I drink a bottle of wine every day and can't seem to stop

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The days that I try not to do it im left feeling very lost and depressed.

It is making me fat, lethargic and rubbish

Tips please of how to get this dreadful habit in check - Id like to still enjoy wine but at a less destructive/more sociable level

I don't drink anything other than wine really- if I have a lager or something I don't feel compelled to drink more but one glass of wine and before I know it ive finished the bottle

Help!

Also daily excersise can help with depression. An hour a day is great.

Joining the low carb bootcamp might help on here. It's a very fast moving thread and many posters have to give up alcohol for the new way of living/ eating.

Also there is the dry babes battle bus in relationships. Very helpful.

I've been sober 20 months and it's the best thing I've ever done.

the website Sober Recovery have forums that I've found immensely supportive. I got sober with AA but don't do many meetings these days.

I'd been drinking regularly since the age of 9. by the time I stopped I had lost everything. please get some help for this now as I promise you things will get worse.

ohh the people pleasing. I am very guilty of this. being sober has helped my self esteem and I'm not so quick to surround myself with other people's needs so I can ignore my own.

my story very nearly ended with my death. at the very end (I had lost my job a year before, then my daughter left to live with her father and I had to move out of my home as my husband couldn't live with me any more either) I was drinking to blackout and waking up days later to find I had been vomiting in my sleep. my last drunk ended in withdrawals so severe I collapsed trying to get water and thought I was going to stroke out.

booze took me down fast and hard once I started using it to deal with panic attacks and severe anxiety. even though I have been drinking dangerously all my life, the final race to the bottom was terrifying.

my life is still difficult but the chaos has gone. my daughter and I are very close again but she still lives at her dad's as I am in a one bed flat in a sketchy area of town. it's me and my cats these days. I have a partner but we don't live together and I'm not sure we ever will.

all of which is a very long-winded way of saying please, address this now while you still have the chance. I really wish you well - it's hard but not impossible to get sober.

I had a reason for drinking which was not facing up to being in a deeply unhappy marriage. Stopping drinking years ago was frightening as I finally faced up and got out. I had a lot of early nights and drank a lot of water as well. I had a plan for all that time that was suddenly spare ( and money!)

Now, I deal with things as they come along. I don't have a drink and ignore it, hoping it will go away.

Caramel I'm doing the same - I've been having a couple of large g&ts plus a glass or two of wine every night to block out the crap that is my life but I have to stop. Today is the first day.

you've done the hardest part by admitting it. I think its so easy when you are on your own to just reach for a glass and fill it. You can try to find the local Alcohol place, they don't contact your doctor and its completely confidential. I used to work at one a few years ago. The best thing to do is to try to cut down slowly, keep a diary of how much you are drinking and why? are you feeling sad? is there anyone you can call or a friend who can come round for say a cup of tea instead of a glass of wine? can you tell anyone close to you how you feel and what's going on? if you can just cut down by say a glass a week or have white wine and lemonade and gradually have more lemonade than wine. Don't berate yourself if you go off the rails just pick yourself up and try again tomorrow. I think by saying it out loud to yourself you have taken a massive step.....keep going xx

Keeping busy and drinking lots of water! I'm sure half the time I drink alcohol because I'm thirsty. I'm looking forward to feeling better in the morning.... How are you doing?

Well done caramel. If you can manage not to drink in the Christmas/everyone else is/you are with people who expect you will drink then you have conquered so many of the hardest points.
Will check back tomorrow to check you have ticked off day 1. Good on you!

Caramel how are you doing? Sorry it's late - big busy day. I've been thinking of you though and now that all the family's gone and the festivities are over, I'm planning for tomorrow to be my day 1. You have articulated so clearly the things I feel and think and want - thank you for helping me to take things a bit more seriously.

Well done for today , I think sitting through a boozy meal without drinking is an excellent start .

Have you managed Caramel?

Caramel you are welcome. And not alone. X

Had no signal all day and now rushing to feed kids but I am sober! And although I REALLY want a drink now, I'm not having one. More later. Thanks for being interested, really helps!

You're doing great, Caramel. Wanting a drink isn't a problem right now, as long as you don't give in.

Absolutely agree with pp , it may take a long time to get to the point where you don't want a drink but provided you don't have one you are half way there , and you will feel the benefits fairly quickly .

Great to hear you're feeling good Caramel - and yes a good day 1 for me. In bed with a cup of tea!!