Tulips, snowdrops and another Day 1!

[MamaGhina]

New thread as promised. I’ll pop on later to tag everyone as I wanted to get this link on the old thread before it fills up!

Link to the old one for any new joiners:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/alcohol_support/4877066-its-day-1-anyone-else?page=40

Well done @BoilingHotand50something on 85 days and to @SummerScoop for 26 days.

I’m about to tick off day 2 on my try dry app - start of hopefully a long second streak. Tough day again at work so really pleased I managed to not buy wine on way home.

Great to hear your positivity @Haggisfish3
And good luck tomorrow @smegley - you’ve got this.

Also wishing you luck tomorrow @smegley . Please do go! And hello @Haggisfish3. it might not be much help @Limeandsoda2023 but here is today for my Try Dry app… I never in a million years would have thought I would get to 100 days. Not that I am feeling bright and breezy by any stretch but at least I am not weighed down by this

Yay @TimesaChangeling - congratulations! And to @Limeandsoda2023 - here’s to a great second streak. And to everyone who is achieving wins, big or small! And those lurking because they want to make a change or reading but not posting as currently drinking. You are here which is a positive step.

Good luck tomorrow @smegley

Congratulations @TimesaChangeling - that’s an awesome achievement!

@TimesaChangeling hurray-well done! It does help actually. I have read several success stories lately, here and on oynb Facebook group from people that even I didn’t think would actually manage to stop drinking. But they have. It’s really refreshing to hear about the successes.

Need to catch up on the thread but wanted to update to let you know I’m still here chipping away, just extremely busy.
Plus I wanted to wish @smegley all the best for today. Hope it goes well.

@TimesaChangeling and @BoilingHotand50something congratulations! It really does give us all a boost to see those long streaks, thank you for sharing and well done!

Here to echo all your supporters @smegley . I hope today goes well.

I'm going to look into that app. I think seeing the money saved will be a great motivator.

@MamaGhina don't feel stressed by having to update on this thread! Life gets busy, (especially running up to Christmas) so I'm certainly not going to be expecting your full commitment to this thread! Just drop in when you want to and can.

Thank you everyone.
I'm so nervous.
I feel like something is about to be taken away from me and I don't want it to be.
I logically know that makes no sense because I can't carry on like this but I dont want to lose my crutch if that makes sense.

I can't imagine a life with no alcohol in it. Ever.

As stupid as it is im scared to let it go.
The appointment is at 3.30 so I'll update later.

It doesn't sound stupid at all. Alcohol has been with you through everything. You are convinced you need it, but you really don't. Some people see that very quickly, some (like me) don't.

It is hard to imagine life without it since it probably has become a large part of your life.

Hope it all goes well x

How did you get on @smegley

Hope everyone else is ok. I am freeeeeeezing!

Hello

It was so bizarre.
The clinic place deals with all sorts of addictions and the waiting room was eye opening indeed. I was so intimidated.
The actual appointment was in a converted shipping container on the car park! Absolutely freezing it was! Apparently its a temporary place and the service is moving to a much more suitable building very soon.

Anyway the lovely nurse took all the details and said it all gets fed back to a Dr on a Tuesday who will then decide the best course of action. She mentioned a 2 week in patient detox or a week long one where I have to keep going to the centre between 9 and 3 each day.
There is no way at all I will agree to an inpatient stay.
She also talked about an anti craving medication.

Hopefully when my support worker comes next Wednesday she will have more information.

The next date for the detox is approx 15th Jan so if the dr agrees it's likely to be around then.
So whatever happens I'll have to find a way to navigate this Christmas

Thank you everyone for all your well wishes

@smegley well done. Let's hope it's sorted for you soon. If they are mentioning an in-patient detox, they must feel it would be helpful. I know a lady who paid £8,000 privately for a fortnight so I don't think they'd offer it lightly.

So glad you went, I know it was a big step.

Well done @smegley - you are super brave. As @SpringNotSprung says, I think it is worth having a good think about the 2 week stay.

@BoilingHotand50something I am freezing too. Have come to bed. DH has only got in at turned 9 which was when I stopped working. He's had his dinner plonked in front of him and has poured himself a dark beer. Thankfully proper beer could never tempt me. His addiction has always been work to be fair.

Well done @smegley thats so good that you went. Do think about the inpatient one if you can manage it with work - it might just be easier perhaps?

it is bloody cold!

It’s something about milestones but today was so tempting. It was a really busy day with work and all afternoon long I was craving. The only thing that distracted me in the end was peppermint tea on the way home and defrosting my windscreen so I forgot about battling whether to stop at the shop. Just goes to show sorting thirst and distraction often helps.

I won't leave my children for that long.
Its not fair on them at all.
I will hopefully find out more at my home appointment next week and can make some decisions then.

The guilt I feel is immense.
I feel such a fool

You are not a fool. Or if you are, then we all are!

Good evening everyone. It's been a while since I posted but I've been reading the thread every day - the kindness and support here is a really lovely thing to be part of.
@smegley I admire you greatly for even asking for help and going to the appointments, you are not a fool. I hope you get clarity next week but understand the concern about navigating Christmas/New Year.

It's been a really busy week and next week promises to be even more so but it feels like a small victory that I am finding myself being glad I'm AF as I couldn't handle this with a hangover, rather than where I was a few weeks ago where dealing with the chaos without wine to 'unwind' would have been inconceivable to me.

I was at my substance abuse clinic and someone overdosed in the waiting room. Eye opening indeed. I am on day three. It feels like I might have cracked it this time.

Well done on staying strong through the stress @MissSmith80 - things are so much easier without the weight of working out when you can have a drink and do much easier being hangover free.

Well done @Haggisfish3 on day 3. How frightening re the overdose. I hope you are ok. Must have been harrowing.

It was and it wasn’t tbh. They put me in another room so I didn’t actually see it. The staff and ambulance crew were clearly so used to it. And the man refused to tell them what and how much he had taken. It was bizarrely peaceful. They treated him with dignity and respect which was heartening to hear. My centre have been a bit crap tbh. They were supposed to phone me today to give me a boost and see how i was getting on and they didn’t. 🙄🙄

@smegley there is absolute nothing foolish about all this. The reasons people get into this situation are myriad and complex, they don’t just happen because we “forgot” to manage ourselves. It takes bravery and courage to start looking at the problem (and as any of us know, going through life with bloody great hangovers takes a bit of determination as well).

@MissSmith80 i am so glad in the end that I didn’t cave last night. Today, and the rest of this week, would have been unbearable if I had. I have to keep remembering that.

@Haggisfish3 the overdosing sounds awful. I hope the person is okay.

I think they were ok. They were stabilised and taken to hospital. What really shook me I guess, was the realisation that that is life for some people. And how ‘normal’ it seemed to be for them and the ambulance crew.

I’m still sober…yeah yeah yeah! (I always hear Elton John singing that in my head!). Four days down. I’m feeling positive this time.