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Wankerbastards will upset us that try, but we will still be dry. Or dryer at a push. It's a good job we are not in a rush.

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Frouby · 23/05/2019 08:15

Thread 6 for the Tryers to be Dryers.

Support thread for reducing alcohol, stopping alcohol, monitoring alcohol. All welcome, absolutely no judgement. Whatever your aims with alcohol come and join us here. Lots of swearing but no judging or criticising.

Previous threads dotted around but can never do clicky links.

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longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 10:05

Gosh check that out. Free day after all after walk in X ray clinic took 20 mins and blood test 5. Gobsmacked.

NC4Now · 28/06/2019 10:56

Well that sounds perfect Longest. Lovely day for it. Did they find the missing coil?

Yes, he's 17 on Sunday, so only just still 16. He's young in his year anyway, and got bumped up a year at college because he already had level one construction which he did while he was at school, and passed his maths and english (a lot of the lads on the trade courses have to do resits).

He's very mature though. Some days he blows me away with his wisdom and insight. Then the next day he asks me which part of a lettuce is the eating bit.

SenselessUbiquity · 28/06/2019 11:11

ha ha Longest you are so right about these alpha men who might look alright and be very charming but they are just too awful to fancy when you get down to it. I think they can't stop themselves from thinking that they're successful because they're better than everyone else, and I can't overlook how annoying and WRONG that is.

My boyfriend has all that can-get-stuff-done-physically vibe which is really hott. But is also quite arty and I can talk about all my effete crap with him too :)

My long term ex was extremely arty, which I loved at one time, and I still enjoy his cultural recommendations - but he was in denial about how shit he was at practical stuff and I had to keep coming up with tactful excuses to stop him doing things that I knew would drive me mad for ever. Since he left a few years ago I've been gradually culling the misshapen IKEA and there is very little of it left now :)

Frouby, dinner is a nightmare when you're busy and there are different tastes. So much easier now it's just me and the girls, and some days not even them. I think it's ok to be a bit like-it-or-lump-it with an adult though. I mean pasta with tuna / veggies is a perfectly decent weeknight meal, even if not someone's favourite. I know - easier said than done.

AF last night. Aiming for AF tonight too but a sunny Friday is tricky. I might be checking in later for a wibble, hopefully over a glass of fizzy rhubarb cordial.

Hey Flossie how are you?

Have a good day everyone.

longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 11:21

Well the Dr will review the X ray next week but the radiographer seemed as sceptical as me that I would be walking round perfectly fine if it had genuinely perforated by womb and was floating around inside me.

Lol, that reminds me of my best mate. He was far and away top of our class at uni with an awe inspiring intellectual capacity. But then he stares at you in genuine wonderment saying "what, you mean a bag is actually designed to make several things easier to carry? I have always thought of it as just a fashion accessory". Love him to the moon and back for his ability to make me laugh like no one else but the wanker moved to Spain.

May have to go and check on work to see if alpha male has backed down but then I will be having lunch in the garden I think! Is forest school picnic after school which is legendary among me and my mates for the sheer pretention of the offerings. Fluu in home made sushi for three year olds is still my winner but am hoping for something to top it. Will need to scrape out freezer to find something pointedly mundane to take myself but I know there's prosecco left from dd2's party that will do if I can't find anything though sadly I am driving as is a bit tight getting to dd2 in time after picking up dd1.

NC4Now · 28/06/2019 12:05

I don't even know what fluu is. I don't think they sell it in Lancashire.

CottonSock · 28/06/2019 12:28

Hi all. I didn't do too well over birthday last weekend (seemed to last a week), but done two days af so will try and get back on it. Scales are telling me the damage.
Congrats to your son NC4. I didn't know 16 yo could be so mature.

Im going to a faulty towers dining experience tomorrow. That won't be dry!

longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 12:51

Sorry, fluuuu was typo for full on. But who knows, perhaps my autocorrect knows better than me and i shall try this new delicacy this afternoon. I have found bag of microwave popcorn, hurrah. It has added bonus of having sugar on it so will feel total rebel.

