Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

[therockingbird]

Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

I had workmen around today to give me quotes for a big, necessary job in my home that I've been putting off for years. I feel more able to cope with things and noticed my catastrophising has reduced. I'm on day 71 and I feel the benefits have ramped up over the last few weeks.

I'm in bed early with a horlicks feeling tired tonight. It's a nice tired though. I'm all cosy and sober tucked up with my book and the cat. I get excited for sleep now, it's so much better than just passing out drunk.
@Lilly11a that sounds like a nice evening, I want to go to the cinema on my own soon but it will have to be during the day because I'd probably fall asleep at the moment.
@freshstart2026 i went out for lunch last week and felt exactly the same. I just think my brain went into sensory overload because it wasn't dulled with alcohol.
@therockingbird well done on day 60 it feels like it's gone so quickly. My thoughts about wine are the same. They are very occasional and feel like the are an automatic response to a moment in the day but not specific. They are exactly just like flickers.

@Yearoftheskin im the same with the catasrophising and over reacting. I dropped a much loved serving dish on the floor yesterday it smashed to pieces. Seven weeks ago I'd have been so upset it would have ruined my evening and probably the next day. Although I was pissed off initially yesterday I just cleared it up and shrugged it off.

Morning. Hope everyone is well. It’s a lovely Spring (yes, it’s officially Spring!) day here. 1st March, so 2 months of sobriety healing our bodies and minds. How amazing is that?!!!

We’ve been quite social these past two days but it’s been easy to stay sober as it’s been suppers with various family members. Both sets are a different generation to myself and DH. Those that did have a drink had one bottle of beer (the small ones) then went onto water. It’s interesting and a good example of how alcohol should be drunk. No one batted an eye that I wasn’t drinking, it just wasn’t a thing.

One of my big triggers is the evening of my long run and I’m marathon training at the minute so those runs are really long. I’ve always had a few glasses of wine to ‘congratulate’ myself on how amazing I am (heavy does of irony there, but you get what I mean, it’s another excuse to reward myself). I’ve done a few long runs now and not had a drink in the evening and I’ve dampened down that particular craving. To be honest my stomach was a bit churned up all day yesterday afterwards so it was an easy win.

@BitOfFun2026 - hope you are okay. I read your other thread. I agree with @anewyearthisyear, your time will come. It is an addiction (it’s designed to be) though and support, in whatever capacity I think is a necessity. We are here if you need it.

I’ve ordered my blood tests too, so will update when I’ve received the results.

So I ended up drinking yesterday as well, so now feel lousy today. I'm trying to tell myself that that was my last drink but look how many times I've said that before!

I'm in a bit of a pickle as well as am now obviously hoping to be a regular participant in this thread but this username (have changed it going forward but obviously won't change on this thread) is apparently the same as a much-loved and now passed away MN contributor. Being new here I obviously had no idea but if I keep posting here it's going to repeatedly come up and appears to have triggered a few people already

Day 60 and the hardest day yet. Dd is stuck in Dubai and scared. I am worried sick and desperate for a drink to take my mind off it.

Hi @BitOfFun2026, I’ve been on MN a long time and didn’t know about the long time poster of that name, we all have our little areas of the site. It’s not your fault, you didn’t know. It’ll change going forward. Do you feel lousy physically or emotionally because you’ve had a drink. What was the reason to drink the last two nights - was there a trigger that you can perhaps consider finding a strategy for? It can help if you figure why you want a drink in the first place and consider the feelings around that craving.

Try not to worry @Hedjwitch, your DD will be okay. I don’t think the Iranians have too much of a capacity to mount a sustained response from the reading I’ve been doing. The USA and Israelis very much do have that capability but they also have incredible intelligence in the area so their response will be very targeted and specific and hopefully short term. Having a drink will only heighten the anxiety x

(Not making any political comment btw, I’ve just been listening to the news a lot today).

@needastrongone yesterday was because I went out for lunch with some family and we shared a bottle of wine... I'm not good at stopping at one so decided to just carry on. My MH has been awful this week due to work stress and then having some absolute witches bully me online (yes I know I could choose not to read what they've said but I'm hoping one day they'll be held to account - apparently they don't take the piss out of vulnerable people - just ones like me with several MH diagnoses and history of trauma!)

