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Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

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Frouby · 20/09/2018 06:48

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

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longestlurkerever · 03/12/2018 11:20

Yes I was less than saintly, though AF last night. Start of the Christmas lunch season this week though.

NC4Now · 03/12/2018 19:22

I went to the pub on a date yesterday afternoon. He’s growing on me, this one...

AF tonight for me.

recoveryishard · 03/12/2018 20:37

Day 4 AF, big, big step for me. No cravings either, hoping that means my meds are kicking in! X

Flossie44 · 03/12/2018 22:00

Have had one large glass of wine (split into two Smaller glasses). Then made a lemon and ginger tea.
Was up loads last night with acid reflux!! Was vile!! Told
Myself I wouldn’t drink tonight. But cooked roast pork so couldn’t drink
Water with that!!!!!!!

Haggisfish · 03/12/2018 23:48

Well done everyone for successes! Recovery, which meds are you in? Well done on 4af days. I’ve managed a month with at least two af days each week which I am SO chuffed about.

Dionysa · 04/12/2018 20:09

I have wrested DD’s phone off her ( she has homework) following several promises on my life not to look at anything on it. I said I need to check my email (this is true, due to work). Still hate her flipping phone and its tiny keyboard, though. I am on my second gin and tonic, but typing mistakes are because My eyes and fingers are too middle-aged for iphones!

I am going to try to catch up now, despite the lack of a magnifying glass. It looks as if I am sniffing her phone, as I am holding it up to my eyes!

recoveryishard · 04/12/2018 20:20

O have bipolar so take a lovely concoction of lamotrogine, Duloxetine, Quetiepine and Diazepam 🙄 the Quetiepine has been doubled so is stabilising my mood and urge to drink myself into oblivion! Down side is it's making me like a zombie 🧟‍♀️ could sleep all day!

Dionysa · 04/12/2018 20:30

Oh FML. I can’t even read straight. But I have read every post.

NC4 what DP gave me was the promise of something more than an abusive marriage delivered (XH was abusive to the Dc, but not to me, which is arguably worse). But he won’t or, I think, can’t, deliver more than this. I couldn’t feel more worthless if I tried. As Frouby says, these men are like Class A drugs. And, as Longest says, it needs to come to a conclusion. But after countless years of being strong, I am not yet strong enough for this.

I was absolutely determined to get through Day 1 today, but have failed. Every millimetre of my being hurts.

Recovery, how are you getting on?

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Frouby · 04/12/2018 20:45

Ah Dion you are strong enough, you just don't know it yet. Coke is very moreish, but when you kick the habit you feel like a fool, because it's all sparkly eyes, fantastic conversation and amazing sex. The reality is slightly sordid, disappointing and not worth the sore nose or fanny 😂😂😂 Even occasionally a sore arse which definetly isn't worth the worrying poo the next day.

Not dry here. Hardly even moderating. Wasnt even dry sunday, had 3 glasses of wine cooking roast lamb.

Am in holiday mode. Away a week on thursday, to do list is a joke, ds birthday this weekend, nothing done for packing, not wrapped a Christmas or birthday present, house a tip and phoned my cleaner mate desperate for a deep clean and she can't fit me in.

Fml and open the wine 😂😂

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recoveryishard · 04/12/2018 20:47

Day 5 of no alcohol even tho my ex is pushing me to my absolute limit! There is literally one school place left in the entire town I live in and I want to move my daughter (current school was rated inadequate, employed a paedophile, she miserable, falling way behind etc). He is being a child and having a tantrum because it's a faith school and apparently this is important to him even tho the kids aren't baptised, he doesn't go to church, had a vasectomy, is divorcing me oh and abused me for years! Waiting for my solicitor to get back to me but it looks like I'll have to go to court 🙄

Dionysa · 04/12/2018 21:33

Frouby, you are so lovely. And yes to the sore arse 😂 Reminds me of Anglaise and le Bumsex.

Completely not AF, as someone gave me an early Christmas present of gin. They evidently aren’t on this thread.

Recovery, Day 5 is absolutely amazing. Especially in your situation, if your DD can get a place at a better school, any court ( and I am no stranger) would, I think, agree.

I hate my life, and I hate alcohol,

Dionysa · 04/12/2018 21:35

NC4 need to know more about this date !!

Flossie44 · 04/12/2018 21:46

Dion - as frouby says, you really are stronger than you think. And you know you deserve more. You firstly have to start believing in yourself, then gain the strength..then you will be able to take action with dp..either stand up to him, or walk away. I think either way, dp will realise he has a golden girl with you. He just thinks he can have his cake and eat it currently XX

Drank just under half a bottle of wine. Could open another north but not going to. Quite frankly could Whack dh over the head with it..he’s pissing me off soooo much tonight!!

