Adoption Tearoom - open for business

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or maybe a place for me to talk to myself . Not as glamorous as the One Child Families tearoom, just somewhere to have a cyber cuppa and chat.

I went to pick DD (adopted from China) up from school yesterday. Whilst waiting in the playground I got chatting to the grandma of one of her classmates. I find playground chitchat hard work sometimes and I made a lighthearted remark about life since we adopted DD. The perfectly nice Grandma said "it's hard bringing up a child who isn't your own". She said that 30 odd years ago she had fostered two boys for what should have been a few weeks but they stayed with her until adulthood - one was still living at home.

I told her that we think of DD as "our own".

Silence followed then (as the bloody school bell still hadn't gone), I said something inane about enjoying having a daughter and Grandma said "I feel closer to my daughter, than my two sons who are not mine".

She didn't mean any harm with her remarks but it was an insight into how some people view adopted children as somehow less than a birth child and I felt a bit deflated

Just wanted to offload - will nip to M&S for some scones in case any one pops into the tearoom.

Like a knife through my heart, MrsDV

Sleep tight.

I noticed you were missing, MrsDeVere! I could be the bleedin' aspidistra for all the notice anyone takes of me here!

We were tactfully avoiding you, MP, because we thought from your last post that you were well bladdered and likely to get lairy.

Very true, Babysham does have that affect on me

In the olden days we used to drink Brandy and babysham... man, I could drink then.

I'm going into hosptial Monday for a trnasfusion of iron - damn I'm so tired that I'm actually looking forward to it

I hope it perks you up a treat Kew.

Now that is something to feel smug about Mary

Happy birthday to your DD Mary :) I think you do a lot more than 'something' right DD2 is also 15, but she's very a stroppy one!!

Feeling shattered, not up to much posting. But DD2 seems to have another infection, thats three very similar ones within a year :(

Lager and black, anyone? Now THAT was a revolting drink - the pink scum floating on the top [bleugh]

Hope dd2 feels better soon, Lilka.

Ah, snakebites. I can't tell you how much trouble they got me into.

Guinness and blackcurrant?

Or pernod and black? Urghh, I don't even like liquorice, can't understand why I would drink Pernod - the power of peer pressure.

And what was the one where you dropped a shot glass of something into your pint?

Tequila shots? I still do them when I've had one too many gins and it always seems like a good idea at the time

Is it DD's birthday today maryz cos its mine too

Happy Birthday MrsDV :) Have some

Mary - Yes, urinary infection. She seems to be really susceptible (sp?) to them, 3 in the last year, same the year before that, and the year before etc. We changed a/b time before last, which did clear it up more quickly than normal, I might ask again this time when we go, and see about another change. But I'm wondering if there's an underlying cause now, so I'll ask about that as well

I can't stand lager, so i never tried snakebites (or if I did I can't remember it), but my friend did..oh boy did she get herself into trouble I go more for tequila shots, vodka, and especially Archers...I have a nice big bottle in the kitchen come to think of it............

Happy brithday Mrs DV

Happy birthday MrsDV. Hope you're having a good one.

I'm not sure if anyone can help at all, I'm meeting my birth mother for the first time on wednesday.

I feel ok on the surface but I know I'm stressed underneath as my eating is out of control; always a tell tale sign.

I can't wait but am very nervous too.

Does anyone have any nuggets of wisdom that may help?

I've no wisdom for you but I couldn't read your post and not respond. I really hope it goes well for you. I can only imagine how nervous both you and she must be. I hope the meeting brings you peace.

The very best ot luck you. Come back and tell us how you get on.

No wisdom here either (it's in short supply in the kewcumber household) but if I were being all new age and woo-woo'y and based on waiting to meet ds for the first time (kind of your situation in reverse in an alternative universe!) Then if would just say acknowledge your nerves and own them - brief nervous is right and normal. Just experience the meeting and remember as much of it as you can.

Totally uninformed lecture over!

being nervous - bloody phone

Thanks for responding, I've spoken to bm today and we're both admitting to nerves but both can't wait to meet.

I really hope it's the start of a long relationship. We've got on really well on the phone over the last 8 weeks so I'm hoping that we've got the basis of a good connection.