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Anyone else in Day 1 today

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enoughisenough100 · 10/04/2022 11:09

So after so many attempts of failing, I'm really hoping to succeed this time. Is anyone on day 1. I go through other posts nd read how well people are doing, but just can't seem to get past the first few days. The house is hectic nd I feel like by 5 o clock, I deserve to be opening a bottle of wine. I know I shouldn't nd would be feel so much better the next day if I can stop drinking. Just can't seem to crack it. Any tips on audio books that really worked? Other ideas? I think I've tried so many times I need to do something different. I know the first few weeks are going to b tough, any vitamins etc to give a boost. Any advice ? Help !!!

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Dottedskull · 26/04/2022 11:56

brightspice · 25/04/2022 10:09

From 26-28 April at 6pm UK time I'm presenting a short 'Drink Less with Ease' workshop: why we drink (day 1), how to manage urges (day 2) and how to make it sustainable (day 3). Details at 90dayslater.co/workshop

Each session will last approx 45 mins. It's totally free.

Today alcohol is utterly irrelevant to me. I don't spend any time thinking about it. I help people achieve this for themselves and am running this free workshop to make these tools available to more people. Share with friends.

DM me if you have questions.

Hi I'd be very interested in the work shop please

brightspice · 26/04/2022 13:14

@Dottedskull Great! It takes place today, tomorrow and Thurs from 6pm UK time for about 45 mins. It's free to attend. Register to get access at 90dayslater.co/workshop

I will also be recording sessions and make them available too

SpringLobelia · 26/04/2022 13:21

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brightspice · 26/04/2022 14:25

@SpringLobelia Great that you have made this commitment to yourself.
What kind of drinker do you want to be?

Alcoh · 26/04/2022 15:35

Hi I am back here too! Crept up in lockdown. Boredom. My DH lives abroad for now so am alone with two teenagers most evenings. So hit the wine. Can easily get through a bottle a night. And with lockdown it starts earlier. So many people have the same story. Now I am worried about my liver so am doing a reset. It’s just so bloody easy to fall into it. Even mid week there are events here and there and alcohol is always a part of it. But here we go.

Bedsheets4knickers · 26/04/2022 16:34

Hi can I join , I'm on day 3 . I've been a functioning alcoholic for the best part of 20 years . I was starting to slip and although I could get myself to work . My evenings were becoming a blur . It all came to a head Saturday night when my DH finally stepped in and said I had a problem . I've known I've got a problem but hearing someone else acknowledge it . Has made something shift In me . So yeah day 3 for me .

Namechanged12344 · 26/04/2022 16:39

Hiya @enoughisenough100 I get you completely. I'm on day 2. Also thinking enough is enough and I can't switch off after one so it's all or nothing. I am trying to distract myself at the moment with the hecticness at home at the moment, on the way home from work I was like oh I can't wait I deserve it but then think about my good sleep to come..well done for starting!!! I still have to read through the other replies but well done everyone

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enoughisenough100 · 26/04/2022 19:51

Sorry haven't posted much, tried to send something the other night and it wouldn't let me, so just logged in fresh again now! I'm back to day one anyway! I've tried just having two drinks, it doesn't work, tried beer, same thing, started a new job so could do with a clear head !! I think I need a good audiobook to sink myself into , I love sober diaries, is there anything similar?? Hope yer all doing good x

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Bedsheets4knickers · 26/04/2022 21:41

Bedsheets4knickers · 26/04/2022 16:34

Hi can I join , I'm on day 3 . I've been a functioning alcoholic for the best part of 20 years . I was starting to slip and although I could get myself to work . My evenings were becoming a blur . It all came to a head Saturday night when my DH finally stepped in and said I had a problem . I've known I've got a problem but hearing someone else acknowledge it . Has made something shift In me . So yeah day 3 for me .

Sorry for all the full stops 😳

PickledElf · 26/04/2022 21:57

Until I had my works leaving party 5 weeks ago I’d not had a drink since 2014. Walking to the pub I was asked if I was going to drink and even though everyone knew I didn’t I said yes and I had 2 vodkas and tonic. Then 4 weeks ago I had a gin and tonic. I hate how loud I became (from 2002 I drank a it to be the fun happy girlfriend, then he left.. I drank and got pissed each month at work pub nights after that l, then had a boyfriend and drank a half bottle of gin and orange juice in 2 days when I went too see him… then had an affair with a married man and fir 8 months I drank 2 or 3 bottles a of wine a night 3 times a week). That ended and a little while later I had DC and drank a lager on holiday but made the conscious effort not to drink from 2014) .

The drinks I had recently just reminded me of how I was when I drank to be the fun happy one, the one who used to drink to get pissed. I don’t want to be her I want to be the person I was from 2014.

I have a works party on Friday.. as I am tonight I don’t want a drink. If temptation is too strong on my way to the pub I’ll not go, I’ll blame not going on working late. I have it planned I’m my head.

