New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Day 1 here Dion. We can do this.

Very wet weekend here. Bottle of wine Friday, Sat and Sun with a couple of g&t’s thrown in! I slept ok but woke up feeling v anxious and low - I knew this would happen so why did I carry on drinking last night??). Back on the wagon today.

Same canshop. Awful morning with DS2 today too. I want to crawl back under the covers.

Sorry to hear that NC4Now. I am close to tears this morning - not just booze related but also to do with DD not doing v well in a competition at the weekend. She is fine about it and I know I’m being v silly but I can’t help it!! I just cannot get motivated to do anything.

Late to the thread and on day 21

My state of being could be summed up as clear headed and tetchy

NC4... Yes. Wine. I can't stop at one or two, either. But you managed a week (plus???) Hold on to this, because it's bloody brilliant.

Canshop, your weekend sounds like mine.

Cotton, okay. You have done brilliantly this past week (and more). I need some of your strength tonight! Just had a third cup of tea.

Hey everyone!!

Right I’ve pulled myself together and I’m back in the room!! Swampy however isn’t going to be lucky tonight. I have three quarters of a bottle of wine in the fridge and not embarrassed to say ITS MINE tonight!!

For all those of you having dh and dc issues..I was chatting to a friend of mine and we’ve started a little fund..desert island fund!! We are dreaming of running away to our island, where we lie on a sun bed all day long, listening the the sound of the sea lapping the beach, while waited on by some handsome waiters!!
Ok....I can dream!!

Welcome back Flossie! Good to see you.

I love the idea of your desert island fund. I plan to become a digital nomad in years to come. I can run my business from anywhere with a mobile phone signal and WiFi, so I’m going to pick up my laptop, throw on some harem pants and jangly bangles and fuck off round India.

Hi all! Not doing very well tonight. I had a sink blockage on Friday so bought the unblocking crystals. Didn’t work. Bought another batch on Sunday. Didn’t work. Meanwhile I’m chucking water out with a vase and flooded the kitchen when I put a wash on!
Swear to god someone up there has it in for me! Last month it was the washing machine saying bye bye, then the car broke and now I have no working kitchen sink!!
Dismantled it tonight and gues what? It’s blocked with fucking crystals from the unblocking sink stuff!!
So I’m afraid swampy is settled in and having a lovely night at my house as I’m halfway down a bottle of red while trying to soak the crystals out with boiling water!!

Oh Zoflora. I feel your pain. Swampy has evidently decided there's no point coming round to mine, as there's nothing left for him.

I have just found some elderly Seedlip. It is absolutely disgusting. I now remember that it was equally disgusting when I bought it, hence it has gathered dust for the past year.

Flossie, so very glad that you are back. xx

Dry here.

Don't know how though, been one of those days. Ds got into trouble at school for saying something mean to one of his friends. Ds was very upset by it. According to TA he said to one if his friends 'don't care, my dad will come and beat you up'.

He's 5. His dad is his hero. According to ds the other child had pushed him off a bench, then threatened to do it again. Then run to teaching assistant when ds retaliated.

Ds was very upset at getting into trouble, being told off, and moving down a spot on the consequences ladder.

I know the other child as well, we walk to school together sometimes, ds plays with him quite a lot but Seb got into trouble from me before Christmas for allegedly pushing this child. Another mum told me he hasn't pushed him. So was a bit peeved.

Ds shouldn't have said it but he shouldn't have been pushed and threatened to be pushed again.

So that was an awkward walk to the car, as the other little boy and his mum was there.

Loads of other minor issues, all annoying little problems that drive you daft.

But I stayed dry! Forgot about my becks blue I had left as daren't look in fridge earlier 😂😂. So just had that and going to bed.

Sorry, x posted, started typing that post 2 hours ago .

Welcome back Flossie and sorry about the sink Zoflora.

I daren't even think about my last blocked sink episode, it makes me feel funny even now and it was in 2010 .

