Wankerbastards and summer sunshine will make us want the bloody wine. But tryers to be dryers won't give up, and ice cold becks blue we will sup.

[Frouby]

Thread 7 for the tryers.

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Absolutely no judgements here, but there will possibly be swearing.

Other threads are dotted around but I have yet to master a clicky link.

Day 1 again for me too, Water. I am plodding through it with no enthusiasm whatsoever.

Hugs, Flossie, for you and both DDs. I'd feel like crying in your situation, too. 8 lb in three weeks is great, though. It presumably coincides with you drinking less on holiday?

Frouby, I have threatened this before, but I'm coming to yours for dinner.

Cats, well done for resisting last night. How is Day 2 going?

So it’s been this bad a day!! 😂

That gin looks lovely tho 😂😂😂.

Dion you are always welcome. Wednesday is best, or Friday cos I don't stay dry 😂😂😂. Lasagne this Wednesday plus a vegetarian one for dd. With airfryer chips and homegrown salad.

Mmm lasagne, the best meal. DH can't eat it and for some reason the girls don't like it, crazy fools. Maybe I will make one just for me.

Flossie, I am sorry your day has been shit. What happened?

I am still on holiday. At chalet now. Is nothing fancy, just a Welsh holiday park chalet, but it has a flushing loo, warm shower and even a washing machine, do luxury compared to camping. Have been swimming in the sea and heavy landscape engineering the beach to dd specifications. What happened to a simple castle eh? Not dry. But holiday.

Failed today. Also had a shit day and the call
Of the half bottle of wine in the fridge was too much. So much for dry Monday 🤦🏻‍♀️

Hey Flossie, you ok?

I'm alone in the house and went for a mini run. Back to week 1 day 1 of c25k. Still, you have to start somewhere. Day 3 here so feeling ok.

Longest whereabouts in Wales are you? Near a lovely beach?

Dion and Water - day 1 is the worst. Tomorrow will be better.

Frouby, you have the greenest of green fingers. I want to eat at yours too!

Good night all and happy holidays to all on holiday.

Hello everyone. Hugs to anyone having a crap time. Wales sounds fab. The joy of flushing loos after camping is not to be underestimated! I have managed 7 whole nights af. I cannot tell you all how bloody chuffed I am. I’ve survived a night at pub with colleagues, difficult dc and a weekend. I’m so hoping I’ve cracked it. I have never managed 7 nights apart from very early pregnancy.

GOSH! well done Haggis. Work colleagues, difficult kids and a weekend - the unholy hat trick!

Thanks senseless. Well done on your run.

Well done Haggis hurrah! If you survived that you can survive anything!

Senseless we are on the edges of Pembrokeshire near Tenby next to a lovely beach called Freshwater East. We have stayed in this chalet before, when I was reeling from my third miscarriage, so it is nice to come back with dd2 very much present, even though they are also being pests. Better go and investigate actually. They seem to have set up a duvet slide on the stairs ...

Rest of festival was fun. We bumped into some people we know from the DC school. Saw Idles and fireworks and my favourite James Yorkston, which the kids seemed to appreciate too which was sweet. Almost wanted to go and introduce them because he feels like a pal I have been going to his gigs for so long, but then I remembered he doesn't know me from Adam!

Lasagne, Frouby. ❤️

Wow to Haggis!

Loving the holiday news, Longest.

Are you ok, Flossie?

I am battling through Day Two, hating every minute of it, and wondering if I can go to bed yet. I thought it was Day Three, which doesn't help (how is Day Four going, Senseless?)

Hi everyone

Longest - your holiday sounds great.

Dion - day 4 is fine. I cancelled something with a friend tonight - someone I hardly see and was really looking forward to - she doesn't drink - she was going to be later than I thought and I didn't fancy hanging around after work, feeling so tired - I realise now I am safe home that I was afraid of drinking while waiting. And I am so in love with my own company and my empty house, this week. I never have this. I just want one week of listening to the sounds in my own head.

How are you now?

Hope everyone is doing ok x

It sounds as if you've nailed it this week, Senseless. That's fantastic. How I am is grumpy and fed up. It's not as if there's nothing to do here, either. in fact, there's so much to do that it's overwhelming. I just can't face any of it.

Oh Dion, I feel your pain. I realised I often drink when I can’t face all there is to do-trouble is, its still there when I’m half pissed! Im finding it hard tonight. Senseless, I hope you’re enjoying the peace. Well done on not drinking.

Evening all

Well done dryers, day 1/2/3/4 and above, any dry day is a win.

Had a bloody stressful day today. My mam isn't very well with a bad chest infection so went to see her and realised she is getting even more forgetful. Then my auntie popped round and she's just as daft. So was like Carry On Dementia there. Then dsis turned up with her 2 feral dcs which always makes ds hyper.

