Making myself fat

[Tomuchyum]

I'm so angry with myself. I lost quite a bit of weight. I cut food right down. I have barely lost anything for months now. Which I don't understand since I'm 100% sure i haven't gone over. But apparently its normal. The thing is it hasn't picked up again.

Over the weekend me and DD spent a weekend together just me and her. It involved eating things I wouldn't normally. Because we were eating out. And just grabbing stuff. Before I done that i was 9st 3 Pounds . I'm now 9st 7 Pounds. Because I was a prick with food. Its now going to take ages to loose that again regardless of how much I cut down. My metabolism has slowed so everything I ate probably didn't burn off and turned to pure fat.

It probably sounds silly. But for me it now feels like I'm closer to 10 stone than 9st. And I already know I'm struggling to loose. But yet I still ate in a way that was going to make it worse.

How tall are you? Unless you're about 5ft tall you definitely aren't fat.

1lb of fat equates to roughly 3000 calories, so unless you consumed an extra 12000 calories in a single weekend, some of that will be water.

I really think you should consider therapy to unpick your relationship with food and with your body.

I weigh 9st 13lb and I am NOT fat, I am a healthy weight for my height 🤷‍♀️

You won’t have gained 4lb of fat in one weekend, it will be water weight from the overindulgence and will drop off again after a couple of days being back on the straight and narrow (I speak from experience as someone who is very strict with my diet during the week then let loose a bit more at the weekends)

It will be water retention.

Your daughter will remember the nice weekend with her mum, not what she weighed on that weekend

Not possible to gain over the weekend. It's water weight.

You sound like you've got some struggles with disordered eating and body image. I do too. It sounds unhealthy at the moment. Can you talk to anyone about it?

I get it can go up and down a bit but its normally 2 pound. This is 4 punds its doubled .

A simple internet search will confirm it is salt or you need a poo. You'll be fine.

How can it not be possible?

How much did you eat? To gain 4 lbs of fat you need to consume an additional 14000 cals above your normally daily requirements. Did you eat that?

You may have put in a pound or two. I’ve def been away for weekends in the past and gained a bit of weight. Just eat well for a week or so and it’ll come off.
DS gained 10 kilos (yes, kilos!!) in his last term at uni and 6 weeks later it’s all off. He’s just eaten his ‘home’ diet and been a lot more active/gone to gym and not sitting down studying all day.

It would be an awful lot of food.

One pound of body fat contains 3500 calories then there's the additional metabolic cost of converting the food you eat into fat stores. You're unlikely to have eaten over 14000 calories over your basic requirement in a weekends just from being a little less controlled than usual with your food intake.

I don't think i do. I think probably loads of people don't eat im an ideal way.

I'm just angry with myself . I know weight lose has slowed practically at a standstill. Yet I go and do what I did. Knowing that I'm at a near standstill so it wasn't a good idea to put more in.

You'll be fine.

I've lost a lot of weight over the last couple of years, not at my goal weight yet but like you I've plateaued and really struggling to lose the last 10lbs.

I find that if we go on holiday for a week I can easily put on 5lbs, but that it comes off again quite easily over a week or two afterwards once I get back to being careful. It's not "real" weight. Some of it will be water weight, I find that if I've been drinking the night before for instance, I'm always a good 3lbs heavier the next day, but it'll have come back off by the day after.

I find the same. If I put on a couple of pounds over a weekend it doesn’t just go away. Might take a couple of weeks rather than a couple of days. I can’t explain why but it is frustrating.

You sound like you do.

It’s very hard to gain that much weight in that space of time.

What’s the point in being angry with yourself? It won’t change anything.

But my weight lose has litterly stopped. So I can't see how i would loose it.

This anger isn't helping you. Treat yourself at least as well as you would any friend. What would you say to a friend? Can you say that to yourself. Give it a go. x

How tall are you OP? What’s your BMI? Is it realistic for you to lose anymore weight?

That's kind of what i mean. It seems to be more than a couple of weeks. Just doesn't seem worth it. Didn't even enjoy it. So didn't even get anything from it.

You can't 'anger' the weight off... in fact, raising your own cortisol that way will make your frightened body cling to weight even more... (science!) 👩‍🔬

How about you focus on the lovely weekend you had spending time with your DD? (And by next weekend you will have peed off all this water weight anyway)...

Srsly - I read about a therapist who was helping a woman who'd been overweight for 20 years. She asked her 'How have you been trying to lose weight?' The woman said that she called herself a fat, greedy pig who should be ashamed of herself etc... The therapist said 'And has this worked so far?' And the woman was dumbfounded to realise that it hadn't - when she started cherishing herself at any weight, she felt happier and started eating instinctively and got a lot healthier...

Well i must have eaten much more then and loaded with calories and fat. Carbs and god knows what else.

Stand on the scales. Then drink a bottle of water. Stand on the scales again. You obviously won’t have gained fat but your weight will have gone up. This is what happens when you put something into your body it’s not fat, unless you eat a huge amount over your calorie limit

If it was a friend it would be different because most people talk to themselves differently compared to talking to friend.