Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

longest that sounds totally annoyingly normal. The couple of attempts at ‘fun Maths’ with bribes I attempted this week ended in nothing good.

My son’s Parents Evening is at 9:30am. And the wankers called it Parents Evening. Cue 1000 phone calls to leaving the only Brit in sight from parents expecting me to explain why they can only book between 8:30 and 3pm. These fuckers are trying to kill me.

longest I didn’t mean to cross out your name! Need wine.

Ffs, type a long, chatty post and deleted it by sneezing.

Anyway, dry here, all dhs are knobbers and I have room on the allotment for bodies.

Going to bed now.

Thats a summary of my previous post 🙃

Ah leaving, I see. I think dd2's place had the foresight to give it the official title "parents' consultations". Which is also a misnomer but doesn't commit them to staying behind after work.

Pmsl at all dhs are knobbers and there being room on the allotment 😂

Yes, our parents evening is 5.30 in the pm!

Lurker, not a parenting fail imo, she was pushing her luck!

I suppose I meant the whole endeavour- the fact she manages to push back on every single thing and the fact I went back on my original instinct that she didn't deserve a reward and still end up with her in a strop!

Frouby, thanks for the offer of your allotment. DH is miraculously still alive this morning but I’ll bear it in mind for the future.

The evening didn’t get any better really - cue Spotify wars between DD and DS so we kept alternating between Arianna Grande and Elvis whilst I was cooking dinner. Then just as I was sitting down to watch tv, DD announced that she’d lost her bank card! Had to run through everywhere she’d been, called the shop, called her friends etc, eventually contacted bank and stopped card and 5 mins later got a message saying another friend’s brother had found it in the street 😡

Wasn’t a dry evening - a small beer and half a bottle of red! AF tonight.

Afternoon all

Just sat down after a mad busy day organising everything ready for the Cheltenham festival next week. If I disappear from tues to friday next week don't worry, will be beavering away hopefully making lots and lots of money.

Dion are you organized for it?

Won't be dry tonight, am having a few beers or gins or possibly both! Will be dry tomorrow though which is very rare for a friday.

Got so much to do the next few days, am going to meet myself coming back I reckon. Am actually glad the weather is rubbish as at least I haven't done much outside stuff.

I will definately be NOT dry tonight.

Spent yesterday in hospital again with dd. Was pretty shit. Came home and moderated last night. Dh was a tit tho. Sat and watched football while I cooked and cleared up. I’d already picked dd1 up and been shopping for dinner on way home from the bloody hospital. After 8hrs of being stuck there.
Today, dh still stroppy because he ‘didn’t like my tone’. Basically I was so pissed off with him and trying to hold back from firing him flat to the ground, my words came out with a tad of sarcasm!!
Anyway..then this pm....I took dd2 into town to post office, parked in disabled space with her blue badge. And some mental woman came over and screamed. Properly screamed at me to get out of the space cos I didn’t look disabled!! I told her to not judge a book by the cover, and walked away (crying!)
Ffs!! I so want a day when there’s no trigger to drink. Why the fuck won’t life help me out with this a little!!

Have been too ashamed to post. But going to read now...

(((((Flossie)))))))

People are arseholes. Also who does DH think he is saying he doesn’t like your tone?! Your dad? I couldn’t be doing with that.

Sorry to hear DD hasn’t been great again.

I’m just knackered. Diet’s gone tits up today, but I’m determined to have day 2 number 2 of the week.

If my dh said he didn't like my tone I would absolutely make sure he didn't walk without a limp for at least 4 days. The instinctive answer would be that I didn't like his bone bastarding idleness either but it's not always advisable to reply instinctively when the dcs are around. And as for the twat who felt the need to police the parking bays I would have taken my blue badge out and flicked them on the end of the nose with it.

But I am an arsehole so ignore my advice and have instead Flossie.

3 cans of lager. Not horrendous and am happy with that considering tomorrow is dry.

I am already in bed. Dh is up at 4.45am and I have to admit I am enjoying the couple of hours making like a starfish when he's left for work. It's bloody bliss, I love him to bits but he's a fucker for breathing on me in bed.

Big hugs Flossie. That woman was a total arse and I want to bop your DH on the nose for not being 100% on your side after such a day.

Babysitting at friend's house. She forced me to have a glass of wine. It will be just the one, but still.

God you are all amazing!!!! Thanks so much. Thought I was going mad. Felt dh was maybe right for a min til you put me straight.
Tonight just before he got home, dd2 stopped breathing again. We have to deal with it. I did. It was hideous but I had to be practical and do it. Dh came home and I dissolved into tears. He watched me from afar, then went to shower!!
He now can’t understand why I’ve called him a cold bastard! Oh and to make it worse..last night apparently he blamed my ‘tone’ on ‘too much wine again’!! I’d had two glasses which is major moderation for me!! So tonight I don’t wanna drink in front of him. Downed a glass in one while he in the shower and now sipping sodding soda water!! When he goes to the loo, I’ll be downing another!! That’s alcoholism for you surely!!

