Wedding gift etiquette

[WhatWeddingGift]

DH and I are off to the wedding of one of his good friends soon. We’re all late 30s. The invite has the fairly standard ‘we don’t need any gifts but you can contribute to our honeymoon if you’d like’ and then gives their bank details.

We have two kids and consider ourselves to be fairly comfortably off, with combined salaries of around £100k. We rarely go on holiday, and when we do it’s usually camping. The couple getting married earn approximately double this and have no dependents. They go on several holidays a year, so I’m sure they can comfortably afford a honeymoon.

What should we give for their gift? Not giving anything seems a bit mean, but giving money seems a bit ridiculous given the difference in finances. If money, then how much? I’m unsure of the etiquette here.

Wow!
You need to look at yourself. Your post is the snarky one.

@WhatWeddingGift I assume you realise richer people can afford anything you might buy them and probably already have it. So the honeymoon is no different. I’d never ever put cash in a card. It might well go missing. It still seems to be all about you and not pleasing the couple.

Not giving anything seems a bit mean, but giving money seems a bit ridiculous given the difference in finances.

Are you aware of the concept of "a gift"? It's supposed to be something given in a spirit of generosity and celebration, not a way of levelling up your finances.

Just give them whatever you would usually spend on a wedding present by way of bank transfer, or buy them a gift of your choice. Either is fine.

We went to a lovely wedding party recently where the invitation said gifts not necessary, but if we wanted we could contribute to the honeymoon.
We're a bit low on income at the moment and I wanted to show more thought than a £50 bank transfer, so we went to a wine shop and the owner helped us choose a nice Premier Cru champagne for £49.99 (on budget Yaaay!).
I added a card with a personal message and bagged it up.
I hope that helps.