Wankerbastards and summer sunshine will make us want the bloody wine. But tryers to be dryers won't give up, and ice cold becks blue we will sup.

[Frouby]

Thread 7 for the tryers.

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Absolutely no judgements here, but there will possibly be swearing.

Other threads are dotted around but I have yet to master a clicky link.

senseless for now just say you are working a bit late. Or maybe meeting friends for coffee which I suppose you are really. See how you go for a couple of weeks then if it's something you will stick at, tell him then.

Ds back to school whoop whoop whoop.

Am sat with a coffee in peace and quiet and it's bliss.

Dh phoned me on way home from school run. Company we subby to, both directors are away from thursday. Bloke that usually does the paperwork is being sacked (been coming a while) and would I be interested in doing the admin for the week end. Really basic stuff, just scanning timesheets and sending them as an email. Said yes, but would want £100 for it. Apparently that's fine with 1 director, just got to check with other but one wants to know if I would be interested in something on an ongoing basis.

Might come in handy, still gonna pick up matched betting stuff but a regular income might be a good thing.

Longest - take the offer of babysitting. They’ll probably feel honoured and as if they are helping you out. Will give them a buzz and be lovely for you and dh. You don’t have to make it a late one. Maybe go out earlier and come home earlier and then have time with your aunts too. Enjoy.

Frouby - deffo grab the admin job. But totally make it on your terms!! Is this the one they offered you a few weeks back? I’d name your price if I were you! 😉

Last day of holidays here. Totally pissed off with dh. Have health anxiety through the roof and not a minute in the day to even think about me!! Am looking forward to tomorrow when both girls go back to school..just to be able to take a breath and think straight!!
Had one gin and one small glass of wine last night. Could’ve easily have drunk the other 3/4 of a bottle in the fridge but knew I needed to stop!! Was hoping for af!!

Yes Flossie it's the one that was bandied around a couple of weeks ago. The bloke that's been helping them out with it has been sacked this week for his site work. Both directors are tradesmen not admin people and I don't think either has a clue. I also helped another guy that has his own firmover the phone the other week with a query, he pays a book keeper £70 a week and she's not been doing a pretty basic return that has caused him issues, so I have a feeling he might decide to ask as well.

If I can do both on one day, and charge what I want I could potentially make a decent wage from it. Then do 3 days a week matched betting, have a day off in the week and do a bit of match betting for the big events I could be earning quite a bit, which will be handy for Christmas coming up.

Am not working today though. Just had a lovely wander around tescos, put my shopping away without anyone diving in it (apart from the dog ) and tidied the food cupboard out.

Going to have some lunch and then make a start on sorting my paperwork cabinet out.

Or have a nan nap. Not sure yet .

Frouby, I hope you had a nan nap, I LOVE them and often put my head back and sleep on the sofa for an hour at the weekend. and the week if I’m not working

Longest, agree re political situation, is total shitshow

Flossie, well done on stopping last night, that’s the bit I’m shite at.

Dion, how are you feeling about dp etc?

DAY FOUR AF for me today and will easily stay that way as I’m in bed with the telly already. I look terrible though, which is annoying. I was asleep before ten last night too.

Wowsers day 4! Have fetched shed and waiting for takeaway. Ready to get in PJ's and eat it in front of telly tbh so am on track for day 2. Hoping to manage day 3 as well

Frouby - sounds good re job. I chatted to potential job share partner on phone. She seemed nice and job seemed good. Will be a popular one though. Might stick my hat in the ring but won't get too hopeful.

Complete fail here. Will read properly tomorrow.

Hi all ! I'm new ! I want to quit so bad how many of you have young children ?? Mine are young and I'm stressed and once they are in bed it's hello wine 😫 xx

Welcome blissa. My ds is 5 and a double handful so I often need a drink just to get me to bedtime, never mind beyond. It's easy done, but the most important step is the first one.

Not dry tonight, 2 g and ts which is reasonable I think. Ds enjoyed his first day back followed by his swimming lesson. New swim teacher is brutal though, really pushed him. He did a full width of the pool without stopping for the first time ever!

Made some cauliflower buffalo wings tonight, they were lush. Dd will be farting like a trouper tomorrow, she's had loads and just disappeared upstairs with the last few. It was cauliflower from the plot as well, so very fresh. Glad I am not sat on her dragonboat tomorrow 😂😂😂.

Water day 4 is amazing, I bet you feel all zen like. I did have a nan nap, only 15 mins but I love a little powernap. DHs alarm goes off at 5.30am and I never seem to get back to sleep. By the time I have fed everyone and then sat down for half an hour its 8.30/9pm. Then I like to read for an hour so no wonder I am knackered!

Longest deffo go for the job. You have nothing to lose!

Evening all and hi Blissa my kids are older now but I know that wine was my friend when they were younger and went to bed, it made the evenings alone easier to cope with.

Frouby 😂😂** for the cauliflower, as your DD sits up front I pity the rest of the crew!
I wish I could nap, just to hyper all the time to relax.

Water 4 days AF is brilliant, my last 4 day stretch was probably a year ago, since DP has been around I've fallen off the wagon. But not drinking lots each night.

Longest good luck with the job share

Flossie enjoy your child free day tomorrow

Nothing to report here, iron supplement stem to be working so running is easier. Need to lose 2kg as jeans feel tight. Trying to keep up with the UK politics 😳😆😂😦

Hi blissa, welcome. My children are 10 and 8 now but omg the little ones do drive you to drink. In fact mine still can now.

AF again today. Have been pretty triggered but very very briefly and didn't seem worth caving. Really want to get some alright numbers on my app finally after weeks and weeks of going well over.

Hi everyone!

