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Day 1

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moochies · 26/12/2021 16:48

I posted another thread earlier about my disaster of a Christmas Day.

I just can't do it anymore, looking into the future I can see myself losing everything, my DH, friends, family. I was considering taking myself to a&e this morning because I was such a mess.

I'm absolutely determined to do it this time, so this is day 1.

Please join me.

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Bizzywater · 24/04/2022 21:04

I'm struggling again. You're doing so well @teaandtoastwithmarmite
I wish I was as strong as you

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 24/04/2022 21:52

@Bizzywater I've tried and failed many times. I think I'm just being a stubborn old cow this timeGrin. I also read a book capers this naked mind which basically says alcohol is like poison and it really put me off.
You're doing great. You're still trying your best and come back to this thread. What are you struggling with?
FWIW since I stopped people have said you were a pain when you had a drink which although annoying has kept me going. But I've had my moments

Haveatakeaway · 25/04/2022 08:19

Hi guys I managed another 3 week plus stint then I had a pint of lager yesterday. I did not enjoy it and felt so anxious I stood in the car park til dh got back. I can't be bothered anymore. Plus the prices of drink now! I think I've found my trigger though. I hadn't left the house again in the three plus weeks, apart from a drive thru McDonald's and a shop that I got to the doorway of and got back in the car, so when I do go out I feel I need liquid courage. So my next step is to try and go out of the house twice a week to begin with and try going into a shop. I'd rather feel uncomfortable sober and without a hangover than with one.
Got my hands on that drinking a love story, book aswell but I haven't started it yet
have a great Monday Brew

brightspice · 25/04/2022 10:11

From 26-28 April at 6pm UK time I'm presenting a short 'Drink Less with Ease' workshop: why we drink (day 1), how to manage urges (day 2) and how to make it sustainable (day 3). Details at 90dayslater.co/workshop

Each session will last approx 45 mins. It's totally free.

Today alcohol is utterly irrelevant to me. I don't spend any time thinking about it. I help people achieve this for themselves and am running this free workshop to make these tools available to more people. Share with friends.

DM me if you have questions.

Bizzywater · 27/04/2022 20:01

@Haveatakeaway 3 weeks is amazing. I might check out that book x

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 27/04/2022 20:05

Well done @Haveatakeaway

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 27/04/2022 20:08

I'm still going. Went round MIL's and stepdad in laws and they didn't have AF beer of course (they have a bar in their summer house full of alcohol). Went out to get some. MIL said I could have squash but it was a warm day and quite frankly I wanted a beer Grin
MIL said you are a bit of a liability when you've had a drink so good on u Grin

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 28/04/2022 10:57

I dreamt last night I'd had several drinks and got quite drunk and was devastated. Was having a go at DH for encouraging me. Woke up this morning feeling really weird and just remembered this dream. Hope everyone doing ok.

Haveatakeaway · 29/04/2022 11:07

Oh @teaandtoastwithmarmite I've had similar dreams and they're horrible. Dreamt I'd been really drunk and fallen out with family etc, and dreamt that I've been in a pub and was trying to escape but couldn't find the exit. I have that dream a lot though because of the agoraphobia, usually it's being trapped in a car park and not finding the car though, or not finding the exits in supermarkets.
how's everyone feeling about the bank holiday? I'm expecting my family to drink but I'm hoping temptation won't get the better of me. One day at a time as they say.
how are you doing @Bizzywater ?

Haveatakeaway · 29/04/2022 11:09

Ooh forgot to mention, Annie graces book is free on kindle unlimited at the minute. I got a three month free trial so will be reading that next, I've heard so many good things.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 30/04/2022 07:01

@Haveatakeaway yes it's weird. Your dreams sound terrifying and I can't imagine how difficult it must be. I'm ok about the bank holiday. Just keep going.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 30/04/2022 07:03

@Haveatakeaway I read that book as soon as I stopped drinking and I swear it's worked for me. Never managed to stop before so it has to have done. I read it and it really made me think about alcohol as a poison and how it is for me. I've never touched a drop since. I definitely recommend it Wink

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 01/05/2022 21:44

How's everyone doing?