Alpha male has not yet backed down but I have my lovely mild mannered public sector bureaucrats patting me on the back and cheering me on. My people.

DH is bloody useless at anything practical but at least accepts the fact and will cheerfully pay a "proper man" to come and do it. If you need an Excel spreadsheet taking to task he's your guy, and the twinkle in his eye is enough to make me swoon, it's what I miss the most when he's in a rough patch - the light goes out.

NC4Now · 28/06/2019 13:35

OMG Longest I’m howling 😂😂😂
I thought fluu was a fancy Southern delicacy that they don’t even sell in Waitrose. I was betraying my oikishness 🤣🤣🤣

FML I have just come on my first period since Mirena removal, a good week and a half earlier than expected. I have no idea what to expect. But of course I’m wearing white linen trousers.
Luckily I caught it in time but I’m nervous as hell. If I make it through today, I’m going to strap on a pair of rollerblades, and jump out of a plane, whoa bodyform style.

longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 14:12

Lol! I can just imagine you on that as! Good luck I have in fact just bought big pile of cut price linen with my £100 bonus for working on round the clock fish crisis, but I wussed out of white as am a walking grime magnet on the best of days.

SenselessUbiquity · 28/06/2019 17:41

Hi. Checking in - on the tap water.

Really not feeling good. A Friday collapse or something worse? Anyway - resisting the urge to self medicate with booze - not difficult tbh as I'm feeling bad enough that I know it won't work. (It's when you're feeling a bit ropey and a few drinks might act as a pick me up that you're on the slippery slope - it sort of works - and then you can't stop)

Dionysa · 28/06/2019 17:44

PMSL at the last few posts. Fluu and Bodyform. Woaaaaahhhhhhh (and I have not even had a drink yet).

Just back from work in time to get changed and meet DP's train.

In other news, the school holidays started today, but I my head is so firmly in the sand about this that I will need a crane to pull it out.

Dionysa · 28/06/2019 17:45

Crossed with you Senseless. I know that 'feeling a bit ropey' thing all too well, and where it leads...

longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 19:20

Gah that's early Dion. Sending you a crate of AF gin.

Senseless sending love. Sorry you feel rubbish. Could it just be hormones? Mine give me massive mood crashes.

Dd1 got her school report today and am dead proud given where we were at the start of the year. She "needs reminding of the rules" and "comes into conflict with some work partners" but she has strong friendships and excellent attitude across the board and excellent attainment in everything except, randomly, computing, which is only satisfactory(!). Apparently she has a true passion for writing, which you wouldn't guess from her spelling, but the most pleasing thing was her own write up of the year, where she said her favourite thing was "APSALUTELY EVREYTHING". Massive bonus that the student teacher they had last year and she loved is going to be her teacher next year so this might mean the transition is not as tough as usual.

Picnic was disappointingly unpretentious and just common or garden put me to shame with delicious homemade sausage rolls and cakes.

Feeling a bit nerve jangled now though. Think forest school plus picnic was too much for dd1 and she's been shrieky tired. Ready for glass of wine in garden but DH has just told dd1 she can stay up and play a game as reward for report, which got murderous stare, especially as we are camping again tomorrow.

SenselessUbiquity · 28/06/2019 20:27

Oh longest so pleased about your dd.

I know that feeling when you just want everything to be over though :(

I'm chilled at home with dd2, feeling a lot better after lots of tea and downtime (and some sneaky cake).dd1 will be back soon and I think we'll all be in bed by 9.

Looked at my bank account and OH MY GOD WHERE HAS ALL MY BLOODY MONEY GONE. I have lots of outgoings coming up too. I really don't think I have been extravagant. I'm going to have to really think about this.

Of course that made me want a drink, like that would help. At least drinking tea on the sofa at home is cheap.

