New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Well, it’s day 6 for me. Can’t say I feel amazing yet. I’m struggling to shake off the dark clouds. But it’s the longest I’ve been AF in at least a year.
I’ll be back to read up and chat later.

Day 1 again but day 3 this week.

Felt shocking this morning. Only had 3 cans, slept terribly and felt ropey.

With that in mind I bought some becks blue and I have to say it's quite palatable. And at 39 cals a bottle is much better for my beer belly.

Back later, just sorting knobhead kids out. Fml.

Frouby so sorry about your nephew I hope your DSis gets things sorted out for him. And well done on being AF tonight!
NC4 Longest Water and anyone else you've all been AF a lot longer than I've ever managed!
We have pizza tonight so I'll have a couple of glasses of wine tonight. I ran 21kms and swam 2kms today so I don't feel too guilty!

I’m trying to make it to Friday, when I’m going out for a few work drinks. I could happily sink a bottle of wine tonight but I’m not going to. I’ve lost 1lb already and desperately need to get down into the next stone bracket ASAP.

Just catching up. I wasn't on here last night as I was not dry, yet again, and felt like too much of a failure to post. No excuse, other than a friend coming round. I had about 2/3 bottle of wine, and saved the rest for Swampy . In fact, I tipped it down the sink this morning, as I knew I'd drink it this evening otherwise.

water, there's nothing more sanctimonious than a teenager. Vodka appears to be the drink of choice for mine, too, though I haven't got any. In fact, I haven't got much of anything now, as I know I can't be bothered to walk to the shop in the rain.

So AF tonight. Day One, yet again.

Zoflora, that's brilliant news about the mortgage.

Flossie... I don't know what to say. I will second NC4's offer of a shovel - but that aside, I will just send you hugs.

Frouby, I'm glad you reminded me about Becks Blue and its relatively low calorific content. Have had Aldi AF fizzy wine this evening. I think I can feel myself getting fat, but it is surely less fattening than the real thing.

Anglaise...I think I'm sending a second shovel, for you to dispose of DP's batshit ex.

Yes it is weird, I seem to hesitate more over a nanny state, wondering if it's worth the calories, than I would over the real thing. Also pause over the cost even though it's less than real thing. Need stern talking with myself.

Flossie, has DH stopped being a dick?

Dd1 has calmed down again so feeling better than this morning but coming down with a cold, bah x

dion it was actually quite nice. Obviously didnt get that little buzz you get from a few beers but the calorie thing kept me honest lol. Am glad I am a bit fat, otherwise I would drink a lot more if I am honest.

Maybe we should try and make Swampy fat and the fucker will stop coming round drinking everyones left overs .

Had a quiet, non dramatic day today. New airfryer came though so have played with that and made lovely real chips. Haven't had a chip pan for at least 6 years so they were definetly a treat. Chips and omelletes from our own eggs, if Brexit causes supply issues at least we won't starve. Sack of spuds and our eggs should see us through.

Spent 4 hours on the phone to HMRC this morning. I swear I know more about their systems than them. They owe us 3k, bloke on phone says I can see we owe you 3k, but we will pursue this 7k you dont owe, which we know you dont owe until you have done a return we have already had and I can see on the system, because the system hasn't pulled it through. Fuck.Fucking.Sake.

Anyway. It's done.

Nothing else to report, off to bed shortly. Am knackered after last nights shitty sleep.

HMRC are probably waiting for me to pay them the £3k they reckon I owe them Frouby. Honestly, the whole system’s a joke. Well, a not very funny joke.
I’ve just finished the final This is England with DS. We’re both a bit gutted it’s over.
I actually went for a swim today. Hoping it will help me sleep.
Good work with the AF tonight Dion.
It was my sanctimonious teen that shamed me into SIX days dry.

NC4, six days is beyond my comprehension. I need to recall the Sanctimonious One, I think. "Do you really think it's a good idea?" is his stock phrase.

If I had to have dealings with HMRC (which I will in due course), I would be wetter than a wet thing.

Interested in your air fryer, Frouby. I don't make chips because they turn into burnt bits of potato.

I keep on flitting in and out of this chat as I'm trying to keep busy with work, exercise, reading and sleep. All I've found helpful in keeping me on track. But i keep missing everyones stories and seeing how they're doing! I'm now 12 days AF. It's been absolutely months since that's happened. Maybe even a year. I've got a busy day ahead lots of running about to and from childcare, docs appointments and after school activities for my DDs. Have a couple of hours to myself this morning so I'm going to walk the dog and do some core work when I get back in. I can't remember the last time I was this motivated. I'm really looking forward to another early night and waking up tomorrow feeling fresh and without the awful dark tiredness that used to follow me everywhere.

