Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

Happy birthday Anglaise!! I reckon you can forgive overdoing it on birthday week.
Flossie that all sounds really difficult. It never rains but it pours, eh?
I’ve been tired and a bit sad today. DS doesn’t know if he’s looking forward to Christmas because he misses exH. He keeps talking about what he wants to buy him for Christmas.
ExH has basically cut him out. I’m so fucking angry with him, and my heart is breaking for my boy. He deserved better.
I needed 200ml of for tea tonight, so of course I finished the bottle.
But me and boys had a nice TV and fire night.

Happy birthday Anglaise! I've been out for dinner and had three bottles of beer. Not terrible but not saintly. I also ate about 5million calories. Oh well

NC4 that sounds horrible. Your poor boy, and poor you, mopping up the mess xxxxxxxxxx

^^ DD21? Needless to say, I meant DD1, Flossie... And I hope your DD2 is a bit better today.
for you, NC4. Bad fathers are no fun for children (my DC's father has done some very crap things...)

Fortunately my exH isn’t his father but he was his stepdad from 3. Their dad is ok these days, but hasn’t always been.

morning all, was away with family for the weekend so just catching up now.

Had one night decidedly not AF last week - felt awful the following morning. However, I decided it was a lesson learned that I feel a lot better AF during the week. It was my first non AF week night in four weeks so all in all thats a lot more dry nights than I anticipated a month ago.

Weekends still need some work though...

Off to read back and catch up

Happy belated birthday anglaise.
Hope flossie is having a better day. My dd2 has horrible ear infections constantly and it's awful for her. Nothing like your poor dd, but you need some sympathy for your ear.
recovery I'm the same.. if I ever had to deal with a child emergency pissed I'd be very embarrassed to admit I couldn't drive etc. I need to rethink my drinking alone with kids attitude I know I do.

Dion - if I was on dd21, then I’d deffo need a stiff drink!!

1/3 bottle of pink and 1/3 bottle of white down the hatch. Helped along with a dominoes pizza!! I used to be the most healthy person ever. Exercise til I dropped and was Mrs organic 7-a day. What happened?!

Flossie you have so much on. Something gave for a while. You can get back there if you want to! Well done on leaving the rest. I would like to be AF till Friday but I know if DH suggests wine tonight I will cave.

Thanks for all the lovely birthday wishes
I used to drink like you Flossie, you have a lot on, you don't have a lot of free time to yourself so it is difficult exercising. You will get to a point when you are motivated enough to stop. Wine is the easy option and the problem is it is so addictive that once you get into the regular drinking cycle it is hard to stop as it does seem to be a quick fix to all the problems we have. I just go out for a run now, I actively avoid alcohol if I have a problem or I'm feeling bad as it doesn't help solve anything really.
AF Mon and Tues possibly not tonight.

Hungover. Sigh.

Hypnotherapist tomorrow. After seeing him, I am meeting university friends for lunch. This normally involves wine. I may have to invent an antibiotic or something. I will be interested to see how I feel about drinking straight after a 90 min appointment...

Can you be honest with your friends Dion? Just to warn they are likely to assume you're pregnant if you say antibiotics. Good luck, I really hope the hypnotherapy helpsVB

I hope the hypnotherapy works out for you tomorrow Dion..

If you're not up for antibiotics/pregnancy assumptions and don't want to be completely honest could you say that you're going dry until Christmas? Or perhaps swerve the first drink by saying you have a cold and ask for a herbal tea - I think once the first drink is out the way others won't notice so much what you're drinking? Finally, does the place you're going to do any AF drinks (seedlip etc)

Speaking of which I have a mini bottle of seedlip in my kitchen to try... I may break it open at the weekend. I was thinking a glass (or two) of wine and then switch to the (hopefully) nice seedlip may break my "wine as reward" issue I have at the weekends??

Evening all

AF here tonight. Enforced though cos am taxi for DD who is at the theatre Dahlings. Just sat waiting for her to come out. It's bloody freezing, I have PJs and a hoodie on and need to get out of the car to get her because she won't find where I am parked.

