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School asking for flight details after unauthorised term-time absence abroad

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PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:19

We went abroad mon-thu last week, ds (10) was in school the week before and went back on Friday. We let them know and obviously knew it would be unauthorised. As it was 8 sessions we don’t qualify for a fine. His attendance is usually 100%.

They asked on friday before and after for us to provide proof of the flights and other details for ‘safeguarding’ but he was back in school and clearly fine ?? We declined as this is private personal data. They replied back that we must submit the evidence by the end of tomorrow?

Is this usual ?

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PigletJohn · 20/09/2026 23:44

Ralphschocolate · 20/09/2026 18:40

A quick google search tells you why ... UK schools are heavily monitored by Local Authority Attendance Teams and Ofsted regarding how they code absences. If your child missed school, the school cannot simply take a verbal or written note at face value to close the file. The school needs physical proof (like a flight ticket) to back up why a specific registration code (such as Code G for unauthorised holiday) was used.

The school has a problem, then, if they are expected to compile evidence they have no right to demand.

ThisWiseRobin · 21/09/2026 00:57

Why are you making such an issue of this. Just give them the damn flight numbers and everyone can get on with their jobs.
Don't you have something more interesting to do ?

SuddenlyBecoming · 21/09/2026 01:17

PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:23

We are luckily just under the 10 sessions threshold for a fine !

Don't be so sure of that. You can be fined for less and the school have a right to ask for evidence.

PigletJohn · 21/09/2026 01:22

Anybody can "ask."

But no power to demand.

Tanjamaltija · 21/09/2026 05:30

AuntieBiotics · 20/09/2026 17:26

Safeguarding is one of those words bandied about by people supposedly in authority to try to intimidate. Using it in this way undermines genuine safeguarding concerns.

the only scenario I can even conceive of where they might ask for flight details would be if they were concerned a 13/14/15 year old girl was being taken overseas to marry. Flight details could mean someone steps in. Clearly not the case here.

I would be asking them to explain exactly what their “safeguarding” concerns consist of, other than nosiness.

..sometimes younger girls are taken abroad to have FGM. They want to have their asses covered, just in case this latter scenario comes up, and they are asked why they don't query anyone, just specific cases.

PurpleAxe · 21/09/2026 05:36

I would be tempted to respond with an 'or what?' type of response.

Xanhi · 21/09/2026 06:25

I get that this is intrusive but you are taking this far too personally. It is an admin thing that the local authority force schools to do for safeguarding. The person in the office who has to deal with attendance doesn't care where you went. You just have to give them flight details. All this huff about personal information looks silly because you trust them with your child the whole time and they have all their personal information already. Now you have made a fuss they will probably be speculating about it. You have turned a boring tick box exercise into a drama.

PersonalData · 21/09/2026 06:26

SuddenlyBecoming · 21/09/2026 01:17

Don't be so sure of that. You can be fined for less and the school have a right to ask for evidence.

Why though if it’s 8 sessions and the rules clearly state 10 sessions in a 10 week period ?

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PersonalData · 21/09/2026 06:28

Dh has said he is going to go in this morning and that he will give them the details / proof once they’ve explained to him exactly why it’s necessary face to face.

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BooksandSlippers · 21/09/2026 06:37

PersonalData · 21/09/2026 06:28

Dh has said he is going to go in this morning and that he will give them the details / proof once they’ve explained to him exactly why it’s necessary face to face.

This is so funny, you are wasting your own and their time for no reason at all! The reason will be safeguarding, obviously, because that's what it is. How can you not have anything better to do than send a flight number across?!

notimagain · 21/09/2026 06:40

Morning..

I see the idea that providing flight numbers does probably close to nothing/zilch to improve Safeguarding continues..

DeftGoldHedgehog · 21/09/2026 06:42

Needmorelego · 20/09/2026 17:29

Just give them the information.
As someone upthread said your week away "on holiday" could actually be hiding your child at home because they're covered in bruises.

Then they'd need to check for bruises or get social services involved. Be able to show evidence of flights is a non-sequitur.

SomeoneIsWrongOnTheInternet · 21/09/2026 06:44

Not rtft, but if this was a dd, I guess they’d be thinking of FGM. And that IS something schools are required to take v v seriously. What data are they asking for?

