Wankerbastards and summer sunshine will make us want the bloody wine. But tryers to be dryers won't give up, and ice cold becks blue we will sup.

[Frouby]

Thread 7 for the tryers.

Join us for tips and support for encouraging a more healthy relationship with alcohol. Whether you want to drink less, or not at all, stay in your units or just cut down this is the thread for friendship, support, tips and ideas.

Absolutely no judgements here, but there will possibly be swearing.

Other threads are dotted around but I have yet to master a clicky link.

Flossie 1 g&t is fine, it’s moderating!

Longest, agree a half doesn’t count either

Madame, 1 glass is good

I read the Catherine Gray book, it was ok. Can’t remember it that well (was definitely sober reading it!) so meh

Dion, YOUR failure to tidy HER room? Gotta love an unreasonable teenager!

I’m ON DAY FIVE! wanted wine after a hard work day but resisted and am now in bed watching crap telly. Go me! Had a tough meeting this afternoon and realised I’d have found itMUCH harder had I been hungover. I mean, obviously but why I have been drinking in the week when I’m working is beyond me really

I had two small glasses of wine this evening and they went straight to my head. It was easy to stop because I got the buzz I wanted. Only 3 days off and my tolerance has gone right down! I love it. Then quickly the buzz wore off again and I am totally functional now. I guess this is how normal people drink? It's nice but I can't take it for granted that I can do this.

Senseless. That’s fab. I too felt the buzz after my g&t. Something I don’t feel after an entire bottle of wine usually. But 3 days off made me get that back too!! It made me realise also.
I’ve got friends who say they don’t drink. Just socially. Then we get together for dinner occasionally and they drink more than me, and still stand. That’s what I find wierd really - that they aren’t used to it but can drink more than me on a bender. I’m a bottle of wine girl, whether it’s alone at home, or on a night out. Doesn’t seem to give me the buzz at home, yet on a night out it hits me hard in the face!! Either it’s the good vibe while out, or maybe I loose count while topping up my glass, and actually drink more than I think.

Crawling in shame faced after over doing it to mark start of holidays. Didn't sleep well, feel a bit minging. Need to channel you, Flossie and senseless. Off to Wales today.

@Flossie44 one g&t isn't a big deal! I don't think stopping drinking altogether is a realistic goal for too many of us here, it's more about moderation which you've done, I wish I could. Once I've opened a bottle of wine I will finish a bottle of wine. Don't know if it's greed or just compulsion.

@SenselessUbiquity same goes for you, two glasses is better than a bottle and if you got the desired buzz then it's win win!

I managed AF last night so I've had mon, tues, thurs AF this week. But now the weekend has landed it'll all go downhill I predict. I feel like I've done really well this week but if I end up drinking tonight and tomorrow it's likely to still be 3 bottles this week which is a third over the recommended allowance. So perhaps not that great after
All....

Morning all

Flossie 3 days and 1 g and t is absolutely fucking amazing. Especially compared to a bottle a day. You must be chuffed to bits.

I have solved teenage dramas over food by just filling the fridge and feezer with veggie food and leaving her to it. Feeding everyone gives me the rage, especially fussy, veggie, health conscious dd. As long as she eats have stopped being stressed over what she eats. But have found all this watersports has made her hungry so that pleases me greatly.

Took them to an extra slalom training session yesterday afternoon. Ds was absolutely hilarious. He loves the kayak coach and feels very comfortable him, which means ds is at his funniest. He had the coach, the other parents watching and me in hysterics. He's just about this side of being cheeky but gets away with it because he's cute.

Coach was timing them through gates. Ds sets off
' Right Froubyjnr, race to yellow gate, the to red one'
'I am doing Bob, just be patient'

Was sooo funny.

Frouby 😂

Hello everyone, I’m joining again! I’m on my fourth sober night tonight and I’m determined to keep going this time for as long as I can. Fingers crossed!

Tiny weeny insy winsy bit of wine in my glass currently. Sipping it as if it were made of gold!!

Where are you allllllll? It’s as if I’m in a lonely backstreet pub alone...hugging my glass!! 😂😂

So the teeny weeny bit turned into 3/4 bottle. Am stopping now. If I finish it, it makes a lot of difference to how I feel tomorrow!!

Have loved my wine tonight after a few nights off. Have felt the fuzzy effects as any normal person would.

Only problem is..haven’t had you lovely lot to chink chink with!! Where are you all?!?! 👀

Haha chink Flossie! I am in a muddy field in Wales. Kids have crashed out in their wagon and I am swigging bag in a box wine from a metal water bottle prohibition style! Am at the green Man festival

I’m here 👋🏼
Not the soberest of sausages but ok with it. Longest Id love to take my kids to festivals. I’d be on the ale because that’s part of it. Have a fabulous weekend 😄

I think that’s the thing I miss most, single parenting. Being part of a team. There’s tonnes of stuff we’d do with another enthusiast adult on board but with just me and the helm its lame.

Ah well... they are away for the weekend. I’ll get plans afoot.
Love to you all - especially those under canvas

Hi all, I’ve been missing in action (drinking obviously). I’m writing this down in the hope that it triggers something and will report back tomorrow morning. On holiday. Drinking like a fish (what a weird expression that is). No off switch at all. Every evening hammer wine for a couple of hours, crash out early and wake around 4:30am. Feel shit. I’m cooking for 6 tonight and I really want not to drink 8 glasses of wine.
I’m reading you all...

I was in bed fast asleep Flossie, am not usually a night owl.