Dion it's fab, its a phillips one, not sure what model but its all black. I just cut the chips, soaked them to get rid of the starch, dried them off with a bit of kitchen roll then drizzlee some rapeseed oil on and coated them in it. Chucked them in, did about 18 mins on 180 then shook them, then 5 mins on 200. Perfect, crisp, fluffy chips.

DH is delirious with joy. Poor soul hasn't had proper chips at home for about 6 years I think .

Going to aim for AF tonight. Will be day 2, but the 4th this week. Have my becks blue ready. Felt soooooo much better this morning than yesterday and had a lovely sleep.

Just having a post school run coffee then cracking on with some work.

Frouby was it you that recommended Hit and Run? I’ve just started reading it and am enjoying it very much. The main character does the same day job as me, so empathy by the bucketload. Bloody hell!!

You are all so lovely on this thread.

Great news about your house not being repossessed zoflora

dionysa, I don’t post on here when I’ve been terrible, I feel too guilty. But less than a bottle is impressive.

Good luck to anyone trying to get sense out of HMRC, don’t envy you that

myusername six days is great, well done you and NC4

flossie - another one handing you a shovel. I’ll give you an alibi too

Today is day 16 AF. Not really tempted but also am working at home so doss of a day. My skin is a bit better. Still no period FFS.

Frouby - my DH goes on all the time about having ‘proper’ chips but I’ve banned him from having a chip pan! I might have to invest in an air fryer.

Gosh I really am not feeling the benefits to anything like that extent user. Have been arguing with DH about the wanky man of the house attitude he displayed this morning. He genuinely doesn't see it and thinks I am being moody and bad tempered. I am not - people just keep going out of their way to piss me off.

@longestlurkerever I think it's the sleep I've been getting! DH and I have been going to bed about 9/9:30pm and I honestly feel so good for it. I also figured if I'm sleeping I'm not drinking!

I wish I felt that spritely user. I keep falling back asleep as soon as the boys leave for school.
It’s sunny here today though, so that helps. I might try and get a walk after work.

Quite motivated here too. Enjoying waking up feeling refreshed rather than bleurgh. Have worked all day, fed chickens, collected ds, fed him, sorted a load of laundry out, tidied the kitchen, peeled spuds for more real chips (novelty value alive and well), had a bath and got my pjs on already.

We're having scampi, real chips, mushy peas and tartar sauce for tea. I literally can't wait. Have had ryvita for lunch. They are spectacularly shit. But am trying to cut down on bread as well as booze.

Have lost 2lbs since 7th jan, not too bad considering apart from a few af nights and a few bread free days is all I have done. Really need to shift some flab, could do with going to SW but I only go to get weighed, I can't stand the group bit at our local one. Woman who runs it really gets on my tits. She's all Hunz and that shiz and it really isn't me.

And she's fatter than me so not the best advert.

Am considering a boogie bounce class once a week. If nothing else it will keep me dry. Well, off the beer anyway. Will probably piss myself. Sigh.

Oh and had another frustrating phonecall to HMRC. Won't bore you with the details but it's like plaiting soot getting them to update the system.

Frouby is there no fat cooking smell at all with the dry fryer? You probably will piss yourself with a bounce class. Whenever we do star jumps doing running training all the girls have to visit the loo pretty quickly. But all exercise is good for you, especially sober sex!
User agree with all the benefits you mention, although I'm not being good at all at AF at the moment so consequently aren't feeling them too much

I am was on the verge of caving in, but might not, now that I have read all these posts. Various things happened today. Each one individually would be worthy of cracking open a bottle (not DP-related, for once).

Sioux try not to worry. Lots of people drink and smoke before they find out they are pregnant. Me included. I have a strapping 6ft 1ins 16yo with a good set of GCSEs sat next to me. He seems unscathed.

The risk with drinking in pregnancy related to foetal alcohol syndrome and is really from drinking heavily in the third trimester.
Of course it’s best you quit but as you have, I really wouldn’t fret. Just concentrate on having a healthy pregnancy.

Congratulations!

Oh, had I opened the wrong page?!

anglaise it doesn't smell much at all. It smells vaguely like chips cooking when you are actually cooking with it, but it quickly goes. I did the school run this morning and thought I might smell that chip fat smell when I came back in but nothing.

Dion stay strong love. Make a cuppa, then see if you still fancy one at 8pm.

And am not telling dh about sober sex being good for my pelvic floor, fucker be over the moon 😂😂.

Got a smear booked for next week as well as my asthma review at the same appointment. Said to receptionist nurse best not get my ends mixed up, cos I don't think my chuff has a good peak flow these days. Poor woman probably pissed herself, shes normally quite grumpy too but couldn't make the appointment for giggling.

Frouby, I love it. At least she had a sense of humour. I seem to cop for the ones who don't.

I have not stayed strong, as today has been too much. So there, Swampy.