Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

You stay on your soapbox flossie. If I could come back as anything it would be a man. Was thinking today. DH goea on holiday Thursday. He paid for it with a bookies win fair enough. But he literally gets some clothes out of the wardrobe and slings them on the bed and thats it. That's his sole contribution to 4 of us going to a forrin place for a week. I searched and booked it. Booked travel insurance and filled in his medical questionnaire. Sorted kennels for the dog and people to look after other animals. Sorted out a valet for car and airport parking. Will sort euros. Will pack and sort toiletries. Fill holiday forms for kids. Basically fucking everything.

Ds birthday the same. And Christmas. And new year.

Twats they are.

I’ve been terrible, hence my absence. Hope everyone is ok, will read properly later.

to Flossie and to NC4 and your DD.

What are your dreams Flossie? I'd love to hear them. I am currently applying to be a judge. Bit of a long shot, mind, but it makes me feel a bit better to think about having an ambition. Oncen a time I was a bit of a bright young thing with potential. And my life has turned out fine but a bit meh. In neither living the high life nor changing the world. Obviously things could be much worse, but what's the point if meh is as good as it ever gets?

I’ve been awful. Hope everyone is ok. Will read properly and post tomorrow. Feel rubbish.

Sorry NC4 💐💐

Oh NC4. Do you want to talk about it some more? Ghosting sounds incredibly cruel. Kind of like a suicide without the finality, if that's not an insensitive comparison. Does he have a history of mental illness? Can you mail yourself stop caring? Hugs. Xxxxxxx

Flossie, me too on students needing cash but in my case he seems to get a lot of Ubers...

NC he sounds an absolute cunt. I don't think normal people can get their heads around someone behaving that way. I never could with dds dad. I think it's easier not to try, just accept that they aren't normal and have something fundamentally flawed with them. Tho I know it's easier said than done xxx

Oh NC4

I am still on the bastarding ipod but will catch up in the library yomorrow.

😫 Monday morning... after another epic weekend fail. Start another week with a foggy brain and host of good intentions for the new week. Lol at myself by Tuesday! X

N4C, I hope you are ok as deleted messages suggest not.

I finished my bottle of processo (the theory was incorrect that I might drink it slower). Few drinks Saturday and Sunday too but not pissed.. So an ok weekend but probably still way above recommended units. I just walked through Sainsburys in town and the wine is all just there calling me. I did resist though.
Going out two nights this week, but shows rather than boozing. I probably won't have many af days this week

Thanks Cotton. Yes, I'm OK, just feel really crappy about my whole situation and guilty for posting about it. It's just life and I was venting.

That sounds like a reasonable weekend for this time of year on your part.

It's my birthday tomorrow - tea out with family then lunch with friends Weds, so I'm not going to be AF. It gets really tricky round now, doesn't it? I always reckon once I pass my birthday it's downhill till New Year!

Happy birthday for tomorrow.. Yes, agree it's soaking wet until new year.
Trying to decide if dry January is actually sensible this year

💐💐 NC4

day 1 AF abloodygain

My aim this week is to not drink until Friday

Half way through the Jason Vale book, which is familiar as I gave up smoking with Allen Carr. I see he trained with him. So it’s self hypnosis I suppose.

NC4, if it's any consolation, I have also posted inadvisable things about my XH (whom I think Frouby would refer to as a 'knobber') while very upset and under the influence and have then asked for them to be removed... I hope you manage to have a good birthday despite all the upsetness.

Flossie, we are evidently regarded as human cash machines. Your poor DD2, as well. A classic example of keep calm and carry on. Hugs to you.

Frouby, how are the knobbers today? I think I am going to come on holiday with you. Christmas is going to be unspeakable here. DP away. Parents won't commit to anything. DC2 won't spend Christmas Day with DC1 because he is so foul to her. I don't want to spend it with XH, though both DC want to see him (F knows why). That said, of course, I will do whatever suits everyone else best, regardless of what I want or don't want to do. What I would quite like to do is go to work and leave them all to argue amongst themselves.

How are you getting on, Recovery? And welcome, theaudacity.

Sorry if I'm not mentioning anyone - I'm struggling to keep up, due to my lack of access to technology.