Wasn't dry, 2 peroni (my favourite beer, good job it's expensive) and 2 cans of carling so not horrendously wet for a friday.

Busy today. Dh just gone to the tip, I am off to allotment after dropping dd off for canoe polo training followed by dragon boating. Won't be dry today I don't think.

Flying by... Out last night and work now but will be back later.

NC4, you say it for me with There’s tonnes of stuff we’d do with another enthusiast adult on board but with just me and the helm its lame. That's my life with the DC in a nutshell. I try not to think about it, because it makes me sad.

Frouby, your little DS is a complete star.

Flossie, it's interesting that your tolerance went down. Don't beat yourself up about 3/4 bottle. I would end up drinking the whole thing at that point. You evidently found the same, Senseless. If I could get to Day Sodding Three, I might agree.

Longest, your posts make me laugh so much.

Cats, and Leaving, how are your weekends going?

Welcome back, Haggis

I went out with DP last night, and was fully expecting to drink lots. However, he had jet lag and was a bit under the weather. So we had a large G&T each and then I had a large glass of wine. He offered me more, but I said no as I didn't like the idea of drinking while he wasn't. So I was completely sober by the time we went to bed. And I actually enjoyed the feeling.

However... that hasn't stopped me tonight, as I was in Tesco and in a moment of weakness bought a reduced bottle of gin. Only a small one, but I shouldn't have bought it at all. But both DS is out all night at a party and DD is at a sleepover, so I am not responsible for anyone. I am not sure I will be able to moderate, though.

Epic fail of a weekend for me. Bottle of wine last night and pub tonight which resulted in a few glasses of wine. Feeling the buzz but pissed off with myself, I'm literally SO fat atm and I know wine isn't helping.

Definitely going to have an AF day tomorrow. I wish I could somehow break these lifestyle habits but somehow weekend just = drinking for me.

Cats, you are not alone. I have been invited to the sodding pub tomorrow, too.

Hey Dion, that’s serious moderation last night!! Especially when offered more!! I’d always say yes!! Gin and peace sounds bliss tonight.

Frouby - i used to teach canoe polo. The best sport ever!! So exciting!! Hope dd loves it like I did!!

Cats- hey don’t beat yourself up. That’s not too bad. And tomorrow is a new day.

NC4. Hope your weekend is good

Longest - how’s camping?? I pmsl at your post last night. Drinking wine out of a metal water bottle!! Sounds ace!!

Leaving - how you doing?

Bottle down last night and nearly a bottle down tonight and still going!! Fml. Weirdly I feel more stressed while drinking than when I was dry. I also woke with acid indigestion last night whereas was fine when not drinking. I need to learn. I need some more dry days for sure. Trouble is I feel a bit ‘fuck my life’ today. Maybe cos of wine. Who knows. Am just shitting myself about going to London this week. So feel I need to drink myself through it!! Wrong I know. But don’t know another way to cope. Am going alone with both dd’s. Not my comfort zone!! Maybe I need a couple af nights to build strength before I go!!

Oh Flossie. You are so brave and strong, though you don't know it. Your DC are so lucky to have you. We are all dealing with horrible stuff, so it's hardly surprising that we are here. But we can at least try to look after one another, from a distance.

I know all about the acid reflux thing.

Have written tonight off.

Waves to everyone else!

Hey. Festival had been absolutely wicked today. Is a total bubble of middle class liberal wankers like me and a fabulous escape. I wish I could live here, despite the camping and mud. I love the music and the scenery and there's so much for the kids to do. They were zorbing and tightrope walking and making models out of clay. Dd2 has crashed out in her wagon and dd1 has been at her hyperactive best bouncing around the field in her Pikachu onesie like a manga vision of the Duracell bunny. Have shared an illegal water bottle of wine with DH but contemplating another....

I can empathize with you on the enthusiastic team thing. Because of DH's ME he is never an enthusiastic supporter of doing anything much, and he was in a proper stress about dragging all the camping stuff across a field, which to be fair was less than ideal in the pelting rain and mud swamp, but today has been really lovely and the sun has come out. I think it'd be ok to do lone parentwise actually but it's fucking pricey. We justified it to ourselves as bring lower carbon footprint than flying somewhere but it'd no cheaper, not even counting all the things the DC have stung is for. At the moment I am thinking I might come every year though! Ask me again after three nights in a tent.

Love to all, especially Flossie xxxx

Longest - bloody love your description as ‘liberal middle class wankers’. I need to be there obviously 😂😂
All sounds amazing!! Enjoy!!

Oh NC4 I forgot to say I was thinking of you earlier when I went to watch Jarvis Cocker doing a talk. The rest of the family rolled their eyes. Told dd1 he was one of my heroes and she said " still, mummy, we are not going to stand in a tent listening to a bloke talking". Which was probably fair as objectively speaking it was a bit lame, but it was Jarvis! He said he'd be in the karaoke tent later and I am having to restrain myself from sacking off actual bands I want to see to go and investigate. DH keeps looking at all the expensive shite for sale and saying "fucking hippies. Biggest capitalists of them all". But in an affectionate way I think!

Jarvis!!! ❤️

Jarvis!! So would. I am on my FIFTH af night in a row!! It’s like a switch clicked in my brain recently-I really have become aware of how much I drink compared to others. I felt excited about being af and that has got me through so far. I NEVER thought I would manage this. I’m not saying I’m never drinking again, but am taking it a day st a time. I have noticed my sleep has improved with a lot less snoring and I have lost about half a kilo so far.