New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

I’m dry tonight. I wasn’t last night and all today I’ve had a pit of anxiety in my stomach. I also felt groggy and tired this morning. I think the anxiety is due to the alcohol.

I’m a better version of me when I haven’t had a drink. I eat more, I sleep better, I’m more productive and more ‘present’. Just need my subconscious to start to agree with me and shut up with the whispering - go on you deserve a glass of wine!

Swampy can have my leftovers Dion. 4th day this week AF so a fair few for him to sup. Enjoying the becks blue, would have had a drink tonight if I hadn't had that. Need to get some more, at 39 cals for a beery AF drink it's a bargain.

Really need to shift some weight though, that's my main motivation at the moment.

Definetly won't be dry tomorrow. Fuckton of work to do and will definetly need a drink afterwards. Think I have a nice bottle of prosecco at the back of the cupboard left over from my wedding, am going to have that I think. Hopefully be some left for swampy though. Don't want to feel rough on Saturday. Wasted all last saturday laying on sofa saying I was tired but really I was just hungover 😂😂😂

I know the anxiety only too well Zoflora. I don’t really get hangovers, just existential dread. Even if I did nothing to feel ashamed by.

I need logs for the fire, but I know if I go to the shop I’ll buy wine. FML. Day seven though. I might go to bed instead.

I have made it to day 21. Can’t quite believe it and don’t think I have gone that long without a drink in twenty years, other than when pregnant. Not sure if I still miss it or just not thinking about it. Went to pub last Sunday and I thought that would be really hard but it was ok. Think I am going to carry on as long as I can as I have no control at all once I have one glass.

Everyone is doing so well! I am on day 12 I think. But I'm not feeling great, to be honest. The dark clouds are gathering, like NC4 said. I am thinking about drinking quite a lot, and feeling resentful. I also think i might not feel great if I drank though.

And work are moving me to some terrible brexit-related crisis role involving shifts. Woo me.

I stuck to my 3 AF days again this week - Mon to Weds so got another star on my drink free days App - whoop whoop!

I was going to try to do yesterday as well but DH asked if we could have some wine cos he had had a shit day. So I ended up having a small bottle of lager and half a bottle of red and I’ve got a headache this morning! I wouldnt normally get a hangover after this amount and surely my tolerance levels can’t have adjusted that much on only 3 AF days?

Mollymummy - 21 days is brilliant, well done!

I've done a week! A week! Unbelievable.

I'm going out tonight for a few work drinks. I have a drinking strategy though - ie. don't drink wine. A couple of beers, a G&T perhaps.

I'd like to come home not looking and feeling like a dickhead.

But a bloody week! Yes, I'm astounded.

Woo NC4! Go you! Can shop it's possible. I certainly noticed a drop quite quickly when moderating. Feeling more positive today though full of cold and in the Dr for a fasting blood test so hungry and in need of caffeine (my other vice)

Longestlurker - thanks, I would like it if my tolerance was lowering. It bloody needs to! Hope you’ve had a nice strong coffee and something to eat by now.

Does this mean I'm going to be absolutely rat-arsed off three drinks later?!!!

Glad you feel better today longest. I'm feeling brighter too. I think maybe the walk after work blew some cobwebs away and helped me sleep.

It almost seems daft to have a drink tonight but if I don't go mad and get back on the AF wagon tomorrow, hopefully the upward spiral will continue.

Well done NC4, mollysmummy and canshop and lurker and frouby 🙂

I’m on day 17 assuming I don’t drink tonight which I won’t

Waterandlemonjuice - bloody well done you too on day 17. Awesome!

I'm returning to the thread so marking place. Went AWOL as I was a nightmare over Christmas, like drinking in the morning, pissed for 20 days straight (I have 2 small kids). I have had sober days since and doing better. Bloody christmas hey!

cottonsock I was the same. Pjs on at 3pm then open a beer. Welcome back, January is always easier than December.

Not dry here tho. Don't want to talk about the day I have had but had some beers and now on the gin. Fml.