The issue with the username hasn't helped as the same people mentioned above accused me of being some sort of twisted creep who chose it on purpose.

I do hope everything will be ok @Hedjwitch play it forward, what if you drank then your dd called you? Stay strong and sober, clear headed for her. Sending you 💐

Day 60 for me today 🥳

Being online can be brutal can’t @BitOfFun2026, but supportive too, the lovely folk on this thread have been the main reason I’m still sober I think!

Most of us on here can’t really stop at one, so in the situation with your family you probably need to find a strategy for not drinking when it occurs again to be successful and not drink, if that’s what you want to do. I find examining the reason why I felt that situation necessitates a drink and looking at those emotions, sitting with the discomfort of those feelings until the urge passes helps. Or, if you know the temptation will be too much, then it can be easier just to not go, and suggest a coffee or a walk etc instead.

Hello all! Just checking in to say I’m still here, still sober and am absolutely CHUFFED to have achieved two whole months not drinking AND to have reached day 60! 💥💥💥💥 I am soooo proud of myself, can’t quite believe I have managed this TBH. It’s in huge part due to the amazing support on this thread so a huge thank you to all of you!

In less good news my weight loss has stalled - we seem to have had a constant stream of cakes and biscuits in our house this week and I’ve been eating a lot. I need to get back into the sensible eating from tomorrow.

Hope everyone is doing well and sorry I haven’t managed to catch up properly with the thread - hope to do so soon.

@BitOfFun2026 If you report one of your posts to MN HQ and explain the situation about the username they will probably change it for you. I find them very helpful especially on sensitive threads.

Shame on those bullies just shame on them.

Day 61 done here and didn't have any urge to drink again this weekend. It's novel and I can't quite believe I've done 2 whole months. I didn't think I had it in me!! I didn't drink on new year's eve so March is the third month of the year I've started entirely sober and clear headed. Looking forward to seeing what the next few weeks of sober life brings. An energy boost would be lovely, please.....🙏🏻

@BitOfFun2026 Sorry to hear about the stress over a username of all things! Like @needastrongone says, I think most of us here in this group struggle with moderating our alcohol, especially with home drinking, so you're not alone. I think it took me a long time to be ready to do a long period without alcohol and I reduced my drinking days over the last year or two before being ready and even then, I wasn't absolutely certain I'd complete Dry Jan, yet alone Dry Feb aswell. This thread helped massively as it made me accountable when I wasn't ready to share this with people IRL. I'd recommend you read the first thread when we were all starting out, there were many helpful Ian C things shared by SwiftyFifty which really resonated with me and you might find the same.

Hats off!!!
And cut yourself some slack on the cake/biscuit front.
You deserve a biscuity treat 🍪

Hats off!!!

Thanks @SoberannSerene - right back atcha! 😃 🎩

We have all done brilliantly!

That single yellow tile for March 1st in my TryDry app looks very lonely lol - can’t wait to add some more! I also cannot believe I’m in March!! 🥳

Day 60 over for me and agree with everything@freshstart2026 just said.

I can't believe I got to this number and it was relatively pain-free and I have been so much happier this past 2 months.

Meanwhile I think I've gained weight! I'm eating so many biscuits! But there are worse things and I am going to try changing just a few things this month. Exercising every day. Adding more protein. Delaying the biscuits. Good luck everyone.

@anewyearthisyear I have been happier too. Mainly I think from feeling calmer and more in control of my life, work and finances as a result of not drinking.

Day 61 here and the first week of spring, hurrah! I’ve not lost any weight for several weeks due to the previously mentioned biscuits and cakes. I’m restarting the 5:2 properly this week (including eating sensibly on non-fasting days). I’m determined to lose those final 5lbs!

I have my blood test this morning so will update on the results when I get them. Have good day everyone!

Day 56, I'm just enjoying a coffee in bed. Apart from not drinking for the past 56 days I've eaten breakfast every day, made a lunch to take to work and not ordered any takeaways. My house still needs a good clear out and I would like to start some exercise now my leg feels better.
I've been looking through some old Cbt worksheets from some therapy I had a few years ago, and now I'm thinking a lot clearer I can see that my attachment issues definitely trigger my cravings for alcohol and other unhealthy behaviours.

