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I drink a bottle of wine every day and can't seem to stop

235 replies

felttippens · 28/06/2015 10:41

The days that I try not to do it im left feeling very lost and depressed.

It is making me fat, lethargic and rubbish

Tips please of how to get this dreadful habit in check - Id like to still enjoy wine but at a less destructive/more sociable level

I don't drink anything other than wine really- if I have a lager or something I don't feel compelled to drink more but one glass of wine and before I know it ive finished the bottle

Help!

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Snog · 09/08/2016 07:39

People don't drink for no reason, so unless you address the reason behind it you are likely to have problems stopping, go back to it, or replace it with another dis functional habit.

Counselling is a great way to start the process. Good luck OP

Snog · 09/08/2016 07:39

People don't drink for no reason, so unless you address the reason behind it you are likely to have problems stopping, go back to it, or replace it with another dis functional habit.

Counselling is a great way to start the process. Good luck OP

Lilybensmum1 · 09/08/2016 08:44

Some great advice yes Harold I like the sound of your suggestion I will try that, I think it's refusing the first drink that's the hardest, well done for refusing a top up I find peer pressure very difficult. On a positive I slept properly for the first time in ages last night and feel so much better.

Caramel by all means pm me your number and I can indeed give you some support. Read Harold's advice it may be helpful for Friday but, for me I will probably not drink at all just find an alternative to alcohol a nice mocktail anyone? Have a great day everyone and enjoy a hangover free day.

FriendofBill · 09/08/2016 08:54

People do drink for no reason, if they are alcoholic.
If you can't stay stopped, or have little or no control over the amount you take you are probably alcoholic.

AA are experts in this field, having helped 2,000,000 people over the world get sober and live happy lives.

If you are struggling, go to a meeting.
When you are indoors struggling, white knuckling it, you could be at a meeting getting real help.

It's free.

Just putting it out there.

poppym12 · 09/08/2016 11:28

I'll be around on Friday too caramel. Probably not online much but definitely reachable by text if you want to message me your number Smile

Caramelslice · 09/08/2016 23:06

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Lilybensmum1 · 09/08/2016 23:32

I'm glad you are ok caramel I'm only on day 3 but waking this morning all be it after some very awful dreams without a hangover is amazing, it was my birthday at the weekend and I had 2.5 bottles of wine to myself that's just awful!!

I'm not sure how you pm on a phone I'm on the iPad I will try and PM you and see what happens. If you can get through Friday that will be a massive step in the right direction. My diet is also bad at the moment but it's still better than alcohol!!

LucyBabs · 10/08/2016 01:23

Can I join you lovely lot?
I have cut down from 7 nights drinking to 5.
However I find I'm drinking more on the nights I do iykwim?

I drank last Thursday and Friday nothing Saturday, Sunday or Monday night. Here I am Tuesday night telling myself I can enjoy a bottle or two of wine and I feel shit.

I'm not sure if I have a physical addiction but it's definitely a habit, one I can't control it seems
Fuck!

Lilybensmum1 · 10/08/2016 08:54

Hi Lucy I have just joined too! There is lots of lovely support on here. I think I have more of a habit but the experts would probably say I'm addicted!

I think if you are concerned about your own drinking it's time for change that's what made me do this, how are you feeling this morning?

Caramelslice · 10/08/2016 11:39

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poppym12 · 10/08/2016 13:09

Going quite well all round it seems Smile

Remember this...... You (collectively) didn't think you could manage a day or two without alcohol but you have. This shows that you can do it as it is not a physical dependence.

Glad you're feeling the benefits - imagine the sense of achievement you will get by having a sober weekend?

One day at a time. That's all. just one day at a time.

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poppym12 · 10/08/2016 17:20

Do you get nervous at social events or worry about them and 'big them up'? If you have children, did you never enjoy going out when you were pregnant? I'll definitely be around via text if you need me but really, if you are ready to stop, your own strength and resolve will see you through. If the reason is important enough, you'll do it.

chocoholic89 · 11/08/2016 07:58

Hi im joining in to! I go on mad weekend binge's did last weekend at a wedding and I'm so embarrassed and been so down at the moment. So decided I cannot drink anymore. Iv not been sleeping and find myself staying in but hope the shame passes.

