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School asking for flight details after unauthorised term-time absence abroad

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PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:19

We went abroad mon-thu last week, ds (10) was in school the week before and went back on Friday. We let them know and obviously knew it would be unauthorised. As it was 8 sessions we don’t qualify for a fine. His attendance is usually 100%.

They asked on friday before and after for us to provide proof of the flights and other details for ‘safeguarding’ but he was back in school and clearly fine ?? We declined as this is private personal data. They replied back that we must submit the evidence by the end of tomorrow?

Is this usual ?

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MeowDoku · 20/09/2026 17:26

I did this without being asked tbh, we asked for a day for my brother's wedding which was abroad, I sent the flight details which showed we'd booked a flight after school Friday and back Monday morning, the wedding was Sunday. It was authorised because they could see if done everything I could to minimise time out of school and he was only off for one day, no different to if it was a closer family wedding in the UK. I don't get the personal information thing it's just a flight booking, and you trust them with your child. Redact anything you feel is too personal if you like

FiveEightNine · 20/09/2026 17:26

Wtf?

Sound like the school is massively overstepping.

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:27

PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:25

I’ve asked them. They just keep repeating for safeguarding and that it’s a requirement not a choice .

If you were away - you literally could not take your child to school

If you weren’t away… safeguarding would kick in

AgnesMcDoo · 20/09/2026 17:27

It’s none of there business and they are CF for demanding this.

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:28

AgnesMcDoo · 20/09/2026 17:27

It’s none of there business and they are CF for demanding this.

🙄

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:29

Did you give them a heads up before taking him out? Or just call on the first day of absence?

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 17:29

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:26

Exactly
it will be safeguarding
they want to know that it was actually for a holiday and not because…you couldn’t be arsed to take him to school OR you had hurt him and didn’t want him in until bruises cleared up

This is...not how safeguarding works
The school doesn't need evidence that he was actually on holiday for any kind of safeguarding.

Loub1987 · 20/09/2026 17:29

I think people who work in schools often get very full of their own power. Often they are also people who have never left school - high school, uni, straight back to school. Just don’t answer, what are they going to do?

PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:29

They probably know where we went as if they’ve asked ds he would have said ! We’ve not told him to keep it a secret.

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SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 17:29

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:27

If you were away - you literally could not take your child to school

If you weren’t away… safeguarding would kick in

What do you mean 'safeguarding would kick in'
What does this mean

Needmorelego · 20/09/2026 17:29

Just give them the information.
As someone upthread said your week away "on holiday" could actually be hiding your child at home because they're covered in bruises.

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:29

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 17:29

This is...not how safeguarding works
The school doesn't need evidence that he was actually on holiday for any kind of safeguarding.

But if there was no reason behind the absence - then there would be a responsibility to probe further. Why, why didn’t your child come to school?

JustWalnut · 20/09/2026 17:30

What personal information is there on a booking confirmation, apart from the names which the school presumably already know?

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 17:31

Needmorelego · 20/09/2026 17:29

Just give them the information.
As someone upthread said your week away "on holiday" could actually be hiding your child at home because they're covered in bruises.

This isn't how ANYTHING works. Just no.

Soontobe60 · 20/09/2026 17:32

PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:25

But he’s back now so why does it matter ?

It could be that a child has been kept off school as they’ve received a non accidental injury and their parents are hiding it from the school. This is what happened with Sara Sharif.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 17:33

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:29

But if there was no reason behind the absence - then there would be a responsibility to probe further. Why, why didn’t your child come to school?

4 days of unexplained absence would not elicit any kind of safeguarding procedures for a child with otherwise 100% attendance and no other safeguarding concerns

hardshoulderr · 20/09/2026 17:33

I've been involved in sentencing for school non attendance and also, at the other end promoting school attendance and I've never heard of this

Treebaubles · 20/09/2026 17:33

Do they have any reason to believe it’s a safeguarding issue? I’d just hand the info over, it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

Needmorelego · 20/09/2026 17:34

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 17:31

This isn't how ANYTHING works. Just no.

What do you mean?
A child is off school for a week.
The school will want to know why. You say "oh yes we were on holiday".... should they just accept that?
With no proof?

hardshoulderr · 20/09/2026 17:34

Loub1987 · 20/09/2026 17:29

I think people who work in schools often get very full of their own power. Often they are also people who have never left school - high school, uni, straight back to school. Just don’t answer, what are they going to do?

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Oh yes, the heady unlimited power of being a teacher just imagine what we can do 🙄🙄🙄🙄

KateBushAgain · 20/09/2026 17:35

I’d call their bluff .
There’s no logic to it , what would it prove ?
That you didn’t lie ?
That you weren’t lying low at home instead ?
and what if you were?
I’d be absolutely infuriated by this .

Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 17:35

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 17:29

What do you mean 'safeguarding would kick in'
What does this mean

The SGL would have a responsibility to probe further to find out why the hell this child wasn’t in school for this length of time and the parents had lied

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 17:35

No idea whether this is normal or not as I wouldn't allow my child to miss school, but it doesn't seem unreasonable. I hardly think details of a flight you've been on are exactly private and confidential.

AFPotts · 20/09/2026 17:35

I wouldn't risk a strained relationship with school, life's hard enough. This is a battle I wouldn't pick

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