Well done senseless

Madame, you truly seem to have cracked moderating though, which is impressive 🙂

Hi blissa, welcome, my children are older too but teenagers can be bastards so...but many of us know what it’s like to drink a bottle of wine because it’s Wednesday

Frouby, lol at farty dd.

About to sleep. Although I don't look better I do feel better. I’m definitely sharper for mor drinking.

for not drinking, that typo looked like mor drinking 😂

Freudian slit (as a friend used to call it!)

I'm late to the party but please can I join in? I haven't had a drink since last Friday with the intention of staying sober this September. I had the day from hell and poured myself a big glass of wine when I got home, but funneled it back into the bottle after forgetting about it for an hour. I'd started drinking most evenings after work and weekends and realise I was relying on alcohol to get through the evening. It was affecting my anxiety, concentration, weight and general happiness so I've decided to try and knock it on the head for now. Reading this thread is so reassuring!

Thankyou for your warm welcome 😀 I too have health anxiety and the eldest has just gone back n again I keep lookin for signs of illness etc only thing to calm me is alcohol but I feel absolutely crap in the morning! Constantly thinking my drinking is causing me some serious illness and goin to kill me 😞Can anyone please recommend how to start AF days what you do in the evenings etc an app maybe ? Thankyou hope you all hav a good day xxx

Welcome any new people! I use an app called Drinkaware which is pretty basic but I like it. I’ve had a crap week in terms of alcohol. Have realised back to work is s definite trigger. I think it’s the bedtime routine that I’m looking to avoid...i will try to sort it out in my head as I feel rubbish. I know I can do it, too-managed a good long stretch over the holidays. Am chuckling imagining the cauliflower propelled dragon boat! And well done on four af days water. The mental feeling is great, I found.

Evening all

Day 2 of the new term and ds is knackered already 😂😂. Not taking him kayaking, it's cool and blustery here and although the sun is warm still, it's going to be a lot chillier than what it has been down at the lake tonight and he will insist on swimming at the end. So told him it cancelled and he can go next week.

He's happy with that, said he's going to 'have some froubyjnr time cos I been with people allllll day' He's definitely my child. Dropping dd off at dragonboating, then having my stew and dumplings, a nice bath and an early night. Am knackered too.

Will be dry. Was debating a gin and tonic but dh came home, had a shower and went to bed as he is shattered too. He worked all weekend so hasn't had a day off since bank holiday monday, and is working Saturday as well. Easy to be dry if he isn't drinking.

Was actually relieved that I didn't have to make a decision really about drinking, looking forward to my book in bed. Fuck knows why I do drink when I feel like this about it. It's ridiculous.

Feel better already after drinking far too much beer over the summer. Don't feel half as bloated and stodgy. Though I do have a bag of cadburys buttons in the fridge, hidden behind the baking stuff for later. 😄

Was determined to be dry tonight but I'm stressed n I don't even have a very good reason why ! Just a lot of everything gettin on top of me ! I get anxiety over health too and think is all this drinking going to give me a serious illness of my liver or link to me gettin cancer !! Does anyone else get this ??worry over the affects of their drinking on their health? Xx

Yes @Blissa, especially if I'm hungover. I get the guilts and then worry about what it's doing to my body. I tell myself I'll never drink again... til the next time 😣

Welcoming newbies. My kids are 4 and 8. Totally feel you all on the "bedtime=wine o'clock" thing. I need something else that signals the day is at an end. I do manage to be AF two or three nights a week but somehow I feel like those nights are just an extension of the working day somehow and the proper downtime is just postponed to the next day. Need to reset my thinking somehow, especially with winter coming as it's even harder then not to just descend into a sulky fug.

Still, am off tomorrow with dd2. Last day just is before she starts school next week so will make the most of it, though I have an ominous sore throat. She wants to go ice skating and to the "monkey cafe". Not sure how much she will really enjoy these in reality but it's her choice. Dd1 has been back a couple of days and so far so good. She likes her new teacher and had an impromptu playdate today.

DH had his first ME specialist appointment today. It was a weird classroom based group session and mainly focussed on background triggers etc but he has one a week followed by 1:1 sessions so FX they do some good. We were both working from home as a result so snuck out for quick child-free lunch.

Blissa- I absolutely get that too. It’s the only thing that makes me want to slow down on drinking. I love wine!! But my health anxiety is through the roof. I’m constantly terrified of cancer. I imagine every type under the sun and then put my pain to the symptoms and then go into massive panic mode!! Then I feel stressed. Then I drink!! And so it goes on!!
I’m really worrying myself currently as I’m getting constant rushes of adrenaline for no reason. And I feel I’ve got butterflies in my tummy randomly through the days. I just feel so vulnerable currently!! I sound like a right saddo!!
Oh and yes...Pinot is in the fridge waiting for me!! Fml

Catching up now, trying to drag myself out of my pit of misery...

Massive mistake to make DUP kingmaker. More Greek tragedy stuff come to pass

Beautifully put, Longest.

Was actually relieved that I didn't have to make a decision really about drinking, looking forward to my book in bed. Fuck knows why I do drink when I feel like this about it. It's ridiculous

Frouby, you say it for me. Why the fuck do I do this, when a book and bed is such a nice option???!

Your job possibility sounds very good. Fingers crossed... Also love the way you handle DS and his desire to go kayaking against the weather, without just saying 'not bloody likely'.

Blissa, stay with us! My DC are 15 and 17. I never drank a drop when they were little. It was divorce that did it for me (plus a kind of accumulation of all the stuff that led up to it - which was so, so awful).

Blissa, again, I have all the health anxiety too. FML. Plus I hate waking up at 3AM with beer fear. I know this. But I still drink. I had a dream last night about DP waxing lyrical about his beautiful female friend, telling me he was inviting her to stay, etc. Then I woke up and had beer (gin) fear for an hour. So why am I drinking again tonight??