Wankerbastards move to 2020. With moderatin' a plenty. We rage against flouncers, strops and teens, and of dryness we have big dreams. We want teacups not fuckups!

[Frouby]

Thread 9 for the tryers to be dryers. Join us if you want some support to reduce alcohol. All welcome for support, laughs and moderating.

Will tag a few peoples name I can spell as I am useless at clicky links.

@flossie
@madameforest
@longestlurkerever
@dionoysa
@waterandlemonjuice

Wow, frouby, will of iron after that day. Hope you and ds are fully recovered soon.

I went for dinner with friends and a gig with dh. Managed to stick to one glass of wine at dinner (friends are not big drinkers) and one can of beer (at £6.75 a pop i wasn't tempted by a second!) so pleased with that and turms out dm is leaving this evening so can be AF after all.

Gig was good, though they didn't play my favourite song :-(. Dd1 has sorted her own book day costume (Lyra) hurrah, although i cant find her pine marten beanie baby to be Pan. Dd2 is currently wanting to be Elsa but i am dropping disparaging comments in the hope i can persuade her to wear her tiger onesie

That’s good moderating longest.

Ah Frouby, poor ds! 4 days is good, well done

Badger, I do feel better, yes.

Today is day 4 AF this week (assuming I don’t drink tonight, which I won’t) - it’s day 11 AF in Feb and day 31 overall AF in 2020. Hmm, not that great but probably better than last year. Did 2 miles on the treadmill, put washing away, tidied a bit, prepped supper so now I’m on the sofa under a cat. It snowed here this morning but is sunny and warn now!

Hi everyone,
There is some serious AF going on, well done everyone! I'm afraid I can't say the same, maybe 6 AF days in February nothing more.
Water I'm glad you are getting some exercise on the treadmill.
Frouby how is DS now? I hope the teeth are hurting less. ⭐️ for your DD
Longest I'm intrigued which band you saw last night, ant clues? It's always easier being abstemious when others are.

I'm on the boat back to France. Mum's funeral was yesterday and everyone thought the service was, well, enjoyable although that probably isn't the best word given the circumstances. And around a 100 people, she was very popular through her singing, golf and art activities.
Dad was very pleased I was there to organize everything and I spent some nice quality time with both him and DS.
But not AF! I will be today as driving hope from the port.
Have given up chocolate for Lent rather than wine 😂😂😂

And welcome back badger

Forgot to say how fast everyone drives in the UK on narrow country roads and there is so much traffic! Running is a nightmare except along the canal especially with my dog who came along.

Hugs for you Madame, i am so glad it was a lovely service. Safe journey! I hate country driving. I learned in London where you get impatient drivers and tight parking spots but there are streetlights and speed bumps rather than high speeds along windy lanes in the pitch black and trying to overtake into oncoming traffic.

Gig was Sleater Kinney at the Brixton academy. Do you know them? They are an all female indie rock band from New York.
Their best song which they didn't play is No Cities to Love, which is a big fave with my dds but i left them behind, oops.

Worked from home today but met my colleague for a meeting in a local cafe (how hipster) and then took my mum out for lunch, which was nice actually.

She's gone now and am contemplating wine after all. Starting to fret a bit about coronavirus after someone said schools might shut for two months.

More hugs, Madame. And .

Hedgehog, welcome back. Your post is a bit of a reminder that so many of us are trying to deal with quite horrendous stuff. It's certainly why I've ended up in this mess.

Having a very bad night tonight. I can't remember when I was last AF, but tonight is particularly miserable. There isn't a single thing to be glad about tonight.

Well done to you and DS for surviving the dentist, Frouby.

I am reading everyone else and will respond once I emerge from gloom.

Hugs Madame. I know what you mean about a lovely funeral. It’s a sad occasion but marked nicely. It’s comforting.

Longest I’m going to look them up. I haven’t heard of them but you and I have similar taste in music I think.

Dion sorry it’s shit at the moment. It’s hard to not get consumed by the gloom sometimes. I always try and keep in mind that a week changes everything.

