Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

Morning everyone! Sorry you were sad yesterday NC4. Glad the date was OK, if not dazzling. I was AF yesterday but slept so badly! I messed something up at work. In the grand scheme of things it's not a disaster but I know my boss will be annoyed and I felt so stressed and just couldn't snap out of it. Now it's morning I'm more relaxed about it but have my own version of man flu and am bored of it.

Fly by visit.
Nc4 - nostalgia is a bastard!! It’s like childbirth!! You forget the pain all too easily!! Good luck on the dates. He sounds like a nice chap.

Dion- looking forward to hearing re hypno. Was it wierd?

Recovery - don’t beat yourself up. As been said already..it’s a slow process but look at where you’ve come already.

Well I went to a lil party at a neighbours last night..was my leaving party as move next week. Was lovely. Really lovely. Such great people overall that I’ll be sorry to go. But also excited about our new chapter also. Everyone there last night got smashed. Totally smashed. I actually said no to loads of top ups of glass, and stopped way before the end too. Was shocked at myself. Just not feeling it at the mo 🤷🏻‍♀️ (Altho I still had about 4 glasses of prosecco - but those glasses are like thimbles I find 😉)

I bet it’s not as bad as you’ve built it up to be longest. Hope today goes ok.
Hypno sounds really interesting. I definitely have something I’m trying to satisfy by drinking. I do it with food too, and until recently smoking. It would be great to lose that.
Keep us posted Dion!

I put away a bottle of wine when I got in last night, on top of what I drank out. Why?????
I feel really guilty now. I’m going to have to be AF tonight, rather than moderate.

evening, how is everyone?

NC4 - hope you're doing okay - planning on AF tonight?
Flossie - sounds like quite the party - those were the days for me! Congrats on the stopping though - must have been good willpower when all else around you were careering through...
Longest - hope the work kerfuffle is off your mind now (erm apart from mentioning it again
Anglaise - happy exercising - I really should do some of that!

Apologies to anyone I've missed.

Uneventful day here but I appear to be joining the ranks of the man flu'ers - can you do preemptive Lemsipping?

Thanks both! Boss was good about work thing really, so feeling better! Winter is pants though eh? I'm over it already. Dd2 has the lurgy and has been shrieking at me since she got in. Definitely not going to be AF tonight but will try not to go mad.

Dion - I had my Hypno intro session last Friday and start the real thing Monday - so will report back. one thing for me was she put me in a light trance so I could experience what it was like - I think next time it will be heavier and then you are suggestible - but the thing was my brain really fought it. I think all of us on here have unresolved issues - I know I do and I really think my brain is trying to stop me going there as too painful. But I feel it must be done

I hope that isn't too woo - I am an accountant by day FFS! X

Hi everyone.

Not much news from me. Been shattered this week, think it's hormones..My dh has hardly seen me as I've mostly been sleeping. He thinks I should get my iron checked. I think he just accustomed to me drinking early evening to revive me.. does anyone else do that?

I've been af this week. Had a few glasses tonight. Need to stop as alone with kids.

Funnily enough CottonSock, I was just thinking how tired I am in the evenings when I don’t drink. I’m already longing for my bed.

Afternoon all

Just a quick check in. Haven't been AF since last Sunday but moderating OK. Had 3 cans and 2 gins last night. More than I would usually have but not as much as what I used to have so am OK with that.

Probably not AF tonight. In fact I am already looking forward to a glass of wine. Ploughing through the housework, rehung about a million photos after the decorating a few weeks ago and considering putting the Christmas tree up. Know it's early but it is in the big cupboard under the stairs I want to declutter so might as well leave it out once it's out.

DH thankfully recovered. I can't cope with him at home when he should be at work so I think that aided his recovery. Was safer at work than under my feet.

Stress is mounting here, we go away in 3 weeks, I have work coming out of my ears, it's DS birthday as well, not really started Christmas shopping or organised anything. Am hoping the tree up, standing there all judgemental and sparkly, will motivate me into Getting Shit Done.

I suspect it will just encourage me to open the Sloe Gin and start researching which rhubarb and ginger one is the best value 😂😂

Judgemental Christmas tree 🤣
Aye, the fucker!!

Sounds like your moderating is going well. My dark clouds seem to be lifting slightly, though the stress is still there. I’ve got too much work on which is good for my bank but not so good for my general holding it together.

I’m working later on today as it happens. I’ve agreed to FB live something for a local news outlet I work for sometimes. What was I thinking?!!!! cringe

Moving house in 2 days. House a complete bomb site. Dh being a twat and hiding in the garage saying that’s the most important thing to ‘sort’ before removals come!! Wtf..we have a big 4 bed house....and he thinks the garage is what’s important?! So guess what I’m doing...the entire fucking house!! Counting down the hours til 6pm. Friends popping over to have a farewel drink with us. Bring it on!! For the record, I deffo won’t be af!!!!