Weird time here. AF yesterday and Saturday. I thought I might have cracked it, sort of. But I spent most of last night feeling sick. When I was asleep, which was for about half an hour in total, I had nightmares. I had to pee about 6 times. In the middle of the night, I was Googling 'alcohol withdrawal symptoms', which include all of the above. FML a thousand times over.

I carried on feeling sick, horribly sick, all day. So I have now just had one small experimental gin to see what happens. The result is that I feel absolutely knackered (still) after no sleep, but I no longer feel sick. In fact, I feel positively un-sick. I don't think this is a good thing. But perhaps it's telling me something I need to know.

My main challenge today is not to have more and more gin, having had one small one.

Water, will be interested to hear how you get on. I had an email from the hypno guy last week, to ask me if I want to make another appointment. I didn't reply as I am still a bit fed up with having parted with cash for nothing. He then sent a text. I said I will reply in due course...

Ahhh dion, I always pee all night if I do s couple of consecutive AF nights, which then makes me feel tired and sicky.

Not AF here. Just had a massive pop at dd and dh. Dd is 14 and leads a life of riley. Dh is 51 and ditto.

We go on holiday on Thursday. The sum contribution of the pair of them was to leave a pile of clothes out for me to iron and pack.

It was Ds birthday yesterday. The total contribution was to turn up to his party.

Dd has moaned because I told her to use some of her veggie freezer stuff up. DH has moaned because he doesn't fancy omelette and chips for tea. Dd moaned because I told her to wash her pots after her tea. Dh moaned because I told hi. To get rest of his clothes out.

Set of absolute cunts.

Frouby, so I am not the only one who goes on this nauseous pee-fest.

I used to wonder how the family would cope if I went on strike. I also used to fantasise about having a couple of weeks in prison, just to have a bit of peace and quiet, and my meals cooked for me and posted through a hole in the door.

My DD, also 14, declared the other day that she’s not going to become “one of those teenagers who has to do chores” (because I asked her, for the billionth time, to put her plate in the dishwasher). DS, bless his precious cotton socks, says that getting a job is “not for people like him”.

I have no idea how I spawned this.

Dion I fantasise about a little hospital stay. Preferably something minor, but that needs a week in isolation.

Am so bloody sick of being treated like a skivvy. I am not obsessive over housework. I just want the house to look halfway tidy and be clean.

DHs answer is get a cleaner. Dds answer is 'I clean the bathroom once a week'. With 3 people able to clean we shouldn't nedc a fucking cleaner. And when we had a cleaner before they just made more mess between visits. And a cleaner comes once a week, she doesn't do all the shit in between.

Sick of the pair of them.

Happy Birthday NC4 I hope you have a great time celebrating with friends and family and put ex OH out of your mind (although easier said than done). Having a birthday so close to Christmas must indeed make it difficult to do a long stretch of AF!
Welcome 'theaudacity*
Frouby even when men clean it is rarely to my standard. I have a cleaner to help with my gites and she is fantastic, but I have had others who lasted no more than one day because it is such hard work and their standards are definitely not the same as mine!
Dion I get up at least 3 times to pee in the night when AF, I drink a lot of water, at least 3 litres and when there is no alcohol in my system to dehydrate my insides I guess it just has to come out.
I'm going to try another hypno session today, a follow up of a year ago, but if I remember correctly (I hope at least) it wasn't too expensive. I don't need to get off of alcohol this time, I think that is sorted even if I'm not as AF as I was for the first year.
I just want to be able to be calmer in certain circumstances and be a little less insecure regarding DP. And perhaps be a little more relaxed, I never sit down and do nothing and I'm obsessed with sport.
Not much to ask!

Happy birthday, NC4. I hope you are having as good a day as you can.

How did the hypno session go, Anglaise?

I thought I had made a bit of progress, but I am, again, a wet failure tonight as the DC are all away and DP is “busy”.

FML.

My first few days alcohol free have gone OK. Usually once my hangover subsides I'm immediately tempted by a glass of wine or whatever. But so far, nothing. Hasn't even really been on my radar. Which has surprised me.

I don't think my long term goal is to never drink again, I just want a healthier relationship, where it's not my immediate 'go to' for stress relief or boredom.