Matthew and Ryan

[Arran2024]

These two keep cropping up on my Facebook feed. They are a gay couple planning to adopt and apparently it's really happening - next week. They post incessantly about the process and are clearly very excited, but how can social services be ok with this?

(Edited because I can't get the Facebook link to work)

ok I stand to be corrected I thought there were very few under 1s for adoption

It isn’t unusual for adoption, particularly when it isn’t a first removal for the birth parent. Our daughter was a very young baby when she was placed due to being a second removal, if she wasn’t placed with us she would have likely been foster to adopt. Her adoption was completed before she was a year old.

I think it is more common nowadays that there is foster to adoption for example. I adopted 25 years ago and it was very difficult to find very young children.

Ok thank you sorry for derail

Have you seen two men and a little lady.? A gay couple with the most adorable sassy toddler. They are like chalk and cheese however they do show her face, it’s not known how long she has been with them or what her name is, no background at all, she slots into their lives which is full of creativity. Long dog walks and building same castles. I don’t have anything to criticise them about,

We know ‘Moo’, she’s even sassier in real life.

I adopted 25 years ago and have seen so many adopters of younger children have a seemingly lovely early years only for it to go wrong around move to secondary school. But these kids had no publicity - their lives fell apart in complete obscurity. These families promoting their adoptive family set up are playing with fire imo. The chances of things going wrong are pretty high. What happens to their carefully curated family stories then?

I cant get enough of her and i love how she loves her big dinners in the pub just like her daddies.

Don't you think there is something wrong in you knowing so much about this child?

honestly, I find them to be incredibly sexist. When they were adopting, they refuse to even look at adopting a girl, because it ‘wouldn’t align’ with their life. And they picked out the boy they were adopting. The whole thing just seems wrong to me. I had to Unfollow them because their behaviour is just disgusting.

They are back in Japan and discussing moving there to live!

@LadyAusten

I can't say I'm a fan but to be fair, lots adopters have strong preferences about the sex of the child. I started out thinking I had no preference but as time went on I began to see myself more as a boy's mum. And in the sense that all my friends had boys, a boy 'aligned ' more than a girl.
And we all get to choose which child we adopt.

I see from Facebook that the dads are taking Lincoln on his first Disney Cruise. He has already been to Japan twice and I think he isn't yet 2. The dads have reported he has been having night terrors....anyway, for the first time there are some concerned comments alongside the "he's so lucky" ones, but of course the fans are giving them short shrift.

Their enthusiasm is quite exhausting

So this just popped up on my Facebook feed:

We might be completely delusional 😂 but we’ve just got off the Disney Cruise, showered, repacked and now we’re heading straight to San Francisco for Pokémon Championship and XP 😅🥰 A little chaotic? Absolutely. A whirlwind? Definitely. But we truly believe that when life gives you incredible opportunities, it’s far too short to say no, especially when nanny is coming to help 👵🏻🥹✨

We can’t wait to see Lincoln meet his good old friend Pikachu again 🥹⚡️💛 And we’re SO excited because we’re actually doing storytime at the event over the weekend! 📚🥰

We’ve mentioned before just how passionate we are about the importance of reading with little ones, so it feels like such an honour to be able to stand on stage and read some Pokémon books 🥹😭🥰 Honestly, what an incredible way to combine two things we love creating magical memories with Lincoln and sharing our passion for reading ❤️

The chaos never stops, but we wouldn’t have it any other way 🥹✨

@Arran2024

Ive been a bit less concerned about these two than others, but even Im thinking this is a bit much.
Its good to have enthusiastic parents but these two must be exhausting to be around. Going on another trip straight away is way too much - you would hoped nanny might have said something by now

I agree. I sort of assumed they were putting on a show as content seems to be how they make their money but one holiday after another is just excessive.
I think it would be disruptive enough with a birth child but an adopted one probably needs stability and routine more than most, especially for the first year.

I’ve stopped watching - by nanny do they mean one of their mothers or a hire nanny?

@FinallyMummy

If they were sitting on a beach with a bucket and spade in Wales it wouldn't be so bad.
Its the jetting off round the world and high octane Disney stuff which is the problem I think.

It's one of their mothers.

They also keep popping up on my FB. I got the impression that they don't pay for all their trips (or at least not the full amount that a non-influencer person would have to pay). Think I saw on a Disney Cruise post that they werw there on some sort of promotion? They also went to Disneyland Paris earlier this year to attend a preview event fie the new Frozen Land. I guess they make enough money from SM to be able to afford rest of the holidays.

Poor litrle Luncoln just spends his life being moved from country to country though. He needs more stability. And are they going to continue this jet-flying lifestyle when he starts school? Or will they continue to do all these trips and leave nanny to stay with Luncoln and do the school run everyday? Not to mention leaving nanny to deal with all the issues that can arise when a child starts school ...

@DefinatelyNotAnAthlete

Unless God forbid they decide to home educate.
When he does start school their opportunity to generate content will be massively reduced.
I wonder what the 'life span' of influencers is? You would have thought interest would fade after a while. And I would think (hope) Lincoln will at some point get fed up of being followed round with a camera all time and tell them to shove it.
Working on the principle that all teens think their parents are embarrassing, these two are so OTT I can't imagine your average teen will thank them.

They've hinted in comments that they will be home educating - in response to a comment saying about school holidays - 'if he goes to school...'

We did a 10 flight from far Eastern Russia to Moscow with our DD only a few days after she was placed with us. TBF we didnt have any choice as we had to get home.

We also brought our DS to the states for a family wedding 4 months after we adopted him.
It's not a terrible thing to do IMO.

@gabsdot45

I think there has to be a balance, you had to get home, fair enough.
Its not just the flights with these two,
This child has been to.Japan twice, a Disney.cruise and to San Franciso, to my knowledge.
I think one if these trips was straight after the previous trip. And its all high energy stuff. Most adults would be knackered