Frouby, impressive moderating. I’ve lost track of days.

It’s been a weird and very sad week here. I don’t feel up to saying too much at the moment, but my friend’s husband/friend in his own right, died this morning. I can’t wrap my head around it. It doesn’t seem real, even though I saw him in hospital to say my goodbyes. I feel like I’ve been dreaming since Sunday. I’m sure it’ll come in waves.

Considering wine, but an early night wouldn’t go amiss.

Oh Dion, i am so sorry to read this, you sound in a lot of pain. Sending love.

Dh has gone out so i am AF after all but have the telly remote, which is nearly as good as wine.

Thank you, lovely Longest.
And huge hugs to NC4. xx I couldn't be less AF, but am reading and will take this all in tomorrow.

Oh NC4, we crossed posts. I am so very sorry for your loss too. Had a poignant conversation with dd2 about love and loss this afternoon as she is going through a curious phase Life can be a painful old business can't it? Xxxxx

It really can Longest

And thanks both for the hugs

NC4, an even bigger hug for you. I think you and I could really do with one in person because heating bills. As DD isn't here, the heating is off, so I am typing with two jumpers and gloves and a hot water bottle and gin

I swear this thread is what keeps me going.

NC4, I’m so sorry for your loss. Life can be so cruel and unpredictable.

Dionysa, I’m sorry you’re unhappy too lovely

Madame, I’m glad it went well and you spent some time with your father

thanks ,Water\

`I am so much not af.

My heart hurts for my DC and my uselessness.

Thanks for all your kind words you are a lovely bunch!

Dion you are most definitely not useless

NC4 I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. Was he ill before? He can't have been very old. Big hugs to you and I understand how it is hard getting your head around it, or even believing you won't see him again.

Home at last 🙂

madame biggest squishy hugs for you. I thought of you on Wednesday, am glad the funeral was nice. I think it's ok to say a funeral was nice,it's the last celebration for our loved ones and although we know that it is sad, it is ok for it to be nice. And it sounds like she had a massive turnout which is always lovely.

NC am so very sorry for your loss. Such a shock, even if expected when someone of your own generation dies.

Dion you are not a failure. You are doing your very best and your dd loves you. She might not show it but she does. Teenagers are so bloody difficult. My dd is a stressed mess over school and revision and exams and we aren't even that close yet. At least yours is more chilled out. We should swap for a few weeks to have a break from our own and practice trying to manage opposites.

I was dry last night by the skin of my teeth
So 5 days. Yay me. Auntie came home from hospital. Not because she is better but because norovirus has hit her ward and she is better at home. They are waiting for the biopsy results to come back which should be today or tomorrow. But are pretty sure it's some kind of weird autoimmune disease. She is on steroids and constantly being monitored and the hope is her liver slowly recovers with the steroids but nothing is 100%.

My bloody back was still buggered yesterday ffs. Even more sore tbh. Am ok sat or laid down it's just moving that's painful. Been dosing upon ibu during the day but took 2 cocodamol last night before bed. Had a lovely sleep at least lol. Was bang out by 9.30pm. I just can't take them during the day or I end up smashed. Despite the amount of narcotics I took in my yoof I am very sensitive to anything now.

Has anyone heard from Flossie? If you are reading lovely check in and let us know you are ok. Doesn't matter if you are drowning in wine, just need to know you are ok and we are here for you xxx

I'm planning on drowning in wine tonight.

Dion, lovely. Hard as it is to accept, we can't always protect our dc. Like frouby says, you have done your very best by them and that's all anyone can do. Love and hugs.

Flossie, thinking of you too.

Take care everyone.

Teenagers at everyone on this thread.

Frouby, I’m sorry about your back, back pain is awful. Poor auntie too although maybe it’s nice for her to be at home for a few days.

I’ve been wondering about Flossie and how she is too. Flossie, if you’re reading, I hope you’re ok.