Haveatakeaway · 02/05/2022 06:30

Morning everyone Brew
I had one can of lager last night, not sure why, didn't really want it. Opened another and gave it to dh. Hey ho. Starting Annie Grace today and can't wait! I've not been counting my days either so I'm going to start doing that again from today. I do want to be abstinent and not a moderate drinker because I can go from moderation to messy really quickly. Everythings better in my dry spells.
you're doing so well @teaandtoastwithmarmite .
how are you @Bizzywater ?
do you have a co-op near you @teaandtoastwithmarmite ? They have a great offer on atm, 4 proper beef burgers and 4 bottles of bud zero for £3.50 for both.
any bank holiday plans? I feel like doing a bit of a spring clean today.

Bizzywater · 02/05/2022 17:43

I had a wedding this weekend and I drank. I also look huge.
Not had a drink since yesterday and am determined to go back to the gym and lose the 2 stone I've put on in the last 12 months

Well done on moderating @Haveatakeaway x

Haveatakeaway · 02/05/2022 21:01

@Bizzywater I don't think id manage a wedding sober. Don't beat yourself up about 2 stones, I know easier said than done, but I'm sure.nobody else thought you looked huge. Be kind to yourself. We've got this. Fancy a challenge or something? One week dry from today and we can report on of were craving etc?

Bizzywater · 02/05/2022 21:36

Haveatakeaway · 02/05/2022 21:01

@Bizzywater I don't think id manage a wedding sober. Don't beat yourself up about 2 stones, I know easier said than done, but I'm sure.nobody else thought you looked huge. Be kind to yourself. We've got this. Fancy a challenge or something? One week dry from today and we can report on of were craving etc?

I had a lager after dinner as I have the sick feeling about going back to work. Happy to do a challenge and report back a week today

Haveatakeaway · 03/05/2022 07:21

Yay @Bizzywater . Good luck today at work Flowers
@teaandtoastwithmarmite bloody hell Annie Grace! I'm 80 pages in and loving it. Some mind boggling facts so far! She made me laugh as well when she said we had to acquire the taste of alcohol like she did the smell of cowshit when she went to college in farming town. Can you get a copy @Bizzywater ? It talks about fear aswell, which is a part of my problem but she breaks down so well.

Bizzywater · 03/05/2022 22:48

Which of her books is it @Haveatakeaway ?
Went back to the gym today and ate healthily.
No booze

Haveatakeaway · 04/05/2022 03:29

It's the naked mind one @Bizzywater have you read it? I'm still reading now. Well done on the gym!

Bizzywater · 04/05/2022 22:24

@Haveatakeaway no I haven't but I've bought it to read. Day 2 done.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 04/05/2022 22:51

@Haveatakeaway it's great isn't it 
Glad you're enjoying it and it's helping. @Bizzywater well done on the progress

Haveatakeaway · 07/05/2022 09:55

How are you doing @Bizzywater ? I had a drink with dh last night so I failed our challenge already, but we keep on keeping on I guess. didn't go mad or do anything stupid though and bed early so I don't feel too anxious or anything. Going to have a bbq later, any plans guys?

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 07/05/2022 19:04

Hi guys. I went to a comedy night last night. Been feeling stressed and hormonal all week so it was needed. No drinking. Still woke up with a headache though. Had nails done and eye tests. Went to gym this afternoon. DH has a gig so DD and I having a girls night.
@Haveatakeaway well done on the one drink

Bizzywater · 08/05/2022 17:29

I've been quiet cos I had a drink too @Haveatakeaway. Well obviously not just one. I've started reading the sober diaries which is good so far.
Let's keep going. We are doing a damn sight better than we were pre thread x

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