KOKO you lovely ladies.

longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 20:27

Well DH ended up having to retract offer as dd1 utterly done in but she didn't even protest that much. Feel a bit like that myself. Again slightly worried about the correlation between energy crash and cake eating. Will keep an eye.

longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 20:41

Senseless I hate that feeling. I feel my salary is ok and I don't feel I am that extravagant, though I am grateful for the lifestyle I have, but every time I think it's safe to loosen up just slightly I end up going into the red. Stuff just really adds up. This month it was £600 to get car through its MOT, £300 holiday balance, usual childcare bills etc. Just bought new sandals as feet totally baking in trainers. Couldn't get dirt cheap ones as feet are a mess with fallen arches and they were in the sale but still £50 and I don't even like them that much, though they're comfy.

MadameForest · 28/06/2019 20:45

Longest teachers are so important and I hope your daughter has the student teacher who helped her. My DD wasn't happy at 5 and her teacher was brilliant, since then no problems at all.

Senseless sounds I hope you feel better soon but it sounds like a very nice Friday

Dion have a lovely time with DP

Still melting here, 38c I'm not a whiner but the worst is at night, it's impossible to sleep at 30c. Tomorrow is the last day of the heatwave thank goodness.
Not dry but too hot to drink lot. Have a good weekend!

longestlurkerever · 28/06/2019 22:45

Madame, that sounds grim. This is a worry: www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-48795264. Is not too bad here but due to be 10 degrees hotter tomorrow.

Drinking wine and watching Glastonbury on the telly. Slightly taken aback by lead singer of one of my favourite bands thanking his dp for "momentarily sacrificing her career and personality" to be a nother, and getting a big cheer. Just today I bought tickets to his gig!

leavingAqaba · 29/06/2019 05:01

madam I’ve lived in very hot places a lot of my adult life and I agree if it’s hot at night and you don’t get a good night’s sleep it makes the whole situation harder to deal with. I use a standing fan set on swing in my bedroom. You have any fans?
I got ridiculously drunk the other night. It was so obviously going to happen. I had the most remarkably shit day at work, outside in the heat hardly eating or drinking then over to enabling friend’s place and poured wine down my neck for 4 hours. What did I think was going to happen?
senseless you feel any better?

Frouby · 29/06/2019 07:42

Morning all

Not dry last night, had 4 cans of lager I think but my ndns came round about 6pm and we had a lovely couple of hours enjoying the evening sunshine. Summers been late arriving and we made the most of it. Was a lovely evening, but an epic fatclub fail as we also ended up ordering an Indian takeaway. Am ok with it though, I don't mind social drinking with friends instead of mindlessly drinking for the sake of it.

Won't be dry today either, having a bbq later with friends and ndns. Got loads to do, need to rally round to aldi for food, tidy up, be at kayaking for 10am, will get home about 12 then got food prep to do and get ready for 3pm!

Going to stick to Budweiser today otherwise I will drink cans of lager. Budweiser is in smaller bottles so hopefully won't drink as much. And not starting drinking until 3pm instead of having a couple while I get everything ready.

Ds has a softplay party at 10am on Sunday ffs, so if that's not an incentive not get absolutely pissed as a fart I don't know what is Grin.

Hope everyone enjoys the sunshine today, it's going to be 30 degrees here. Can see ds paddling pool being well used.

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longestlurkerever · 29/06/2019 13:02

Cross with self as shared 1.5 bottles with DH (1/2 was already open so a temptation too far) and feel below par today. Definitely affected my sleep and patience today. And today we are camping with dd1's class so likely to be boozy too. And tomorrow I would normally be dry as Sunday but it's our anniversary.

leavingAqaba · 29/06/2019 19:44

Well at least you didn’t open another longest that would have been me.

Dionysa · 29/06/2019 20:23

Can't remember when I was last this wet. Very sad. Especially after all my efforts this week. I haven't eaten for 25 hours, which has possibly enhanced the effect.

Happy anniversary tomorrow, Longest.

NC4Now · 30/06/2019 00:26

Dion you sound sad pissed, not happy pissed.. Can we help? Also, we love you xxx

Dionysa · 30/06/2019 07:30

Thank you NC4. I sent you a PM yesterday. Still sad now (probably still pissed as well).