix anything.

@GreenCherries Well done for avoiding the mini bottle, serious willpower!

@needastrongone Yes, I was drinking pretty much daily until the last couple of years. I reduced after I got into the gym and after a hard workout, I realised that I just didn't feel like a drink, endorphins I guess... and probably the need to rehydrate. So I stopped drinking in the week but I was always waiting for the weekends. Once I start drinking, I get the taste for it and I'll drink 15-20 units in one evening. That means that even "moderating" by only drinking 2 or 3 times a week, I'm still drinking >40 units a week which doesn't really feel like moderation at all.

Afternoon.

Thanks for that @Raindancer101 , my moderating was probably stopping at a glass or two, but it was getting increasingly more often, hardly the point if it’s nearly every day.

I’ve had a weird week in terms of anxiety, it’s been through the roof for various family politics related crap. Some of which is me needlessly worrying. I’ve had a few cravings this week but it only fuels my anxiety even further so it’s not a good idea. Well, one part of me thinks it’s a great idea of course, the bit of my brain that thinks wine will make things better. Wonder if that ever fully goes away.

@GreenCherries I’m so sorry about the job situation. I can even imagine you getting the wine. It took a lot to not drink it, really well done. I’m the same, if I’ve eaten then I’m not bothered about the wine then anyway, good strategy. How are you feeling now?

@tomtomthepipersson it helps if there are other non drinkers doesn’t it? There are more and more these days, I think it’ll get easier to be and stay sober from a societal standpoint and also from just the variety AF alternatives there are.

It’s a beautiful day today so it’s so much easier to be positive isn’t it? We’ve been gardening and generally making our abode tidier, which feeds the tidy vibes in my head!

Hi all, Day 5 without alcohol -it's a long time since I've been able to say that! I've been tempted a couple of times but instead have hit the gym and tried to remind myself I need to lose weight/save calories AND save money!

Oh and I FINALLY GOT A NEW JOB! Only a 12-month secondment for now and in the same wider team as the toxic colleague I currently job-share with, but in an entirely different area with no close working with her, and a different boss who hopefully listens to their staff.

Wanted to treat myself in congratulations and would usually reach for the fizz... then was going to buy cake... ended up spending £25 in B&M instead mostly on more expensive laundry stuff than I usually get and a couple of reed diffusers 😂

Day 64 here and still going strong. I’ve been reflecting this afternoon about how fan-bloody-tastic it is to feel in control and just to be looking after myself a bit more. It’s a tiny thing but having a bath before bed with a non-alcoholic beer has been lovely. And sad as it sounds, I’m actually getting a buzz from doing chores and DIY jobs in the house and garden that I’d never have done if I’d been drinking. I’m back on the diet this week too which feels good, although I’m suddenly finding my fasting days quite a struggle. I think it’s because I’m near to the end of my goal and so feel less motivated, as there’s a voice in my head saying “what’s a couple more lbs, just quit now”, lol.

I had persistent spots on my face for about a year and they were still there in January and February, so even though I previously thought they were caused by alcohol, I then concluded that they couldn’t be as I’d stopped drinking. However, they seem to have noticeably reduced in the last week or two, so I’m wondering if they were booze-related after all. I’ll see what happens.

@GreenCherries I’m in awe of you not drinking in such a hard situation. Huge well done. I hope you’re okay and that your DH finds a new job soon.

Day 63 and struggling more now than in the early days. Dd still stuck in Dubai isnt helping! Had Guinness Zero when I got in and danger period has receded. Bit fed up of still having to battle it though.