Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

It’s great dionsya. Well done recovery-that’s so good. Longest-I’ve realises thatvis one of my wine triggers, if there is nothing nice for me to eat, I drink instead! I plan for it now by always having a frozen m and s naice dinner, just in case! I reeeally wanted a glass of wine tonight, but had two last night. Am making Friday ‘fine wine Friday’ and treating me and dh to nice bottle, so had to go af tonight. It’s amazing how much more I get done when I’m af. Three bloody loads of washing AFTER I got home! keep going us.

Hi guys,

Thought I would join this thread... I posted the other day for the first time after confronting the fact that I am alcohol dependant

I have spent about a year drinking roughly 2.5 bottles of wine 4-5 nights per week. I had 3 bottles on Saturday ...then one glass on Sunday...and I have not touched a drop since. #3DryDays

Cancelled going out last night, and OH brought in a bottle of wine tonight which I refused so it is still sitting unopened in the fridge. Handling it okay so far minus difficulty falling asleep / restless sleep / a lot of horrible nightmares / brain fog...hopefully that will clear soon...

Doctor has increased the dosage of my anxiety medication so I think that will make a difference too...

Just wanted to say I'm glad this thread is here for support!

Welcome annon. It might be worth seeing your Gp and tailing consumption down at those levels of drinking.

Welcome, Annon. Can’t type much on this effing ipod, but you will find lots of support here. I am definitely dependant, however much I can tell myself that I’m not 🙁 I never thought I would write that when I was a teetotal 20something...

Haggis I would’ve died of malnutrition, were it not for M&S.

Welcome annon. Yup I’m dependent too!! I congratulate myself if I leave anything in the bottom of a bottle!!
Dion - I was teetotal too. Didn’t really sample alcohol til I was about 26!! I’m now 45!! I should know better these days yet have less control of myself than I did when I was young and carefree!! Just goes to show..life’s struggles have an impact!!

Welcome annon. Well done on AF X3!

Well it's normally my AF day on Thursday but have been at work Christmas do and it turned into more of a sesh than intended. It made me remember what I like most about drinking though - long conversations with friends in the pub, and it's maybe that what's missing from my life, or the equivalent of that, and I'm a bit lonely really. But how to fix when you have a job and kids and so does everyone else you know?

Welcome Annon, I hope your detox phase has not made you feel too poorly. Have you discussed with your gp? I only told my nurse at smear check and she gave me a right telling off! Not a warm and friendly type!

I'm day 4. Ordered prosecco tomorrow instead of wine as I think I might drink less of it. Plus it has less calories.

I'm posting this as I know someone in the story and she shared on Facebook. Quite an eye opener.

Www.walesonline.co.uk/news/health/i-almost-drank-myself-death-15511422.amp

Day 7,day 7!! One whole week AF, it's been bloody hard at time but now I'm back running it's a massive help. Things feel better, daughter is moving schools, mood feels more stable, just praying to the gods I don't loose my driving licence 🙏 xx

Well done recovery that's a brilliant effort

Great article cotton, thanks for sharing x

Evening all, just checking in quickly, have you lot of work at the moment so have been reading not posting just not posting.
Welcome Annon, I hope you manage to cut down it I agree with Haggis, perhaps some medical support might be advisable as the side effects can be difficult if you have been drinking quit a lot for a while. Although it sounds like you don't drink every night?
Congrats on day 7 recovery stay strong you sound really positive.
longest alcohol fills a void in your life quite nicely, but it is far more fun drinking with others.
flossie hope all your boxes are unpacked
frouby you are very organized for Christmas compared to me
dion I hope one day DP réalisés how lucky he is to have you and Wim really happy that his friends look out for you.
Drinking loads more than I should die to DP being around. Not enough AF days and last night I drank 3/4 bottle of wine and felt terrible, slept badly as menopause and wine = hot flushes and no sleep. I won't be drinking that much again. I hate drinking alone now which is something positive I suppose.
Half a bottle max in future but not even that most evenings so I suppose it is moderating of a sort!

Thanks for the article cotton a good read and a warning of how easy it is to fall into addiction with alcohol.

Can I join you?

I don't drink every day and generally I only have a couple of glasses then stop. But I attended an event last night and got horribly drunk. I'm hideously hungover, and I vomited profusely, and my children saw it. And I'm ashamed.