Morning Everyone.

@freshstart2026 - please stop being so tough on yourself about your diet. I think you are amazing, look at the changes you have made by being sober. I think that was your most important and significant change to make. The diet will sort itself out when you feel it’s time. You are doing so bloody well - pat on back time and not beat with stick time 😊❤️.

I love how reflective we’ve all managed to find the space to become since stopping drinking. It’s been a theme in our posts for the last few weeks. There’s definitely a common theme to all journeys so far, I must try and find the time to reread the first thread and this one again, we all mirror the same path.

I’ve had a run early today and tried to appreciate how fresh I felt, instead of trudging through it, fuzzy and tired or not even going and then feeling even worse about myself than ever. I even slept until 6.30am and woke up with a bit of a start, I usually am up and about by 6am.

It’s like the slow green shoots of recovery are starting for us all - long may it continue!

Checking in on day 62! Like so many others have said - I’m also feeling far more motivated about life in general and getting stuff done instead of fulling my nights with wine and putting stuff off for another day.. obviously we all know how that spirals into another day-more wine-no motivation! It’s so lovely to see so many passing the 60 day milestone, and those that have had a wobble drawing a line under it and pushing on. Shows such resilience and dedication to the 100 days reset and we (I’m deliberately including myself) should be incredibly proud. I’m an overthinker and have discovered a book on Amazon about how to break free from the emotional chaos and self sabotage. It’s become my nightly ritual - book/tea and a chapter before lights out. Long gone are the days of passing out after a bottle of wine! I’m very thankful for that, I’m enjoying being present in my life and feeling really positive about the future. Happy spring all, enjoy the week ahead.

Afternoon all. I think a bit of energy is coming back! Might be the start of spring and the bright weather but noticed at the weekend I am not so bone tired as before.
Had a pub lunch yesterday just had a zero Guinness ( lovely!) and I would say drinking alcohol didn’t cross my
mind. Couple people have asked how long I’m going for and I just said until I feel the full benefits as I’m def not now! I expect the problem will be when you do feel amazing you then think oh I may as well start drinking again.
Thinking back to Dry Jan whi h seemed to drag…. Would I have had a better month if I’d have been dribking on my own at home most nights… answer of course is NO
Interested to hear the blood results tests when they come in for you guys

Thank you everyone, I've reported my post in the hope my username can be changed. I'm back to Day 2 but determined not to slip up this time. I'm out for a friends 40th on Saturday but there are issues with trains which would mean a four-hour round trip when I can drive/metro it in less than an hour each way. I could stay over but she has small children and don't fancy being woken up with a hangover at 4am!

I just need to 'woman up' and develop a thicker skin I think. The comments have been on Tattle on the MN thread and have ranged from discussing my sex life (all nonsense), my appearance, and my clear MH issues which I've been nothing but honest about. Ironically they're now having a discussion about how MN is full of bullies and vitriol because they would NEVER do that, especially when someone is vulnerable! Oh the irony!!!!

@SwiftyFifty I had a zero Guinness in the pub after a nice long (rainy) walk yesterday! It's really nice :)

I'm not drinking any other zero alcohol beers (or other) but for some reason I've quite taken to the zero Guinness (was never particularly a Guiness drinker although perhaps I should have been!!)

Glad to hear maybe the tiredness ia lifting for you. I definitely feel like I have more of a spring in my step compared to a couple of weeks ago. I really think a few lovely sunny days have helped me enormously.. but also I think maybe something ia going on in my body/mind and the fog is lifting... i am definitely starting to feel more on an even keel.
And today was my first day without chocolate/anything else sweet since start of the year!!

Hello on day 62. I was an idiot yesterday - I spent nearly all day doing really intensive gardening, completely exhausted myself and went to bed at 8! I woke up this morning feeling fuzzy headed, achey and tired. On the positive side the last thing I felt like last night was a glass of wine! I really need to know my limitations with this kind of thing and do a little bit at a time.

Back at work today too - wish me luck! 😱