Struggling with DD who has autism [Title edited by MNHQ]

And you’ve had my post removed. Well, that’s fine by me. It doesn’t change the fact that autism isn’t all about those who are on the spectrum - especially on a thread like this.

That’s two times now you’ve said your not arguing with people and I’m going to assume it’s because you like joining threads then running away because you know you don’t really have much to say that is factual.

and I’m quite happy for my post to be reinstated regardless of what people think about it.

@Simplelivingisharderthanitlooks

to clarify, I haven’t asked for any of your posts to be removed. I’m quite content for other posters to see what replied to/and the way I replied. I’m not one for running away.

There was some truth in that comment. It may upset people to hear it, but the person with autism is not the only person in the scenario. And they are not the only person affected by it. That doesn’t take away from their experience at all, but it does mean that others are allowed their feelings about it too. Saying a lot of pretty words, or changing the language around it, might be perfectly true and might make some people feel better or more positive some of the time, and that’s brilliant for them. But it doesn’t necessarily change the reality of the situation for other people.

Many situations in life are extremely burdensome at times, and difficult to cope with. That has nothing at all to do with how much an individual is loved, cherished or cared for, or how much that individual might see things differently, or want them to be different. It also doesn’t mean that one person always has it more or less difficult than the other. It isn’t a pizza, it doesn’t always fall into exact quantifiable slices.

There should be room and space for people to seek solace where it’s needed. Otherwise before we know it a lot of very loving, caring and devoted parents will find it almost impossible to continue looking after and supporting the children they love so much.

Life isn’t a book. It can’t simply be re-written to make everything right and fair and good for everyone all the time.

Again, I’m going to genuinely give to every person whatever side of the discussion you happen to be on. These topics are not easy to navigate.

You’ll get through it, together. She’s only young, she’s overwhelmed and anxious, I’m sure. There’s light at the end of the tunnel. Day by day. and where needed. One of my daughters had such a hard time between 10-16, it was very difficult. She made it through, and so did I.

Lollipop, if you want to say what happened that had you both at the end of your tethers I’m sure there are people here who wouldn’t mind if you PM’d them and let them help you pick it all apart when you’re feeling better.

And if you don’t fancy doing that there’s the Challenging Behaviour Foundation who are a good help with advice. You can even phone them.

And something else that may be of help to your girl and the family is the Low Arousal Approach to autism. Like the organization above they look at Autism from the bigger picture and also concentrate on preventing family meltdown.

www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwiH9LCZzdv7AhWS_KQKHUNsBpEQFnoECBcQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.challengingbehaviour.org.uk%2F&usg=AOvVaw2MR7nZIe0NEB4vhrNxatG4

www.lowarousal.com/