Dionysa · 04/12/2018 22:09

Flossie, you are a bright spark on a horrible horizon. And this thread is a lifeline. What a lovely bunch you are. One of DP’s best friends texted today to ask whether he was being kind to me. So he evidently knows that DP has the potential not to be!

I wonder if anyone else has noticed that DP is the recurrent theme in my drinking problem? I had lots of imaginary conversations with him in my befuddled head this evening (which mostly amounted to: fuck off).

Only half a bottle sounds good to me, unfortunately.

Dionysa · 04/12/2018 22:10

BTW Flossie, “having his cake and eating it” is precisely the remark that one of my best friends IRL made. She said I don’t have to withdraw the cake completely, but just reduce the size of his slice..

Flossie44 · 05/12/2018 18:58

Dion - how do you feel when you are with dp? Do you feel on top of the world still? Or is it tainted these days?? Sometimes you can think you feel feelings when actually you only become habitual in your feelings for someone. If that makes sense. I know you feel rubbish when you aren’t around him because he’s usually playing games with you or distant, which leaves you undoubtedly empty.
Please think of you. What’s the plans for Christmas Day?? Put yourself first darling. You have so much to offer..and he knows that, and is taking the piss. As your friend says....reduce the slice of cake!!
Sending you big hugs xx

Flossie44 · 05/12/2018 18:59

As for me.....gagging for wine!!!!!! Have moderated to half a bottle the last couple of evenings. Want a glass now. But if I start now, that will deffo be the bottle down the hatch by the end of the evening!! Ffs

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Frouby · 05/12/2018 19:18

I am gagging for wine too Flossie. Fucking doing some work tonight so limiting myself to a can of shitty lager. Am proper mardy about it 😂😂😂.

Weather is shit. Work piling up. Christmas shit to get done. Fuckton of packing to do. All animals to sort out before we go away. House needs a right good fettle. Ds birthday party sunday. Need to wrap his presents. To do list as long as dds christmas list.

Wine is very fucking necessary. Am finishing work friday. Hairdressers saturday afternoon. Fuckton of housework saturday morning. Packing monday. Wrapping christmas presents Tuesday. Last minute bollocks Wednesday and fucking off on Thursday thank fooking christ.

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longestlurkerever · 05/12/2018 19:26

Hi everyone! Am going for AF tonight but already pre ordered my glass of wine at work lunch tomorrow and DM will be here in the evening which will make it difficult to avoid drinking. Just want to get into bed now to be honest. Am knackered.

Big hugs to you Dion. And Recovery. How bloody annoying for your ex to put up such a barrier to you wanting to do such a normal thing. I hope the meds are helping.

recoveryishard · 05/12/2018 20:37

Day 6, been hard but managed a 4K run (been out with an Injury for 5 weeks!) and some distraction and a nap helped 2. Spoken to exh and he has pretty much agreed we can move DD school, hurrah! Must not celebrate with a drink 😂😂

longestlurkerever · 05/12/2018 20:40

Oh that's good news Recovery! And fabulous on the run and day 5! Well done you.

I'm feeling too lazy to even make dinner. Am eating leftover popcorn and Doritos from the kids' woodcraft folk party. Actually wondering if I'm feeling a bit ill. Bloody December germs

longestlurkerever · 05/12/2018 20:41

Day 6 even! Even better

Flossie44 · 05/12/2018 20:55

Wow recovery! Day 6!!!!!! Awesome!! You seem so much brighter..and also it opens doors up to other things..such as a run!! Well done you!!

Wish I could do it!!!! Two thirds of bottle down and desperately trying not to pour the last!! Know I will fail!! Fancied it all day!!

recoveryishard · 05/12/2018 21:15

Thanks guys 😊 one while week tomorrow, longest I've been in months! Well done to everyone else trying to moderate, wish I could but it's all or nothing with me 🙄 xx

Dionysa · 05/12/2018 22:07

Recovery, Day 6 is brilliant!!!!!! Go you!!!! You sound happier, too, which is fab.

Flossie, you ask a very good question. I don’t think I do feel elated, now, when I am with him. More worrying about our relationship. It is good that you have made me put this into words.

Longest, if any consolation, I dined recently on Pringles, gin and wine gums 😬

And Frouby... you have made me feel mightily relieved that I never go on holiday. I love your posts. Shit weather here too. It was dark and wet all day.

But AF tonight as I had to work. So that’s the first day in over a week. But better than no days, I suppose...