Making myself fat

[Tomuchyum]

I'm so angry with myself. I lost quite a bit of weight. I cut food right down. I have barely lost anything for months now. Which I don't understand since I'm 100% sure i haven't gone over. But apparently its normal. The thing is it hasn't picked up again.

Over the weekend me and DD spent a weekend together just me and her. It involved eating things I wouldn't normally. Because we were eating out. And just grabbing stuff. Before I done that i was 9st 3 Pounds . I'm now 9st 7 Pounds. Because I was a prick with food. Its now going to take ages to loose that again regardless of how much I cut down. My metabolism has slowed so everything I ate probably didn't burn off and turned to pure fat.

It probably sounds silly. But for me it now feels like I'm closer to 10 stone than 9st. And I already know I'm struggling to loose. But yet I still ate in a way that was going to make it worse.

Perhaps your body is at its ideal weight. You can't be overweight unless you are very short.

I will fast then.

I know that no one else knows. But i do. I'm not harsh i just don't want to mess up.

Celebrate that you’ve lost a load of weight. You can lose this again even if it takes a couple of weeks. And you had a fab weekend. Try to look at it positively. We all have to live a normal life and sometimes we all over indulge. It’s fine. You’ve got this.

You consumed 20k cals?? In two days? And are now angry you’ve gained weight? Thays an utterly enormous quantity of food.

20k??

Please treat yourself with more kindness than this. My weight can fluctuate by 4lb within a day, it doesn't mean anything.

If you are only limiting your food and drink intake, you may well have reached a plateau. Your age and hormones might be making it much harder than it would have been to lose weight a decade or so ago.

This sounds like a weekend where you should have enjoyed your DD's company but you've ended up making it about your own disappointment in yourself and that's not a mentally good place to be. I've been there! It is shit! Do not recommend it at all.

I put a dampner on so many holidays and events years ago by being mean to myself and feeling immense disappointment in how little weight I lost before the event or trip. I look back on those photos and I was gorgeous! I was a glowing, healthy size 10. But I was miserable inside. I thought my arms were too fat for my wedding. My lovely wedding to my lovely DH with all our friends and family and I was just thinking about my massive blobby ham arms which were the arms of a 20 something size 10. FFS.

My friends and family and colleagues don't value me for the size of my waist or the weight of my body. And it's the same for you. Please don't wrap your whole worth up in your weight.

Four pounds is hardly anything. It's a big poo and a good night's sleep.

If you are actively trying to continue losing more weight I can't stop you but I can tell you that one weekend cannot sabotage the whole weightloss journey. It's happened, now get back to the misery of weighing your pasta and logging your food and drinks. Guilt around food makes me mad. I've been there in a restaurant or pub crying because nothing on the menu works for me because I want the delicious thing and not the sad little salad or soup and oh my days, what a stressful horrible experience those years were for my mental wellbeing.

Are you also moving in ways that you enjoy? Dance classes? Long walks? Whatever it is. That's about ADDING something to your life - fresh air and new skills, going swimming with friends, doing a sponsored jog with family. Food wise too - rather than solely concentrating on less and fewer, ADD more vegetables to your plate, focus on nourishing your body, fuelling it for activity, not on just making it smaller.

Everyone does that surely?

If someone is underweight it’s likely because of a medical condition or because of disordered eating. Some people will be naturally very light, but it’s usually not a good thing to be underweight and requires some investigation and intervention. Sure, you could keep on reducing your calorie intake and keep losing. But that is not a healthy approach at all. Your body knows when it’s at the weight it should be at. That’s why the BMI range is so broad.
You need to look at why you have reacted in such a way to what would be a normal weight fluctuation. Especially if you’ve had so many “treat” foods over the weekend.
As I said before, you need to look at what is going to be a realuatic goal weight that you can actually maintain when you’re eating “normally”.

Nope. I think I'm bloody fantastic. Why would I be mean to me?

I was 14 stone i am peri menopause. So I'm not coming from a starting place if 9st odd.

Yes, to gain 4 lbs you need 14k extra cals, assuming she burns about 2k a day, she’d need 19k cals in the two days to gain 4 lbs.

As others have said, you haven’t gained 4lb in a weekend, a lot is water, food your body isn’t used to, it will come back off.

On a broader note though if your weight loss has stalled- look at reducing cals or increasing your output. You won’t continue to lose on the same calories indefinitely.

Ok but I doubt she ate 20k and real fat gain wouldn't show up on the scale over the weekend. The only thing that shows up that quickly is digestive contents, and water retention.

You will lose it if you eat in a calorie deficit. If your weight loss stopped you were either not in a deficit or need to speak to a GP.

I haven't said how much. I just said what the food items were. Yes I'm angry with myself . Yes i messed up Its my own fault I choose it. But yes I'm angry with myself.

Honestly if you consumed an average of 10k cals a day, then of course you’d have gained weight, I cannot understand your reaction

because that’s serious binge levels of eating, thays actually videos I’ve watched on social media of body builders trying to consume 10k cals in a day, it’s so much food, did your daughter not say anything.

tnis isn’t just having crisps, cake chocolate etc, this is extreme bingeing.

if you didn’t do that, then you’ve not gained 4lbs and it’s just water weight.

I didn't even enjoy it. I got absolutely nothing from it. But done it anyway.

It will take weeks to loose. Ut really wasn't worth it.

OP get a bloody grip this is ridiculous. Weigh yourself in a few more days, if it’s still 4lb heavier at that point spiral then if you need to, but as has been stated several times you are not fat, you have not put on 4lbs of fat on one weekend and if you have it doesn’t make a single difference anyway.

For the love of god I hope you’re not saying any of this to your daughter.

The way you’re going about losing weight is destroying your metabolism. I despair with anyone who attempts to lose weight by just cutting down on food to the bare minimum. Calories aren’t just calories - you should count macros to ensure you hit the right targets for each of the main food groups (protein, carbs, fat).

You also need to exercise regularly to build muscle and retain independence in old age.

Also: 4lbs is absolutely nothing! Please don’t obsess like this and teach your daughter bad habits.

Fair enough

Being angry with yourself isn't a healthy attitude. You should just shrug it off, think to yourself that it was a great weekend and it was worth it! The weight will go when back to normal. It's 4lbs, it's not the end of the world, you've lost it before, you will lose it again.

I'm not adding more😳

My I'm always 2 pound heavier at night time thats my normal. Its definitely hard to eat out. Even if its chicken for example or a salad. It still ends up loads of calories and fat. Even though example the same thing at home would be much less.

I hope you're ok though sounds like it was a,hard time for you. 💐

U have to eat an extra 7,000 calories to gain 2 pounds it will be water weight due to eating foods with salt in or carbs 😕 x

I'm not sure what the lowest calorie intake is ok.

I'm 100% i have been.