Flossie hire a skip, anything DH cant be arsed to sort goes in there. Simples.

Tree is up. Beer is open. Yay me.

I think I’m going to have to have a shot before I do this fecking LIVE event.

Why do I agree to these things??????

Good luck NC4! And Flossie with the packing.

My family is driving me mad. The whining, competition and general overreaction to everything. I just want to get in bed and ignore them.

Ha Frouby - totally misread your skip statement as Flossie's DH could be in the skip - perhaps that is an option Flossie?!

Good luck NC!

Not AF here tonight but not sure how much I'll enjoy my wine punctuated with sneezing fits...

Have been offline as I took DD to my parents (they live in the middle of nowhere, with as good as no internet). Catching up. Will post properly later. But the hypno has not helped me drink less, sadly. In fact, I want my money back.

Sorry to hear it hasn't worked yet Dion and that you're poorly HA.

I eventually had a massive strop over one too many complaints (about tea this time) and stormed off to have a lie down. I possibly mentioned the idea of a cooking strike and cancelling Christmas. They've been quite sweet since then. Will see how long it lasts!

Dion hang on. I am going to my first proper session monday. I think it is mainly woo but the fact you are going means you want to stop as do I do hold on to that thought. X

Well, my battery died 🤣 I’d psyched myself up too. I did a decent job but avoided the cringe.

Dion did they say it would have an effect immediately? My friend stayed off booze for 6 months after one hypno session, but then did it again and it didn’t work.

Just read all of the posts, but am under the influence so please excuse any omissions/crap ramblings.

Flossie, moving house is a big deal. No reason to be dry. You are going through so much anyway, that this is not the moment. xx

Wrongwayup, you are right. It may be a question of finding the right person at the right time. The Ailsa Franks hypno recordings were arguably better (in terms of drinking) than the session with my hypno guy. But I know I can grind through Mondays AF due to ferrying DD around in the car (which, obviously, leaves me with no choice). So why can't I grind through entire weeks?

HAHelp, I bet you are not wearing a scarf and twittering about your shaking hands meaning you MUST have a temperature of 107 Fahrenheit. In which case, you have every sympathy.

Frouby, I am going to pretend you did not mention Christmas trees. They are banned until my DC have all broken up (which in theory means about 15th October, given the length of their sodding school holidays ).

NC4, what is this LIVE event??? I am glad I am not doing it, whatever it is!!

Cotton, yes I do the 'reviving by drink' thing too!

Apologies to anyone I haven't acknowledged. I am trying to maintain a semblance of sobriety...

It was an event locally I was supposed to be doing a FB live for. Piece to camera type stuff. For an audience of 30,000.
Not the 10 o’clock news but enough to make me nervous.
I swerved it though!! Totally by accident.

Good save NC4!

I've booked a night in Stratford upon Avon for boxing day. This means I have mentally committed to going to see DM et al for Christmas but have planned my getaway.

Good save right back at ya longest.

That seems like a very canny plan.

Quick one because I'm doing 19km race this morning in the rain and the mud Not AF this weekend, Fri evening with 2 ex BF so probably over a half a bottle of red consumed, last night out with OH I drove so no more than a glass of wine.
HAhelp hope you feel better soon
Frouby you sound really organised I haven't even thought about Christmas yet
Flossie moving house is so stressful so just do anything to get through it!
Dion I'm really sorry about the hypnosis, it is a lot of money if it hasn't worked for you. I think it did for me, but I'd also made up my mind that I didn't want alcohol to control me anymore and I had definite objectives (I had to draw 3 before and after hypnosis things I wanted to change about me and my life in the first session). Such as getting down to running weight, saving money, sleeping better and not looking like a 50 yr old alcoholic with a red nose.
Is there anything you can do to occupy yourself in the trigger time? I know it is difficult when you are alone with the kids. I find it more difficult not to drink now I have a DP and he is here than alone.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/nov/24/joanna-moorhead-gabriel-mate-trauma-addiction-treat

Saw this and thought of us all - it reminded me of WrongWayUp's comment the other day that gave me pause for thought. I'm not sure if it resonates with me to be honest. I don't know if I have unresolved childhood trauma, though I'll accept a tendency towards depression. There was the usual teenage angst and bullying, there was my DM's alcohol dependency but she was always high functioning and I'm not sure that really affected me until much later on. I was pretty happy in my 20s, apart from losing my much loved DF. It's only as life has shrunk in on itself that I've become more melancholic again. I went through recurrent miscarriages before dd2 was born and it did affect me at the time but it's faded right into the background now I have dd2, I don't dwell on the losses, which were very early, albeit "missed' for several weeks. Oh I don't know, maybe all that is trauma, but it's not childhood escape from the Nazis.