DeftGoldHedgehog · 21/09/2026 06:44

Tanjamaltija · 21/09/2026 05:30

..sometimes younger girls are taken abroad to have FGM. They want to have their asses covered, just in case this latter scenario comes up, and they are asked why they don't query anyone, just specific cases.

Again, how does a flight time prove FGM hasn't happened?

BooksandSlippers · 21/09/2026 06:46

No, wait, I've got it op, obviously this is not safeguarding, they clearly just want to find out how cheap your flights there and are planning a trip their themselves.

Honestly, some people wind themselves up and make such a childish, petty fuss.

Tanjamaltija · 21/09/2026 06:48

DeftGoldHedgehog · 21/09/2026 06:44

Again, how does a flight time prove FGM hasn't happened?

It does not - but it's a start for the investigation, if there are suspicions that it has.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 21/09/2026 06:53

likelysuspect · 20/09/2026 22:19

I wouldnt have thought so, not all schools operate the same way at all

But as someone has helpfully pointed out, you wouldnt have flight details if the holiday was UK based, you may not even have a holiday booking as such if you were just stahying with someone else

And you wouldnt announce the holiday in advance if this was a case of keeping a child off school to cover harm.

Im wondering what proof schools will now be asking for, for sick days. Because GPs wont be giving sick notes for children off for a week or so (quite rightly).

So a child is off for a holiday for a week, flight details were a 'requirement'

A child is off sick for a week with a cold, whats the requirement?

They do routinely ask for medical information when it isn't part of current guidance or law.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 21/09/2026 06:53

why not just give it, all you are doing now is make yourselves look suspicious. Why should they waste social services time when you can so quickly resolve it.

MrsMurphyIWish · 21/09/2026 07:03

PersonalData · 21/09/2026 06:28

Dh has said he is going to go in this morning and that he will give them the details / proof once they’ve explained to him exactly why it’s necessary face to face.

And the receptionist will just state “safeguarding procedure” - what else can they say? Unless you’re wanting to then speaks to the DSL’s who will be teaching.

Why are you being so awkward? My school also asks for this information - not because we think one event is a safeguarding concern, but because tiny details may build up evidence for an overall picture. The new KCSIE guide - if you care to read it - places much more emphasis on attendance criteria and reporting than ever before.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 21/09/2026 07:04

BooksandSlippers · 21/09/2026 06:37

This is so funny, you are wasting your own and their time for no reason at all! The reason will be safeguarding, obviously, because that's what it is. How can you not have anything better to do than send a flight number across?!

This very long thread has shown that his saying safeguarding is not in itself a reason.

DrWhosJazzyScarf · 21/09/2026 07:07

My previous school would ask for this as well. Genuinely a safeguarding thing.

violetcuriosity · 21/09/2026 07:07

Im a DSL, the only reason I can think that they would need this for safeguarding is for attendance tracking as when a child is off and the parents don’t call each day, ideally a welfare call/visit would happen. This obviously wasn’t possible as you were out of the country so flight details could be evidence as to why they didn’t carry out these checks. Saying that, I can’t remember a time we have ever asked for this info.

ThisUmberSwan · 21/09/2026 07:07

Telecone · 20/09/2026 17:22

Just tell them and don't be awkward. Unless it's life or death you don't need a holiday the first week of term.

As an adult with free will people can holiday when they want to it’s not up to you to judge them for that.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 21/09/2026 07:08

Tanjamaltija · 21/09/2026 06:48

It does not - but it's a start for the investigation, if there are suspicions that it has.

How does this make sense?
If they do provide flight details - what then? If they flew to Egypt or Somalia or a country where FGM is rife and they come from a culture where it is normalised and the child is a little girl - then there are red flags of course. But if the school suspected FGM then they should make the referral immediately with absolutely no need to wait to see flight details. And if the family are not from a culture where this is normal practice then why would seeing flight details have anything to do with FGM? and if they are from a culture where this is practiced but they flew to Málaga or Florida then what, all good? When still nothing is proven one way or another??

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 21/09/2026 07:09

DrWhosJazzyScarf · 21/09/2026 07:07

My previous school would ask for this as well. Genuinely a safeguarding thing.

Genuinely not though

The reason schools might be asking for this is so they can complete their records. Record keeping is important but it's not safeguarding.

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