flossie I can't do a paragraph but I do do a Paddington Hard Stare and ask DH if it's because I have a vagina and he has a penis that allows him to have more rest time than me. Or is it because he has a Big Knob that he can't get to the sink and wash pots?
When we moved 4 years ago DS was 11 months old. DH was working away monday to friday. We had the keys a month before as we had to give notice on current property. First weekend DH went Out Out for a leaving do, then half heartedly messed around helping me pack. Second weekend he should have been painting but had a 'bad back'. Third weekend he reluctantly painted when I threatened to leave ds with him. Fourth weekend we moved but I was at new house unpacking while he and his mates packed up all furniture. He couldn't be arsed to empty cellar and shed, and wanted me to do it while he was in the hospital having his stoma bag removed from the Tuesday onwards.
I hired a skip and paid one of our labourers to come and do it instead. Everything went in skip and when he moaned I told him if it wasnt important enough for him to pack it wasnt important enough for me to either.
Not dry tonight. Softplay hell party after school. Family dramas rumbling and I am stuck in the middle and was a family party so heard enough to bite my tongue in half. My lovely auntie with cancer is locking horns with my equally lovely cousin. Am very close to both but can see cousin doing best she can.
Auntie was an alcoholic for much of cousins childhood and cousin had a pretty rotten childhood. Never been close to her mum really, left home at 17 and been pretty successful really considering. Now auntie has cancer she wants cousin to be a perfect, sacrificing daughter and be at aunties beck and call. Cousin self employed, does what I do which is pretty stressful and you have to work when the work is there. Atm there is lots of opportunity, cousin saving up for IVF (she is married to another woman) so she trying her best to fit caring in around a 70 hour week. Auntie wants taking here,there and everywhere and cousin doesn't have the time. Also cousin has an older brother who doesn't work but he is exempt from caring duties as he is the proud owner of a penis. Sigh. My family only hearing aunts side so chuntering about cousin not stepping up. I know cousin up from 4am to 8am working so she can go and take aunt breakfast or to appointments in day, then back working from 3pm to midnight before getting up at 4am again. So know full well cousin is doing best she can, but because she won't literally move in with auntie she being a bad bastard. Cousin has a newly decorated bedroom at her house, it has a downstairs loo, all mod cons and luxuries and she would be able to help auntie a lot more but auntie wants to be at her house not cousins, but wants cousin to stay with her. Cousin has 3 dogs and needs to be able to access her files so wants to be at home.
Neither is right or wrong. But its a situation that will never end well. I am torn between the 2 and wish I could help. But the sad fact is that their relationship is rubbish anyway and something like this just highlights the hidden issues.
Well done to the drys, the dryers and the tryers. I will be alternating between wet and damp now until Sunday. Friends coming round Saturday but have lots to do sunday so going to be aiming for damp rather than soaking.