What wouldn't you admit out loud ?

[2ndNatureTime]

Im sure they'll be lots of judgement on here as always but here we go

I really wish I hadn't married my 1st husband. He was a loser and still is.
I find 99% of kids so dull

Personally I always think salmon is hugely overrated.

Absolutely this. So tired of being expected to be endlessly supportive to people who are aren't willing to do much for themselves.

@sluggishI agree and often find the media picks out very odd examples to froth about. I always wonder who is behind it trying to derail the current govt. Like another poster on here I think we should be using prisoners for more hard labour - clearing the dumping sites and fixibg leaks in water pipes - effectively learning skills we need in the country that make it better.

I'm 40 and have never been in a relationship or had sex.

I spent most of my 20-30s caring for my mum who was unwell and it just never happened. My siblings managed to escape but as the oldest it fell to me to do all of the appointments, emergency hospital visits, and organize everything. Having to be home overnight in case she had a flare or a fall, and dealing with that.

I had no choice because there was no one else to do it and she would have died if I hadn't taken care of her but now she's passed I'm realizing just how much of my life I lost. I resent it, and my siblings for letting me carry it all by myself. I'm probably never going to have children of my own and it makes me incredibly sad at times.

I'm very happy that DD has chosen not to have children as I never wanted grandchildren.

I have a tendency to daydream ridiculously implausible scenarios. Beat these 😳

I can communicate with animals.

Im a vampire in the manner of the Twilight Universe and have tracked down Hannibal Lecter and told him I know who he is. He naturally attacks me and of course I easily overpower him. He’s pretty surprised.

I can see and communicate with spirits (I am a hard line skeptic and have no time for any claims of woo nature).

Probably loads more.

I realise that my daydreams revolve around having some sort of special power. Probably because I’ve always lacked self esteem.

Oh and I always used to imagine I was on a horse when I rode my bike even as an adult. And when travelling as a passenger regardless of the mode of transport I’m galloping across the fields and jumping all the hedges.

I struggled to congratulate a colleague who announced her first pregnancy, knowing the appalling state of maternity care in UK, I of course did not mention that I had PTSD after birth of my only child, I find it hard to understand why you would go through labour more than once and If I had have got pregnant again I would definitely have terminated.

So many things…. I’ve had sex with 2 of my friends partners, both before they were together, still see and socialise with them now.
I prefer my daughter to my son, she’s an absolute ray of light, he is often very hard work, complains a lot and I suspect slightly ND. I try to treat them the same and hope no one would ever notice. I love him but often don’t like him.

I don’t necessarily believe in monogamy and see so many men having affairs and their partners are oblivious ( I work in a very male dominated industry)

@Mistachio i think loads of people walk around with stories and daydreams constantly in their heads. Authors, film directors etc must do this in order to come up with their ideas.

Also life can be pretty dull can’t it?

That's why you fantasise about the walking liability. We don't fantasise about stuff that's really happening - that's what makes it fantasy.

If you wanted that in reality, you'd pursue it. Fantasies aren't reality, they are totally safe and you can withdraw at any time. You are actually in control the entire time. People fantasise about stuff they'd never want to happen in reality, but it's just fiction, safe, not real.

Agree. I think we’ve gone from MH being a stigma to now everyone endlessly talking about it. Talking and taking no action!

People wear their diagnoses like it’s their whole personality.

Your dog doesn't have separation anxiety. You've just failed to train it properly and are using it as an emotional crutch.

Reform / Restore voters are all as thick as pigshit. No exceptions.

Most of the costs associated with Adult Social Care could have been avoided if people had lived healthier lifestyles and taken more responsibility for their health and wellbeing.

I'd go further to add that little girls especially at this stage can be very nasty to their peers and manipulative with adults. Some know how to put on the tears in order to get away with murder. The one who comes crying first is not necessarily the victim.

For example, do you recall that teacher up in Bayley Grammar school who is now in hiding for his life? That should have been clamped down on, but the guy has broadly been left to fend for himself.

The fact that the rape/grooming gang scandal was brushed under the carpet for so many years due to successive governments and public bodies paralysed by fear of seeming racist or Islamophobic.

Even the fact that they adhere to Ramadan in prisons in what is a secular country. You should lose those types of privileges in prison. I guess that’s because 18% of the prison population in England and Wales is Muslim vs 6% of the population.

DD10 has been subjected to some awful behaviour by one girl in her class who has amazed me (not in a good way) with her manipulative behaviour. Never realised before this year that 10 year olds could be that nasty in a clever way!

Omg that sounds horrific. I cannot stand owners of badly trained dogs, especially when they make ridiculous excuses you for their dog's behaviour...

Aww, don't worry, she's friendly, as she wipes her mucky paws all over your clean clothes.

Aww, she's growling because she doesn't like your hat.

Aww, that's not nipping, that's just his way of saying hello.

Aww, she only bit you because you weren't quick enough to move away.

Aww, he's only barking because he doesn't like what you had for breakfast.

AND,

You're right, you should not pet a dog that's jumping up at you, it's only going to encourage it to do it more.

Agree!

Also, I think my relationship would be an extreme dull book

I don’t know for sure but given how quickly it was publicised last week that people had viewed Minnie Merriman’s notes (the wee girl found dead in Scotland) I’d hope after this length of time you would be ok. You only saw what you were entitled to even though you bypassed official routes. It’s not like you looked at someone else’s

I spent half of my adult life comfort eating to cope with the unbearable stress and anxiety I was going through.

You won't necessarily have to pay for care, the majority of elderly people live independently at home all their lives. Stop fretting!

In a similar vein I wouldn’t mind a bereavement so I could get some time off work. Not anyone I actually care about, but my FIL would be quite convenient, he’s an old wanker anyway

I am generally very laid back and 'live and let live', unbothered by how other people do things and live their lives.

But whenever I hear my neighbour spending half an hour persuading her (NT) DD to get into the car to go wherever neighbour needs to go, when her DD wants to sit at home and watch TV (DD is 10), I grit my teeth and internally scream "shove her in the car and drive away!" The negotiations, the blackmail, the bribery that I have to listen to brings out the 'slap her legs and lock her in the house!' in me. Naturally I don't advise doing that, but listening to the way her DD rules the roost and makes her mum suffer just for daring to take her out makes me want to.

@PineappleCandy I understand.
I was a carer too.
I put on 8 stone.
I ate everything to hand and nearly drank myself to death. My siblings did fuck all.

You've done so well already to lose four stone.
You're only 40!
Fwiw I've lost six stone. It's taken three years but I know I won't put it back on because I can now look at myself in the mirror.

I always remind clients that they aren't paying me for the time it takes me to do something but for the time it has taken me to learn to do it so well

Very honest 💕 😘