Escaped from there eventually to go to ponies. Both ponies were absolute knobheads. LittlePony went round on the lunge like he had won at Horse of the Year show. So ds threw a major wobbly because I wouldn't let him get on. Because hos arse isn't that sticky.

Then BabyPony was a knobhead coming up from field, so decided to just lunge, not ride which is fortunate as she was an absolute wankerbastard. The fucker galloped round bucking, squealing and farting, then shot off at 100mph. Bloody good job I had gloves on or would have lost the skin off my hands, if not worse. And if I had got on, would have been splattered 😂😂😂. The best I could have hoped for is being bucked off. So recaptured her then made her work bloody hard for 25 minutes.

Dd was mortified, said she isn't ever riding again and I shouldn't either. Tokd her I know the ponies inside out and lunging before getting on lets me assess hownthey are feeling so would never get on something that was winding.

Got home via tescos about 4pm. Fed ds, tidied round then had a quick shower then took them kayaking. Walked through door at 8.15pm glass of wine by 8.17pm 😂😂😂😂

Had 2 now off to bed. Up early to lunge both ponies again then dsis coming with her ds for nature reserve and allotment with the boys.

Be bloody glad when September rolls around. Am peopled out by my own kids 😂😂😂

I’m ok thanks Dion. Well actually I’m not. Spent most of today in tears. Feel so abandoned. Never thought at 45yrs old that I could feel this but I do. 😔

Flossie is it tomorrow you are going to DD's appointment in London? Are you Ok ?? Good luck tomorrow and you can do this, remember you are strong, don't put yourself down

Flossie, I am so sorry I am not there. I would have come to meet you. Sorry you feel so let down. I think people can be crap with chronic things. They rally in a crisis but have no staying power. Hugs. You can do this.

Frouby I am totally with you being peopled out by your own kids. We had fun on the beach this morning, swimming and boating and rock pooling but they have been doing my head in ever since. We seem to have done a tour of Pembroke retail parks looking for body boards and they were so grabby it was untrue. We were going to go to the pub quiz at the site club house but they were done in so I said no. They shrieked like anything and wouldn't go to bed. I got cross. Eventually we struck a deal and went to quiz for one round but I am still reeling. Think hormones are at play. Feel a bit weepy.

Very impressed by the dry days everyone. I am nowhere near dry.

Madame. Yup it’s tomorrow. Can’t put it here but have feel completely shit on by my family. Dh has in fact been great but can’t be there for us due to work commitments. So I’m travelling alone. Have broken the journey. Drove today 3 hours. Train for 2hrs tomorrow. Terrified of trains. And terrified of cities. Live in the middle of nowhere!! (Very Brittany style!) trying so hard to be brave for my daughters. But struggling more than I thought.

Longest - that’s so sweet of you. That would’ve been so great.

I’ve never felt so alone. I’m in awe of my girls and prouder than can be. They keep me going.

You are so right. People love gossip or acute disaster type situations where they can ‘help’. However when things happen chronically, it becomes boring for them. However this is life for us. My daughter stops breathing several times a week and I still have to get my shit together. Sadly I can’t forget about it and move on. My family seem to have normalised it and forgotten.

flossie you can do this mama. I am so sorry your family have let you down, but you can do this today. You keep your dd alive, so 2 hours on a train is easy peasy for you. 😘😘😘

Seconding what Frouby says, Flossie. 😘

Good luck Flossie.

I expect you are safely on your way now Flossie. You will be ok. Trains are on your side, getting you where you need to go, and home again. Cities are ambivalent. They don't give much away but expect nothing from you. I find that comforting but I can see how it may be scary. But not as scary as you manage every day. I echo the others, you have got this. I hope your dds continue to be good for you and your appointment goes well. If nothing else you will come home having accomplished something.

Had a lie in and have tidied up chalet. Feel a bit better. Don't know what we are doing today though. Weather is not grim but meh. Maybe Tenby

OMG i wish I could give you all a massive hug and say a mahoosive thank you for being there for me. Im so grateful.

I did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Currently on way back to Dorset on train. Bought two mini bottles of wine and a plastic glass....and don’t care!!

We went by train, across to Covent Garden, had a pizza and a nose around, to gosh for appointment. Then raced back to Waterloo and am on the train. On the bloody TRAIN!!! Go me!!

Back to my parents house. They out tonight. Dd has offered to cook for me. So will chill with my girls and not give a damn. Then go to bed as my parents get home.
Then drive 3hrs home tomorrow. Feel so proud and elated. Know it sounds silly and weeny to others but mahoosive to me, someone who’s rather sit in a field than on a train!!

Thanks again you gorgeous lot for your kind words.

Will be back in the room later or tomorrow x

Woohoo Flossie! Enjoy your wine and your girls. How sweet of DD to offer to cook. I have had a good day too. Lovely lunch overlooking the sea, body boarding and kite flying this afternoon. 2 appreciative and sleepy girls tucking into pizza and then hopefully off to bed. X