Wankerbastards and summer sunshine will make us want the bloody wine. But tryers to be dryers won't give up, and ice cold becks blue we will sup.

[Frouby]

Thread 7 for the tryers.

Join us for tips and support for encouraging a more healthy relationship with alcohol. Whether you want to drink less, or not at all, stay in your units or just cut down this is the thread for friendship, support, tips and ideas.

Absolutely no judgements here, but there will possibly be swearing.

Other threads are dotted around but I have yet to master a clicky link.

Fifth night, Haggis? That is seriously impressive. I've already written off tonight, but am going to try again tomorrow. I need to feel the excitement...

Loving the festival descriptions longest sounds amazing.
haggis that’s brilliant news, well done.
AF is not feasible for me for the week ahead, but I’m going to try and curb the excesses to whatever extent I can. I didn’t do brilliantly last night and can feel the wine this morning again. However I didn’t make a tit of myself and remember the whole evening clearly which is better than nothing!

Longest - loving your festival feed back!! Jarvis!!!!!!!!!

Oh Longest I so wish I was there!! Sounds incredible. Jarvis ❤️
Saying that though, I did hug Clint Boon from the Inspiral Carpets last night 😂
We were in Manchester for a friend’s 50th and ended up dancing in a basement where he was DJing. He dropped some absolute gems too.
I’m totally over drinking now. I think my insides are pickled. But I had fun...

Love Jarvis, am weljel of your festival Longest. Apart from a few dodgy raves in fields and stadiums when I was younger have never been to one. Cousin is starting a new business up and it maybe something she will do and I can see me maybe getting involved in it all so perhaps it's something I will end up doing in the future.

Wasn't dry yesterday. Went to the pub and then for a curry with DH and Ds. Enjoyed it, though ds woke me up at 3am to say he had been sick

@longestlurkerever the festival sounds amazing. There are some great festivals going on atm.

Heavy weekend here. Bottle of wine on Friday and slept terribly. Then went to the pub with dp last night, 2 large glasses of wine there and half a bottle over a curry when I got in. Slept great though and have managed to get a lot done in the house and garden today. Trying to stay AF today but that half bottle in the fridge is tempting me.

I can really see the weight creeping on lately, all of my clothes feel tight and my face is puffy and bloated. Diet isn't great either (curry, kebab and McDonald's this weekend 😱😱) but again it's these bad habits that I find so hard to break.

Gosh Jarvis!!

DrinkCoach tells me I'm on 15 units for the week. That's the first time in ages I've been anywhere near the recommended limit in .... I dread to think how long. Still it's not great that it's all in 2 nights - binge drinking 11 in one night not ideal.

Cats, tell me about it. I look 10 years older than this time last year because I suspect I'm over a stone heavier

Frouby, hope your ds is ok.

Great to hear from all of you. KOKO

Won’t be dry tonight. Have spent 6 hours building dd’s cabin bed thingy. 6 bloody hours on a Sunday afternoon!! Mind you, did it with dh and dd and there was not one row!! Which is a miracle as it’s a standing joke that dh is a knobber when doing anything team work!! So win with it really. But still need wine NOW!!

well done though!!

Well done flossie team work with family members, that’s a miracle in itself.

God, yes, to team work with family. That would be enough to drive anyone to drink.

Hope your DS is ok now, Frouby.

Have had 2/3 bottle in the pub. More abstemious friend had the other 1/3. The challenge now is not to delve into the cupboard to find anything at all drinkable.

FML.

I never went to a rave of any description. I did, though, see Pulp in Manchester about 25 years ago.

Senseless, I can consume 15 units in one night, so would be glad to do that in one week. 😂

NC4 The Inspirals!!!!! ❤️

Cats, have you resisted?

However I didn’t make a tit of myself and remember the whole evening clearly which is better than nothing

Nodding along, Leaving. I'd be glad of that.

Hi everyone
I hope you all had a good weekend.
Longest the festival sounds great fun, even with the mud and I'm so impressed you make it a family event

Haggis 5 days AF is fantastic well done

Senseless 15 units is only one over the recommended limit so you've done really well. I remember the time (pre DH) when I stuck rigidly to 10 units a week without a problem. He leads me astray now.