Our last sink incident was a flood, water pissing out all over the kitchen. Sooner this lad gets his plumbing quals the better.

Dry here but probably still a bit pissed from last night. I still lost 1lb at WW, so have celebrated with pizza before I get back on it tomorrow.

The name of this bottle!!!!!

Frouby - well done on dryness today!! Considering having a shitty day too!! You’ve done great!!

NC4. Well done on ww

Zoflora - sink sounds shit!!

Hello everyone. Flossie I am so there on the desert island fund. Whenever I hear about someone having an affair I think I can't think of anything I'd like to do less than introduce another person's wants into my life. I can we'll see myself lying to my family about a work trip and buggering off to an island by myself though. Bliss.

My equivalent of the sink was turning on the oven and leaving the kitchen. By the time I returned the place was filled with properly acrid smoke. Totally burned my hand trying to get rid of whatever crap had turned into toxic goo at the bottom of the oven and lungs still feel a bit choky.

But other than that I feel ok. Did a day volunteering at a school instead of my normal job. Picked dd1 up from school and had a nice little chat with her and have a day off with dd2 tomorrow.

Am no longer counting days AF and instead counting down the days till Feb, which is a bit silly but I think I've learned a few lessons from being dry for a couple of weeks and I hope it will help me moderate.

I can hardly believe I'm writing it, but Day One is nearly over and I have now switched to herbal tea. Anything is better than Seedlip.

Pleased, as I had a very trying day (work-related) and have been sorely tempted, despite a very wet weekend. However, I really need to try to have a night without the Beer Fear.

Frouby... I rather think we will be dealing with DC's friendship issues until they're about 55. And probably even then.

Longest, I am in awe. It will be interesting to hear how you get on in February.

Dion that is brilliant! Well done you. Can you get yourself an early night? When I was really stressed I listened to meditation tracks on YouTube. Some of them are quite nice.

Woo Dion! X

Well done dion!

The sink is finally unblocked after soaking the pipe in a bucket with boiling water. Unfortunately it’s still in pieces as apparently assembling a glow in the dark solar system and making your own perfume are essential Monday night tasks! 😆

Guess who is going to have to get up early and put it back together as I haven’t done a dish since Friday and my kitchen looks a bit

Longest I'm sure a long spell of AF will help you moderate. You've done brilliantly. I found setting rules helped, I stuck to mine pretty well until DP turned up.
Dion well done you on Day 1. You will feel fresh tomorrow. I couldn't do herbal teas but fortunately PG Tips doesn't stop me sleeping.
Day 1 here too. Am hoping for 4 nights this week to try and get back to running weight.

Dion that’s fabulous!! Well done!! How you feeling?? God I’d be so proud if I was you!!

Longest - you VOLUNTEERED at a school?!?!!!!! Hats off to you!! And you’re still dry!! Incredible!! Please share what it’s taught you? You said it’s taught you lessons.

Haha! Flossie I work in a school! With teenagers. And before that I worked in the NHS for 20 years. No wonder I like a drink 😆

Zoflora - I admire you so much..I’d even share Pinot with you!!

Haha I know, I was terrified! I haven't been in a secondary school for years and don't know any teenagers really. But I only had to talk to them 1:1 about careers. It was a bit badly organised tbh as I thought I was doing mock interviews and it turns out to be general career advice and I know bugger all about most careers. And there was quite a lot of hanging around, but I didn'ind that so much! Hopefully I bluffed well enough. I even ate in their canteen and didn't get eaten alive. Settled a demon or two.

I suppose I've learned that I don't have to drink as often, that the world won't collapse if I have a sober weekend or if I don't drink at a pub when other people are, that AF beers are quite nice and can stave off the reward impulse and that there is a price to pay for drinking. But also that it's a price sometimes worth paying as that cosy feeling you get from drinking, particularly drinking with friends, is real and is nice. So I don't want to give up altogether but I really do want to cut back so it's more of a treat than a habit.