Alcoh · 26/04/2022 22:34

@Bedsheets4knickers your situation sounds a lot like mine. Functioning alcoholic. But in lockdown it became easier to not get up so early in the morning to commute and so the drink piled on. Getting indeed to a stage where I was drinking earlier in the day and not needing to get up at crack of dawn so it crept up. I am also getting to stage where people notice - like my kids and my DH (altho he lives abroad so I hide my mid week drinking from him). It’s pretty good your DH has made a comment now. I sometimes think we need that. We have been ‘getting away with it’ for so long. I now have liver fear. And even tho it’s only Day 1 I have had so much better an evening. Spoke to kids. Did a face mask. Drank loads of herbal tea and read some of my book. I dread to think how many hours I have wasted pissed. Let alone the money :-(. I don’t want to look back and think I wasn’t here for the kids. Good luck. And to all others. @PickledElf I am interested what made you start again after doing so well and for so long

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Bedsheets4knickers · 27/04/2022 07:21

Morning , I might look to download a few podcasts , I've not slept well the past 2 nights and when I have slept a little I wake up soaking wet . I guess this is my body going through detox . I'm going to hit the water today and try to flush myself out . It's weird Im tired but not thick headed .

Bedsheets4knickers · 27/04/2022 07:22

Alcoh · 26/04/2022 22:34

@Bedsheets4knickers your situation sounds a lot like mine. Functioning alcoholic. But in lockdown it became easier to not get up so early in the morning to commute and so the drink piled on. Getting indeed to a stage where I was drinking earlier in the day and not needing to get up at crack of dawn so it crept up. I am also getting to stage where people notice - like my kids and my DH (altho he lives abroad so I hide my mid week drinking from him). It’s pretty good your DH has made a comment now. I sometimes think we need that. We have been ‘getting away with it’ for so long. I now have liver fear. And even tho it’s only Day 1 I have had so much better an evening. Spoke to kids. Did a face mask. Drank loads of herbal tea and read some of my book. I dread to think how many hours I have wasted pissed. Let alone the money :-(. I don’t want to look back and think I wasn’t here for the kids. Good luck. And to all others. @PickledElf I am interested what made you start again after doing so well and for so long

Yes I agree lockdown was where I really started to ramp it up .

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GingerDuo · 28/04/2022 05:53

Today is my Day 1. Boy do I need support. I live alone and there's little incentive to not drink or so it feels. But my stomach hurts daily and I'm looking older rapidly and putting on weight.
Plus ££££s on booze.
Hello and thank you for this thread.

SpringLobelia · 28/04/2022 06:21

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SpringLobelia · 28/04/2022 06:22
  • already feeling better and just on Day 3 I mean.
Haggisfish3 · 28/04/2022 07:22

I’m on day 5 and feeling much better. Liver stopped hurting, skin looking better and don’t feel guilty and partly dead each day!

wakeupandshakeup · 28/04/2022 07:31

Day 4, checking in. Starting to sleep better and function with a fresh head! From past experience week 2 is when it kicks in and the benefits outweigh the urges so I'm sticking with it. I can't moderate so it's a totally AF life for me.!

GingerDuo · 28/04/2022 08:44

SpringLobelia · 28/04/2022 06:22

  • already feeling better and just on Day 3 I mean.

Thank you 😊 that's good to know! I consistently find excuses to drink and this needs to stop. I've no alcohol left other than a bottle of champagne waiting for a celebration but that's been there 2 years so going nowhere fast!

Feeling very motivated today....it feels like it's time. I hope so!

opaqueewood · 28/04/2022 13:37

Afternoon all, quite a lot of us on this journey together on this thread. How's everyone's day going?
9th day today and I'm feeling so much more positive.
Oh I'm on this thread as dottedskull, but couldn't remember my login when I got a new phone.

This weekend is going to be a tricky one as my son is with his dad. Planning on finding a balance between time spent catching up with close friends and alone time in the house to spring clean/potter about.
I've got to admit I'm really looking forward to the pottering about😂, one of the many benefits to me being AF is I've the time/energy for organising and I enjoy it.

DressingPafe · 28/04/2022 13:59

I've tried going cold turkey before and it doesn't work for me. I'm tapering down now. A bottle of wine (my usual per night amount) is 750ml. I've done 5 days on 600ml. From today going to 500ml per night and so on. I can't deal with the withdrawal as it is really bad for me. I can't sleep and anxiety goes through the roof but cutting down slowly makes it easier.

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Bedsheets4knickers · 28/04/2022 16:55

Day 5 for me and I'm doing ok I think . I could of caved last night for an hour or so but it passed . I'm on shift tonight so I can safely say I've cleared today but Friday is looming so I'm not putting myself under any pressure . if I could have a routine where I have a couple on a Friday & Saturday night then that's my lot . I'd be happy with that .