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chocoholic89 · 11/08/2016 20:02

Yeah I know that is what I always do. But there's always something that seems to happen when I'm drinking or things go crazy with dp who currently isn't living with me as we got issues and not good for the dc us living together. So I'm now goin to try to be in control and my children have better days when I don't drink so I gotta do it for them and myself.

HaroldCopter · 12/08/2016 07:46

Hi Lucy and Choc, welcome!

Just checking in here. This week has been ok, no more drinks for me. I have found myself tempted a couple of times. One night DH rang to say he'd be working late and that would usually be a green light to me to go and buy a bottle. I felt the pang of temptation (almost like a reflex reaction as soon as he said he'd be late) but resisted. Then yesterday I had to go to the shop to buy food for dinner at about 5 pm which is the real danger time for me. I caught myself thinking about buying a bottle and just having a couple last night, but I knew if I had a bottle open that would lead to drinking tonight as well... So I talked myself round, and again resisted. I felt for a few minutes that I was "missing out", but once dinner was over and I made myself a nice herbal tea, I didn't feel like that at all. I read somewhere that you may regret drinking but you'll never regret not drinking and that is so true - I'm going to try and remember that. I then did an online shop last night so there's no temptation to buy wine if I have to go to the shops today (always seems more tempting on a Friday).

How is everyone else getting on? Are you sleeping any better yet, Caramel? I haven't noticed much of an effect on my sleep - the baby still wakes 4 or 5 times a night (come on, you're nearly 1 FFS and I still haven't had a full night's sleep yet!!), but I am feeling much more refreshed and rested in the mornings. How are you feeling about tonight's dinner?

Hope everyone is doing well and feeling positive x

lilydaisyrose · 12/08/2016 08:01

Caramel, I'll be thinking of you tonight - stay strong and enjoy your mocktails! You can do it!

chocoholic89 · 13/08/2016 22:08

How is everyone?
Staying sober here. Doin other lovely things that I wouldn't normally be doin on a sat night. Smile

idrinkandiknowthings · 13/08/2016 23:20

I'm a member of another well-known parenting site, but although there is a support thread for alcohol addiction it's nowhere near as well-attended as this one. I think it may be because people post under their own names and there are photos and they may not wish to be identified.

Regardless, it's refreshing to find people so open and honest about their struggles with alcohol. I've drunk heavily for years and only stopped when I found out I was pregnant. Unfortunately, post-natal depression put paid to what little will power I had before pregnancy and now I can't control my weight or my drinking, and my apathy is overwhelming. If I didn't work full-time and have to get my daughter to school there are days when I'd happily remain in bed all day.

Current drinking levels are around 1.5 bottles of wine a night. Nothing less than 13.5%. I don't crave it in the mornings, or during the day, it's the approaching evening where the need kicks in.

I recently felt tender around my liver area and, aware that it has no nerve endings, thought I'd best see my GP. He referred me for a scan and I've apparently got a fatty liver: "Not the worst I've seen, but not the best either", was the radiologist's comment. She told me the results would be sent to my GP within 7 days.

7 days later I rang the surgery. The results were back and the GP had commented that "no action" was required. I was pretty gobsmacked. I think I was almost hoping for a "You have to stop drinking now or you'll die" lecture.

It hasn't stopped me.

Lilybensmum1 · 14/08/2016 02:43

Hi Idrink I know how you feel I'm Still looking for that one reason to stop! I was doing ok but had too much wine last night and feel awful it's the guilt and now I can't sleep.

I thought I could moderate I clearly can't I need to stop and don't know how, I don't want to go to GP as I don't want it on my records but then maybe that's what I need, but I would be scared of having bloods taken and the results it's all such a mess. I'm being treated for anxiety and depression which I had under control but when I drink it comes back.

The thing is I don't drink everyday but it's still too much and the few days I did manage to stop I felt amazing so I don't know why I started again. I really dislike myself I can't seem to do this even for my DH and kids.

chocoholic89 · 14/08/2016 03:00

I'm up tonight and not been drinking over the past week. I didt drink everyday but when I did I didt stop. Then had stress and anxiety like u. I don't feel bad that iv decided that I dont want to drink even tho its only been a week.

Lilybensmum1 · 14/08/2016 03:04

Trouble is I'm worried I can't stop I really want to I feel awful at the moment it's not a hangover just want to stop.

Lilybensmum1 · 14/08/2016 03:05

Choc can I ask how you managed to stop?

chocoholic89 · 14/08/2016 03:06

U said u was doing good? So on those days what made u not drink?