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The freedom thread ( continued ) Riding the rollercoaster of an alcohol free life!

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Adm1010 · 23/01/2022 13:06

Hello all

This is a thread for people who have decided that life is much better without alcohol!🤩 These threads were started by @Drybird, and they have changed the lives of many people.

Some posters on these threads have been sober for a long time, and some are only just starting. We are a very friendly and inclusive bunch and we are always excited when someone new joins the thread. The only thing we ask is that our posters have given up alcohol completely. Talk of moderation can be triggering for some people, so this thread is not the right place for that (there are other moderation threads🙂).

We are a supportive welcoming bunch. No question is ever to “ silly “ and their is generally someone around if you are struggling

So just come here to chat or vent or check in . Whatever you need as you ride the rollercoaster of an alcohol free life Smile

Thankyou to bunnies for hosting the last thread.
And here’s to the next 40 pages Grin

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Fortheloveofgodwhy · 02/03/2022 14:49

well that now has me curious AF about what you could be to mill breaths....

sunshineforest · 02/03/2022 16:06

I am def AFAF

Off to therapy now. Hey ho.

Borrowbox · 03/03/2022 07:36

I always read it As Fuck too, like AFAF!

Day 26 here and checking in. Really tired but this is my last working day of the week. It has gone so fast!

Hope everyone has a great day

Fortheloveofgodwhy · 03/03/2022 09:38

day 25! didn't realise we were so close @borrowbox I always felt like I have some catching up to do.... have a lovely sober weekend. I think it is the weekends which make it for me, I love waking up not hung over. Dinner with friends Saturday will be another first, but I've done the first half term, first DH trip abroad - well he comes back tomorrow, first trip to the pub for a meal. Still devouring quit lit and podcasts though. They are my new addiction! and chocolate.

AlbinoAxolotl · 03/03/2022 15:13

Hey, can I join your sober party please?
Today I have reached 60 days/2 months AF (bar 1 blip), which I doubt I’d have managed without being a long time lurker on this post.

Fortheloveofgodwhy · 03/03/2022 19:58

Hi 👋 60 days is great well done

Borrowbox · 03/03/2022 20:12

Welcome Albino and congratulations on 60 days, amazing! I can't wait to get there. Did you start around NY?

I agree about the sober weekends, so lovely and I end up feeling properly rested. Sounds like you are nailing those milestones @Fortheloveofgodwhy and yes, we are almost sober twins!

Breathmiller · 03/03/2022 21:23

Welcome albino great to have you delurking.

*Waves to other lurkers.

SavBbunny · 04/03/2022 07:21

Morning all.
Not to well at the moment.
Nowt to do with booze, having a hard time with RA.
Looking forward a wine free early night.

Kindtomyself · 04/03/2022 07:41

Morning all. Love waking up guilt free and no hangover .
Sorry you're RA is not good @SavBbunny.

Welcome @AlbinoAxolotl

BunniesBunniesBunnies · 04/03/2022 09:19

What’s RA @SavBbunny? Sorry you’re having a hard time anyway.

@AlbinoAxolotl welcome and congrats, 60 days is amazing🤩🤩🤩

SavBbunny · 04/03/2022 09:23

RA, Arthritis.

Off to London with a heat pack on.

Drybird2020 · 04/03/2022 09:56

Welcome, @AlbinoAxolotl, and hello to all the other lurkers, we know you are there 😉

Well done to everyone ploughing through the days and week, and meeting milestones. Each day is another step towards the time when you don't care if people drink around you, don't waste time thinking about booze, and don't miss it!! That's the prize: freedom.

BunniesBunniesBunnies · 04/03/2022 14:54

Ahh that must be painful @SavBbunny, hope it eases a little.

Wise words from @Drybird2020 as usual.

There was a Mumsnet thread a few days ago asking what people’s lives were like 2 years ago. I’m just under 2 years sober and so I thought to myself - Bloody hell I was a mess 2 years ago, I’ve come a really long way. Obviously lots and lots of pandemic related challenges over the last two years but oh boy, I’m so much better now. Nothing beats that sense of freedom.

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Adm1010 · 04/03/2022 14:55

It’s my 6 month soberversary today

Thankyou to all who have supported me on this thread x

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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 04/03/2022 14:57

I have been sober for 10 years. I realised I was abusing alcohol to cope with a mental health disorder. I would never go back. Its no fun waking up covered in sick after sleeping in a gutter all night.

Fortheloveofgodwhy · 04/03/2022 15:37

Congratulations 🥳 @Adm1010 that’s fantastic. I’d give you a badge if I could! 🎖

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Adm1010 · 04/03/2022 16:48

Thankyou !! 🥳 I’m going to treat myself to a takeaway just for me!!! Home alone this evening .

Im doing 16 8 but just going to choose mindfully and eat in my “ window “

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Breathmiller · 04/03/2022 17:11

adm1010 🎊🎊🎊
6 months is fantastic! Well done!! You have been such a great support to others on this thread. And thanks for holding the space for everyone this time round.

shehasadiamond 10 years! Wow. So good to know that you are still enjoying that decision you made 10 years ago.

BunniesBunniesBunnies · 04/03/2022 18:40

@Adm1010 6 months is bloody amazing!!! Well done!!!🤩

Fortheloveofgodwhy · 04/03/2022 19:32

Urgh hand hold please. My anxiety has hit the roof… off to friends for a Chinese tomorrow. First non drinking event, I’m also gluten free so had husband phone the Chinese to sort out a meal… nothing, not a single thing they serve can be gf.. I can’t request we go elsewhere because they really want to use this one, they know it and they deliver to our area (rural sticksville) so I’m now taking my own food and some AF GF beer feel like an absolute party bloody lead balloon 😳. I’d would not go at all but they have already moved the date to accommodate us as DH was unexpectedly away this week… 😳😳 and we are not the only guests. Gawd feel so awks and I haven’t even had to turn up sober and with my packed lunch 😏

Kindtomyself · 04/03/2022 23:20

@Fortheloveofgodwhy bit delayed with the handholding but I'm here. Anxiety is a beast but remember that you will be fine. You sound like you're all sorted for tomorrow so I hope you can enjoy it

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Adm1010 · 05/03/2022 06:30

Thanks all 😊

@Fortheloveofgodwhy sorry you’re so anxious . It’s awful when it takes a hold . If I was you I’d just have to own it , lots of yeahhh sorry bout this… I tried to get GF etc etc , no one will bat an eye I bet and they will just be happy you’re there x

Have a good sober day all x

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BunniesBunniesBunnies · 05/03/2022 06:50

@Fortheloveofgodwhy you will be absolutely fine! I’ve had to do similar with food and what I’ve found is that brazenly styling it out works best. Don’t be embarrassed and don’t apologise!!! If anyone asks just say the restaurant didn’t do gluten free. Then quickly move the conversation on. And probably no one will even realise you’re not drinking!

Honestly you’re going to be fine😊

Landedonfeet · 05/03/2022 06:52

You are all phenomenal

I just so wish that mumsnet and threads like this had been around before my mum finally succumbed