Cats alcohol is essential to cut out if you want to lose weight. I lost 5kgs when I cut down to 10 units a week and I wasn't overweight then, just too heavy to run fast.

Flossie enjoy your wine tonight, you deserve it if you managed to remain civil over a flat pack assembly. But if you are really stressed about the trip to London a couple of nights AF will be good, at least then if there is the slightest problem you will at least know that you are functioning at 100% to deal with it. It is never the case when you have drunk the night before.

Dion AF tomorrow instead!

I was working this weekend, didn't abuse but half a bottle Fri and Sat is still too much. Today went to a friend's birthday barbecue and drank the grand total of 2 small wines, then played palets (a Breton variation on boules) you throw large heavy metal coins at a wooden board on the ground) which was surprisingly good fun and best done sober.

@Flossie44 we recently erected a cabin bed for my ds and it was the most arduous task. Dp and I were not speaking by the end so you've done well!

@Frouby hope your son is feeling lots better.

@Dionysa I have resisted tonight! I was close to caving in - the thought of a half bottle of open wine sitting in the fridge going stale (does wine go stale) was almost too much! But I stayed strong and busied myself with reading and a long bath instead.

@MadameForest I really do need to cut down. My belly has expanded so much. I've never had the best diet but since my drinking has crept up it's got a lot worse. Wine is one of the worst for calories too. Someone mentioned switching to clear spirit and slimline tonic instead.

Have had a really productive weekend but feeling a bit low tonight. Really really lacking in confidence body wise, I feel like none of my clothes fit or look nice on me. I'm now a large 14 whereas I've always been a comfortable 12. I know what changes I need to make (booze reduction being one of them) but just lack the willpower to stick to it. I will try and remain AF until Wednesday at the earliest now. So looking back over last week I had 3 days on the wine and 4 AF which isn't too bad I guess....just need to learn the art of not finishing a bottle of wine in one evening 🤦🏻‍♀️

Cats I can really relate to lacking body confidence. I have absolutely ballooned over the last 18 months. I’ve gone from a curvy 12/14 (which I’m confident at) to a puffy 16/18. There’s at least an extra two stone there - three if I’m being really honest.

I went shopping yesterday and managed to find some clothes which were ok-ish but it was all about creating optical illusions to try and look slimmer. And that shit only works in the shop changing room. Catch myself in a mirror or (horror) a photo later and the harsh reality hits.

I really, really need to get on top of this.
It’s so self destructive.

I think I need to figure out my triggers.

@NC4Now it's awful isn't it. I always begin the week with a positive outlook and try to be good with AF days and a healthier diet (I've made a salad to take to work today). But as the week goes on it all slips and by the weekend I'm necking wine and shovelling takeaways in my face just because 'it's the weekend!!!'

so I think with me it's habits and mindset that need completely changing.

I think I also need to do some clothes shopping and accept I need a bigger size rather than continuing to squeeze into my current wardrobe and feeling self conscious and uncomfortable.

How did everyone do last night????

Dion I've never been to a rave either. Went to a few pop concerts, even a couple of big ones at Wembley but honestly can't remember who I saw, none of them were particularly memorable.
Cats well done on being AF. I'm sure gin and slimline is a better option than wine which is nearly all sugar. I don't like any alcohol except wine so if I don't drink that I drink fizzy water, there is no alternative.
NC4 can you join a slimming club? Or can your personal trainer help you?
There was an article I read recently that said September is the best time to break bad habits rather than January, we are back in a routine, it is still light enough to do sport before and after work, it isn't a depressing month like January etc. etc.
Fasting here until this evening despite a 10 mile run and hopefully AF tonight.

Wow Madame, fasting after a 10 mile run is impressive. When I’ve run I want to eat everything in sight!!
That’s interesting what got say regarding September being a better month to start. I would certainly agree with that notion. I’ve had better results in the past in sept. I give myself until Christmas to make a difference. It seems achievable.