Am hoping the horror of me picking her up in front of school friends in PJs means she is more proactive next time in getting a lift home 😂😂.

Had a mad busy day too and could really have done with a drink. Up at 5am working, picked my mum up after dropping ds off and went and did a bit of Christmas shopping, came home and finished a bot of work off while she twittered on at me, fed chickens, picked DS up then took mum to pub for tea, dropped dd off at theatre, mum off home, picked DH a chinese takeaway up, put ds to bed then have come back out to pick dd up.

Am bloody knackered. And DH been off all day with manflu. Done fook all except limp around in his scabby dressing gown complaining he feels feverish, sick, shakey, sore throat and a feeble cough/groan/sigh chucked in. Don't know why he was limping. Asked him and he just said 'it's that flu I have'. Fuck sake.

Spent a happy 10 mins in pub switching the lights different colours on Alexa though. It entertained me more than it should especially when they stopped being responsive which means he got up and turned them off at the wall.

Dion hope the hypnotherapy goes well xx

Frouby - I know I shouldn’t be laughing (in fact pissing myself!) but you are hilarious!! Your dh having manflu description was priceless!! Why do they groan?! Dh groans between words when he’s not well. Then as he moves or walks, or does anything, he squeezes another man moan in!! Wtf!! That must be exhausting in itself!!

Hungover 😵 uugghh was doing so well and then my anxiety went through the roof, was all agitated. Tried so hard to distract myself. Now my mums angry, I feel even MORE anxious and have a poorly boy who I think is getting chicken pox 😢 when will I learn I can't just have one, I have to have the whole bottle (or 2)!!

Frouby, you really ought to be a writer. You are absolutely brilliant 🤣 You have also reminded me of XH and the way he used to wear a scarf in the house when he was ill (why????) He also used to hold his hand out so I could see how much he was shivering. If I wasn't sufficiently impressed, he would then make his teeth chatter. Thank God it never occurred to him to limp.

Setting off for the hypno soon. I might tell my friends, or might not. I'm going to see how I actually feel after the session...

Crossed posts with you, Recovery. That's the thing we all struggle with - putting the cork back in the bottle 😞 I'm sorry to hear about your DS, too. And anxiety is awful...

Sorry to hear that recovery. It's not square one though, you know you can do it!

Another one nodding along re man flu. To be fair DH has proper health stuff going on but he's not the best patient and I'm not the best nurse.

Recovery, it’s a stumble, nothing more. As a good friend of mine says, success is not linear.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and get back to where you were yesterday. It’s still a hell of a lot further forward than you were when you started.

I’m missing my exH this week. I feel all teary. I know I shouldn’t - he wasn’t kind to any of us at the end - but that nostalgia is a fucker.

I’m now in the pub for the WiFi.

Supposed to be having tea out with date 2 tonight, but my heart’s not really in it.

NC4, well said re Recovery. And I'm sorry you are missing your XH. How did Date 2 go?

I am a bottle of wine down. FML. Hypno guy good, but didn't mention alcohol. I will try to write more tomorrow, once I've had chance to process it all...

It was nice Dion. He seems a genuinely nice bloke. Into the same things I am, similar background and outlook. Not my usual type - I generally go for more confident types, but look where that’s got me.
Still not sure about romance- I don’t know. I don’t think there’s been much opportunity.
Dating’s weird. I feel better for going out though.

Bonjour everyone,
Dion when I had my hypno sessions alcohol wasn't really mentioned, the whole thing revolved more around addressing why I drank and how to let go of the dependence. It could have been for any dependence. It will take more than one session, I really hope it works for you.
NC4 dating can be a little depressing, but on the plus side it gets you out and I always found it interesting to meet people and learn about them. If the feeling isn't there after the second date then that's probably it, but there are plenty more men out there. I had to date a lot of frogs the last time I was single before finding my current DP (I won't call him a prince but he is as close to my ideal man as I've ever found!)
Frouby I loved your tale of pyjamas, theatre and man flu. I hope your OH is feeling better (more for your sake than for his!)
Not dry last night and have put on 1kg despite getting up at 6am and running at least 12km a day. Must do better next week.