Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

Yes I did try, but they said I had to have a telephone appointment first, and I managed to miss their call. Need to rebook. Is a slow process. Part of me thinks it may be the coil. Part of me feels like it's just general life getting me down.

Afternoon all

Jesus Fuck, life is so bloody stressful and busy. Ds been a little toad since he came in from school, dd twatting about making a veggie lasagne, house looks like a bombs gone off, numerous work and life admin jobs to do, mine and dhs tea to make (unless I can fob him off with veggie lasagne which is doubtful) washing basket up the wall and what am I doing? Sat on my phone drinking a can of carling because a cup of tea just wouldn't cut it.

Tastes nice tho 😂😂😂

Frouby 😂😂

I just had the best day at work ever!! What an absolute blast. I shouldn’t doubt myself.
Thanks for your kind words last night and sorry to hear yours is shit Frouby
Hope it settles down this evening.

Oh well done NC4! That's really perked me up! Was it anything to do with politics?

Frouby sorry your day has been pants. I wrote a long solidarity reply but it seems to have been deleted somehow and I am feeling slightly better after dd1's parents' evening as they said the issues they had with her are not such big deals. Am meeting the SENCO on Monday

No - it was a big soap opera preview thing (can’t say too much) for a very glossy mag I’ve never worked for before.
What an absolutely brilliant day!!!

And it turns out, I’m not an imposter.... 😂

Hurrah! How lovely.

@NC4Now That is such fab news!!!!! No, you are not an imposter. You are fab, and that's that. I am so glad to read this.

Frouby, I probably shouldn't laugh, but I am, because you write it so well.

Soaking wet here for a whole host of pathetic so-called reasons.

Water, Dr Google is not your friend. Though I sympathise 100 per cent.

Longest, Christmas is in itself enough to drive me to drink. I can't think about it. You say you are getting better at moderating - which is what this thread is all about! So congratulations. Long may it last.

Flossie, .

NC4now, I am weljel, I wanted to be a journalist but ended up in banking. Fuck sake, was so bloody soul destroying. I satisfy my writing urge on here, sending strongly worded emails to Argos and investigating really serious issues like whether the lounge thing at airports is worth paying for . I also suffer fro. Imposter Syndrome. I look around me on the school run and wonder what the fuck I am doing. Currently got ds aged 4 downstairs wittering on about dinosaur stickers, just threatened him with fbing his head teacher via the class dojo thing to get him back upstairs. I know everyone elses kids will be in bed now. Fuck knows how they manage it.

Had 3 cans in the end so not a disaster. Managed to feed the kids, repot the veggie lasagne into a smaller dish in 3 big pieces, and whack some more cheese on and dh non the wiser that it was veggie. So that was a result.

One unexpected benefit of DH nearly dying just before Christmas a few years ago (he was finally discharged Christmas Eve after 2 weeks in hospital, a week of which was in HDU) was that we broke the habit of having people round Christmas day and now its just us for dinner and I cheat and do as much as I can readymade. No stress, I don't have to entertain or clean and tidy and I am slightly pissed all day. Was worth DHs near death experience if I am honest. I do a big all welcome meal NYD but I don't mind that so much.

Flossie . You are drinking less all the time, you too Dion. We are doing well, just keep reducing bit by bit. It took me probably 4 years to get into these bad habits, if it takes 4 to undo them bit by bit then that's fine too. As long as I am getting a bit dryer week by week, month by month.

Ahh, thanks Dion. I am still a podgy, Northern, working class kid, but I should be proud of that! Maybe not the podge, but my roots.

Christmas is stressful. Less for me now, only having one family to see, but I’m trying to manage expectations in terms of time.

I’m not dry tonight, but I moderated by buying 2 of those small bottles. It adds up to about half a bottle. I had such a good day, I wanted to round it off. I know I’d have finished a bottle so I didn’t give myself the chance.

Dear Frouby. You are so lovely - but I'm not doing any better at all, despite all my intentions. FML. But your posts do make me laugh, very much, so thank you for that.

NC4, excellent moderation, and well deserved!