So I had a bottle last night. Felt mega guilty but then thought in total I’ve had about 2.5 bottles this week and a small gin. Which I’m actually really chuffed with. Compared with my usual history. So I’m going to be dry tonight for sure. I’m driving a 3 hour journey tomorrow and want to be clear headed. Plus I know this week won’t be dry so I need to force some balance while I can.
On the eating and weight front. My weight has rocketed too. I’m 2 stone over weight. Since back from holiday I’ve been using the fitness pal app. It’s great. Worth a try. I’ve used it before with great effect and lost loads. I weighed this morning and I’ve lost 3 pounds this week. So 8lbs in total in 3 weeks. I’m happy with that.
Happy Monday everyone. X

8lbs in 3 weeks is fantastic Flossie, you must be chuffed to bits.

I am happy with maintaining between now and September if I am honest, I find the change in routine for school holidays really hard. Am planning on lots of wholesome food when the dcs are back. I don't even really mealplan in the holidays and we have more takeaways as a result. Friday we had kebabs, Saturday indian and last night we had pizza hut and I really feel the impact of fatty, stodgy food. Was at least dry last night though which is 1 thing.

Yard owner away on her hols this week so am up to ponies every day. Ds still coughing so going to try and get a gp appt to have him checked over.

It’s damage limitation during the holidays though isn’t it frouby. I wouldn’t beat yourself up about what you’re eating currently. You are constantly on the move to counter balance it all. Plus sept is indeed a great time to start afresh.
Hope your ds is ok. I’m currently waiting for my doctor to call me back about dd1. She had two courses of steroid tabs just before we went on hols. She was fine there. And within 48hrs of returning, her asthma is awful again!! Hacking cough and wheeze!! Have tried to sort it with stuff we have at home but think she’s going to need more steroids, which is crap really. 3 courses in 6 weeks. Slippery slope!!
Currently reading The Couple Next Door. Not as good as The Lie but easy reading.
Feeling sad today about impending London trip. Feel a bit sorry for myself and let down by people. Dh can’t come as too busy at work. My sis was going to meet me in London but is busy. And my parents, who I’m staying with as a halfway house, won’t be there wed night when I get back from the London app, as are going out for the evening. Just feel a bit abandoned in a shit situation. I’m not a cryer, but it kinda makes me want to!! Know that sounds wet..but!!

Had such good intentions for tonight. But been one of those days!! Everything’s been a stress or hassle or rush.
Got home late tonight having taken dd’s out shopping!! Jeez that in itself warrants wine. Then got home and only a weeny bit of wine in bottom of bottle. So thought ‘hey I’ll have gin’. No cold tonic. So found a bottle of fever tree to stick in freezer. Opened freezer and there before me is another exploded bottle of fever tree from last week. Glass erupted everywhere!! All over food in freezer and all over kitchen floor!! Fml!! So not dry. Not sure what I’m going to be drinking but I may well go through anything in the cupboards!!!!!!!!!

Evening all

Flossie I need to take dd shoe and bag shopping this week. I am doing it on Wednesday I think. Because I can drink on Wednesday because no kayaking. Because no one can survive shopping with teen dds without the promise of drink.

Had ds at docs for this twatting cough. Dr not concerned, his chest and lungs are clear and no other asthma symptoms apart from the cough thank fuck. Asthma is horrible and I would hate my dcs to have it. So she thinks its just a post viral thing hanging around. So that was very good news.

Just picked dd up from dragon boating, she's still really loving it. And had some praise tonight from the team GB dragon boat coach so she's chuffed to bits. Was hula hooping when I got there with some of the others and she could do that straight away as well. She's never been at all sporty, I think it's because there are no other teenage girls to feel intimidated in front of. Peer pressure is horrible for some kids I think and they won't try anything sportswise incase they fail in front of other girls.

So was dry but only because I was driving. Had poached haddock, new potatoes, french beans and peas for dinner with the veg and spuds from the plot which is aways nice. Then having jam sponge and custard for pudding in a minute with eggs from our chooks as well. I like this time of year when we start eating plotment harvest. The tomatoes have just started to turn red as well, getting 4 or 5 cucumbers a week, got more French beans and runner beans to pick and a freezer full, a huge bag of new potatoes, courgettes coming out of my ears and another load of beetroot to pickle. Plus the sweetcorn are almost ready.

So dry on day 2 and probably dry tomorrow as we have kayaking til 8pm.

Hello everyone, drank on Friday, Saturday and Sunday but AF today. Felt shit at work today, which serves me right

Day 1, again