Im sorry Flossie, I do agree with Frouby that you’d have been justified in ramming the badge up her arse 💐

Dionysa, don’t be ashamed, we are all very far from perfect (am still cringing at puking last month ffs)

Pleased with myself, that’s 4 days AF this week, which is what I wanted 🙂 really wanted wine tonight but didn't have any and now I’m in bed. I will drink tomorrow but we are out at a theatrical event so it won’t be much which isn’t a bad thing.

I must admit, I’ve got pretty used to starfishing on a nightly basis. I’m not sure I want to share my bed with anyone again.

Flossie he is being a wankerbastard, well done on dealing with dd and I’m not surprised you’re drinking, I would be too. Do you get any professional support? Because I think I'd want it in your position . There aren’t enough 💐💐💐 in the world really.

Actually, what am I on about? I’ve just swiped right on a bloke I know. How awkward’s that? I quite fancy him, we’ve got mutual friends, we’re actually in a WhatsApp group together and he always cracks me up. We’ve half agreed to go to a festival together (with others) in the summer, on a mates basis, and when I saw him online I thought, actually.... yes!
But I bet he doesn’t swipe me right. Then next time I see him I’ll be all embarrassed.

Have finally caught up. Flossie, I don't know what to say. In my head, I would have said, in true MN style, that she should fuck off to the far side of fuck, and then fuck off some more. But in real life, I'd probably have apologised to her, and would then have cried and have counted the hours until I could reasonably have a drink. What a complete cowbag. Yet another reason for me to remember never, ever, to judge anyone. Who knows what's going on? I'm so sorry, too, that you ended up back in hospital again. Hugs.

Having read the most recent posts, I can only say it's not surprising that we are all here. I have been too wet and ashamed to post, but it has largely been caused by family stuff. XH becomes worse more or less by the minute, and now thinks he is going to be investigated by SS. If he is, it's his own bloody fault. However, DD feels sorry for "poor Daddy". Poor Daddy my arse.

I am trying to get my head around all the betting stuff. Frouby is an absolute star, and keeps helping me just because she is a love.

Longest, you are so not a parenting failure!

It took me so long to write my post (thanks to DD trying to work out how to operate the washing machine, as I have failed to read her mind and know that she needs her PE kit tomorrow morning) that other things have happened.

Flossie, as Water says. 💐💐💐 I just can't imagine how your DH doesn't just scoop you up and hug you and want to make it all better.

NC4, that is very funny. I might need advice on swiping if DP doesn't get his act together, though I'd be even more dense about that than I am at matched betting. I am a bit sad, really, as I'd give up starfishing for the whole of eternity if I could share a bed with DP for ever. As it was, today, I got a quick afternoon shag while he was having a break from work. Though I am not complaining (even though I'd really like him to marry me and share a bed with me for the whole of eternity).

Water, that is very sweet of you. Thank you.

See marriage and eternity doesn’t appeal to me at all Dion. I’d be happy with an afternoon shag.

Dion - glad you got an afternoon shag. Just wish he would realise what a gorgeous woman you are, and hold you forever close.

NC4 - star fishing appeals to me right now!!

Water - we have a social worker from the disability team. We’ve applied for nursing help but it’s going to panel and we’ve been warned we probably won’t get it. We’ve been told to look at our local children’s hospice for respite. Day to day we get no support. We’ve been told what to do, and we have to get on with it. Apparently this happens a lot. Not enough funding crap!!

Oh Dion. [Flowers] for you too. For the DP situation, the XH situation and your having to deal with DD's messy all too human emotions. You have so much warmth and I can't imagine your dp not just scooping you up either.

NC4, interesting! I hope he swipes you, or makes a move another way. Does he get to know you swiped if he doesn't do the same?

My relationship is a bit complicated too I guess. DH was my first boyfriend. We have always been quite intensely in love and survived a long distance relationship through uni. He's fiercely loyal and I would trust him to the ends of the earth.

But he's been struggling with a combination of physical and mental health issues for about five years now. He's on a ridiculously restrictive diet, SSRIs, synthetic enzymes and anti emetics. He also has childhood SEN diagnoses, which I believe interact with his current mental health. It's quite a difficult combination to live with. When he's his old self I love him just the same as I always did but when he's in a depressive fog or an anxiety episode I feel so lonely and like I have to shoulder the responsibility for everything, while policing him to make sure he doesn't upset the DC or anyone else. His recent treatment seemed to be working to a fair degree and he was his old self much more often than not, but just recently it's seemed like he's getting worse again - mostly physically and he's been off work this week with digestion and fatigue problems - but the mood stuff tends to follow the same pattern and is the hardest aspect to deal with.

Sorry, bit of a splurge.