Don’t be jel Frouby. I bet bankers get paid on time. I’m just going through my bank statements wondering why I’m skint.
Clue: outstanding invoices. 😩

BTW, Frouby, had no idea about your DH nearly dying. That was shocking to read.

Who hoo for your great day NC4! Sounds like you’re so not an imposter 🙂

Frouby, good result in the end, sorry your day was pants though. That sounds scary with dh, is he ok now?

Lurker, that sounds good about your dds issues being not so bad

Day 4 AF done here as I’m going to sleep soon ish.

NC4 Outstanding invoices are the story of my life. Though I am shit at requesting payment, too. I find it embarrassing, which is completely ridiculous...

Dionysa tomorrow is another day!

Well done on that too NC4! Good call.

Thanks for that Dionysa, that gave me a little boost. DH and I shared the remains of yesterday's bottle but I'm on the lemon tea now. I bet your reasons are not pathetic in the least.

Frouby your post made me smile too, especially the bit about it being worth DH's near death experience to get out of Christmas stress. Sorry to hear what you went through, but it made me feel less disproportionate in my reaction! I used to work in the city too but as a lawyer - jumped ship to the public sector 13 years ago and haven't looked back.

Woohoo on day 4 water! Wondering if I have ever managed that, bar pregnancy.

Yes DH nearly died the silly twat. Was about 7 years ago now. He had been complaining of a 'bit of bellyache' for about 2 weeks. But he had dodgy guts anyway. Took omerprazole for reflux and told he probably had IBS a few years previously.

Took dd (aged 7) to local youth club on a friday teatime which was handily across road from local pub. Had a few beers, walked home via chinese takeaway, ate tea and went to bed. About 2am he woke me up saying he was ill. Sent him tp have a shower and 2 paracetamol. Still being a drama llama at 3am so turned light on and had a look at him. He did look a bit ropey, sweating and very grey. Started saying he had chest pains so phoned an ambulance. Blue lighted to hospital and 6 hours later he wheeled down to theatre.

The bellyache was a perforated bowel. His appendix had also ruptured and he had perotinitus. He had that much infection in his perotinitic cavity his lungs had started collapsing upwards at the base. He was on hdu for a week while they got the infection stabilised. Had a stoma bag on and was also high risk for pneumonia.

Got the bag removed 4 years ago. Then 6 months later the fucker had a heart attack.

It's no wonder I drink really. 😂😂😂 . Married him cos its got to be worth the life insurance paying out at least.

Oh Frouby. Your life insurance comment made me laugh out loud. My cancerous mum would approve, too. Is it the northern sense of humour?

That said, a perforated bowel and ruptured appendix followed by a heart attack is pretty shit.

Water, Day 4 is mightily impressive.

Longest, I am no stranger to SENCOs. Sigh.

Dionysa I'm pretty new to it all. I do like her though, even though she makes me feel like a disheveled wreck. She's a proper grown up. I bet she's a whizz at moderating.

Dd2 just got her speech therapy referral approved too, though in general she gives me a much easier ride!

Before I read back....just need to say....I’m in bed with a glass of ice cold Pinot....and a mug of lemon and ginger tea!! I’ve moved the wine away and started sipping the tea!! Wtaf!!!!!!! There is still wine in the glass!! Have I been abducted by aliens?!! Have drunk half a bottle tonight. Then opened another bottle and that’s what’s in the glass untouched!!

Longest....that’s bloody incredible!! Well done!! and not even a nice alternative!!

NC4- just knew you could do it!! Think of yourself as one of them now!! Shoes off, feet on desk and sigh happily!! Fabulous!!

Water - how you feeling? Dr google is deffo not great..but have to admit to asking him
Medical stuff daily..then shitting myself at his answer!!!! Sending you massive hugs and wish I had an answer but don’t I’m
Afraid. Xx

Dion - hey hunny. How’s things?? You know me and you are in this shit together. We can do this!!!!!! As frouby said brilliantly..even if we do a weeny bit less week by week, month by month, it’s a positive. I reckon my thinking has been ‘oh you’ve had one..fuck it!! Not worth moderating now!!’ We can do this tho, I know we can 🤗🤗

Frouby..I need you to write a blog....you’re bloody hilarious!! Love it!! Your poor dh tho..and you for witnessing it x