Day 5 AF this week here if I don’t drink tonight, which I won’t. No wine in the house, no reason to drink, so I won’t. It’s day 12 AF in Feb and day 32 AF overall in 2020 according to my app. Dh is wfh today so that’s nice, I’m about to go on the treadmill for a bit. Slept from 11pm until 8.30am so that was nice!

Thank you all for being so kind.

I have also been wondering about Flossie. If you are reading, Flossie, you can't possibly be doing any worse in terms of AF than I am. I can't remember when I last managed a night, other than when having wine for lunch.

I feel horrendous today - was sick this morning. I would like to say it's a bug, but I think it is gin. I am very ashamed of myself. I haven't done that since forever.

I'm going to have to try Water's technique of having nothing in the house. Especially when the weather's so horrible, and I won't be able to face going to the corner shop in the rain and dark.

Frouby, I will gladly swap DDs for a week. The thing with mine is that she's actually stressed and anxious, and school are piling endless pressure on them to get 9s in everything (which DD will decidedly not be getting). In her case, though, stress and anxiety translates into endless meltdowns about having too much work and revision, and therefore doing none of it and watching endless TV on her laptop instead (the same laptop which she needs for revision, so I can't confiscate it).

You are doing very well with AF, as are you, Water.

I'm frightened of withdrawal symptoms if I stop.

Hi all hope you are well does anyone get swollen lymph nodes or throat after drinking every night for long periods ? Xx

Welcome doll. I sometimes have a sore throat when I first wake up but that's usually just dehydration. Are you drinking a lot? Maybe get it checked with a gp if you are worried. Keep a diary for a week tracking when it happens then go to see someone.

Well I had a very moderate Friday night. 2 beers and 2 small wines, probably 1/3 of a bottle. Dh didn't feel like drinking so I just had a couple cos Friday and cos dry for 5 days. Tonight should be moderate as well, got to get dd down to the lake for 6am in the morning, they are off to Stockton for some dragon boat training.

Back still sore ffs. It's worse in a morning, need to wait for ibuprofen to kick in. Weather absolutely vile. Again. I don't mind winter as a rule but the relentless rain and wind is getting a bit much now.

Hi Doll. No to sore throat unless I’ve been snoring which I do more if I’m drinking.

Frouby sorry your back is still painful.

We’re off to see friends for coffee this afternoon so that’ll be nice. I’m driving so won’t be tempted even if we stay until early evening.

Day 6 AF today if I don’t drink tonight which I won’t. Day 13 in Feb and day 33 AF in 2020 overall so I’m pretty pleased with that. I’m having a day off the treadmill but I’ve done 6 miles on it this week from doing no exercise at all so it’s a start. And I’m pretty much doing the BSD so keeping it under 1000 calories a day, hoping the results will show in a few months. I have two big events in June and July and want to look better by then so it’s an incentive to stay AF as much as possible.

I hope everyone is having as good a weekend as possible in the circumstances 💐 to all.

Evening all. Have been feeling a bit below par all day but don't know if it's because i overdid the wine last night or if it's because of period/slight cold combo. Either way i am having wine tonight but will try not to make the same mistake.

That said, had nice lido swim and lunch out with the family. Dd1 is on a sleepover next door so just one bedtime but dd2 made up for it by being knackered and hyper.

Can feel extra anxiety over this coronavirus thing but trying not to dwell too much. Morbid thought keep crashing in though and i am hugging the dc tighter.

Next door's chimney getting worse so i got council round. They didn't do much though. Said they'll write. Fat lot of good that will do. They said they'd send people round to take it down if it was threatening"the unsuspecting public but i can just avoid that bit of the garden can't i? Crock of shit. On the positive side he reckons it's the joint responsibility of sensible neighbours' landlords too so we might get more joy approaching them.

Morning! It's Sunday ! I'm pledging to have 5 free drink days this week !! Anyone wanna pledge with me ? Even if it's 2 days ? 5 days is a mammoth task to me ! But we can do this togther ! Xx