Everyone seems to be doing so well! I'm still keeping myself busy so I don't drink and enjoying the early nights I'm now 14 days AF and I'm no longer thinking about it from afternoon onwards like I used to. It's my DSis's hen on 5th February which I know will be wet but I think if I keep up till then and go straight back to being dry after I'll have got on top of it. My problem is that usually 1 wet day leads to me giving up and resorting back to old habits. I hope that I e cracked it by then and just go back to my new normal of drinking on occasions only.

I am going out tonight with friends and without dh. Can't decide whether to be dry or not. Contemplating one glass of wine but don't want to feel like a failure. Thing is I never fully mentally committed to dry Jan (I didn't start till 6 jan) -jusr dryer Jan. But I have since told peoplei am doing it because it seems to be a socially acceptable excuse for not drinking.

Morning campers.

Cold and wet here, brrrr.

Have the lovely job of deep cleaning my kitchen later, fridge, cupboards, everything. They are all junked up, especially the official junk drawer as well as the unofficial teatowel drawer which has adopted a new identity as a junk drawer.

Am not sure I want my teatowel drawer to self identify as a junk drawer so that's getting sorted for starters.

Feel a bit meh this morning but not horrendous. Had 4 cans of lager and 2 g and t over about 4 hours so nothing too dramatic. Didn't open the prosecco in the end, had some work to finish off teatime and didn't want to be a lot pissed doing it, don't mind a bit pissed but not a lot.

However should have had it anyway. Trigger finger dh (who was pissed) pressed a button right at the end of a 3 hour slog that fucked it all up so have to do it in the week now. Fml.

Not sure if I will drink tonight, it won't be much if I do. Maybe a g and t if anything.

Didn’t drink last night. Went to bed at 10.30 and woke at 6.30 with a clear head. And have just been for a walk, only a mile but it’s better than nothing. So today is day 18 if I don’t drink, which I won’t. I’m wondering about keeping going but I probably won’t, but I’d really really like to be like anglaise and learn to moderate. If I can do AF in the week and just drink on Friday and Saturday nights I’ll be happy with that.

Well I went out last night. I was fairly moderate by my standards, and my usual group of friends but I was out with a new friend who doesn’t drink much. I felt tipsy by the end of the night, but was home by midnight.
DS surprised me with a friend staying over so I had two teenagers to meet me, which wasn’t ideal but there you go.
I’m actually looking forward to getting back on the wagon.

Well my dilemma has been solved by drinks being cancelled. Nanny state and Ticket to Ride it is. Yawn. Might book the odd might away

You lot are impressive.

I am not.

Day One again. Soaking wet last night, as I went out with DP. It was fun, though. What's weird is that I don't have even a trace of a hangover, and I ought to have a diabolical one.

I love your self-identifying drawers, Frouby. I think everything in my house self-identifies as some kind of junk-container.

Yes I am impressed you have a teatowel drawer at all! Mine are just part of the general tangle. I don't feel impressive Dion. I feel a bit flat and hollow, but better than a couple of days ago.

Longest, I think that's what I would feel if I managed as long a stint as you. I really appreciate you not being all bright-eyed and evangelical about how brilliant the AF life is, even though it obviously has a lot going for it (and I wish I were doing better). Sorry about what's going on at work, too.

Flying past. On the long trip home after hellish time with dd’s appointment!!

The tests revealed clearly how she stops breathing. Clear for everyone to see. Made it so real as parents. Cried all the way home to my parents yesterday. And now onward journey home. Haven’t been af at all!! Can’t see it happening soon either!!
Fml

To all of you lovely lot tho..keep going!! You can do this!! Life’s shit and throws lots of obstacles to stop us on this quest to a cleaner life. But we CAN do this. We can hold each other up and move forward.
You are all awesome!!

Oh Flossie. Huge hugs. Did the tests reveal any new avenues to try? You are so lovely wanting to boost everyone up when you are feeling so understandably fragile.

Dion, thank you. It helps to have you lot to talk to.