Having spent the day so far unable to even keep water down, I've done a lot of thinking and I have come to the realisation that my relationship with alcohol has become unhealthy. And I want to stop.

Of course audacity and welcome. Hope you feel better now

I feel better physically but I'm very down!

I deserve better and my family deserve better. Onwards and upwards!

Oh audacity, I feel your pain! I've made a twat of myself a million times over, my kids have seen me horribly drunk (even high on one occasion) but they will forget. I am struggling too, I managed a week then got completely wasted on Friday when the kids went to their dads. I still feel rough today. This giving up drinking is bloody hard but I am trying to put as many tools together as I can think of. Inspirational quotes on Pinterest, an album of how alcohol affects your body, facts on alcohol, promises I've made to myself, how drinking affects me and those around me especially my mum who is struggling to support me when I keep messing up. But I've got to do this for myself and family. Put sobriety first because without it, you'll have nothing left xx

Welcome audacity. Last time I got absolutely plastered (last spring I think) my mam was babysitting. We came home around 9pm because I was wankered, we didn't have a meal and I threw up repeatedly and passed out on the bathroom floor. The kids saw and my mum was not amused. They are all over it nkw but I felt a right nobber.

Not dry here. It's ds birthday day today. His actual birthday is on thursday but we are off to tenerife so have celebrated today with his party and pressies.

Am bloody knackered. He got lots of lovely presents which he has wanted to play with immediately. 2 hours of party this morning and a thoroughly over excited very nearly 5 year old. DH been his usual useless self.

Have a billion and 1 things to do before we go away, haven't started packing or wrapping Christmas presents and still need to do another half days shopping for the dcs. It's also dhs birthday while we are away, not that the nobber deserves anything and the house is minging. Haven't bought any Christmas food in yet and the fridge and feeezer need a good fettle as well as the food cupboard. Sigh fucking bastarding sigh. Even the dog is a knobber.

So I had 3 halves of lager at the pub and just opened the wine. Fuck it all.

Not AF here either. I’ve already polished off a bottle of rose and may crack on with another.
Horrible time of it with ex H this weekend and the most horrific cry hangover. Fucksake. It’s my birthday on Tuesday. He’s ruined the last two. Hoping it won’t be a hat trick.
He unfriended me on Facebook today.

Frouby I’m with you. Fuck it all indeed.

Oh you are my people. I feel like I have dragged myself through today. The kids have been so hyper. They woke me up to say the Christmas tree had fallen over and have not stopped shouting since. I want to crawl into a dark cave and stay there. DH has ducked out of most of the way due to illness but I feel pretty sick too. Still need to decide what to do about all the expensive tat in their Santa letters.

Am I a functioning alcoholic?? I drink til it starts making me feel drunk then I stop. I hate feeling drunk. I just like to feel relaxed.

Mind you..fml all over!! Ds at uni struggling with money yet has managed his third European city break in the last year. Now pleading poverty. Literally apparently can’t afford to eat and is starrrrrrrving!! Knows I will want to send him dosh. Prob for him to get pissed or book his next holiday!! Obviously as a mum, of course I want to!! I’d transfer the money here and now. Yet dh says ‘he needs to learn!’ I agree he does. He refuses to work. BUT I don’t want him not eating!!

Went to the village light switch on last night and dd2 had probs. Her throat started closing over. There’s me trying to meet new people as just moved into the village. Then having to discreetly wire dd up to a nebuliser and pump adrenaline into her to keep her breathing. Then some old guy comes over to introduce a love family to us. I’ve got dd behind me as she doesn’t want anyone to know she’s different. She’s puffing away on a portable nebuliser saying ‘mummy I can breath now, my throats opened’, while I say to a complete stranger ‘hello, nice to meet you, what beautiful lights’

So yes..I’m bloody soaking again tonight!! Have been moderating nicely. However not now.

FMFL

Oh to fml a bit more.....i was chatting to dh about my life and my dreams etc, and he suddenly goes off in a strop. Hates me having any chat about myself. I never mention myself as being someone who deserves more or who has aspirations. I’m
Just Flossie who takes the shit and handles to crap day to day. He’s now gone into full
On sulky quiet bastard mode but apparently isn’t....he’s just ‘thoughtful’. No he’s being a full on quiet sulky bastard!! Shame on me for saying I had dreams!! Back to the kitchen sink I creep!!

Ps miserable bitch now off her soap box!! Whoops!!