What wouldn't you admit out loud ?

[2ndNatureTime]

Im sure they'll be lots of judgement on here as always but here we go

I really wish I hadn't married my 1st husband. He was a loser and still is.
I find 99% of kids so dull

@VoltaireMittyDream ”I do love dogs, I just always knew I didn’t want the responsibility of having one of my own to look after.”

I feel the same. We also inherited a dog and she has none of the issues yours has. She’s lovely - I just don’t need the extra hassle. My kids adore her though, thankfully.

I've shared this one before on another of these posts but I'm a bi female (I swear!) and something nobody knows about me at all is that I have a huge fetish of large labias and think they're beautiful. I'd never admit this irl as I'm ashamed and I think that's due to often hearing other women say how much they hate theirs, and also men over the years making nasty comments about them so I feel if I admitted it, they'd think I'm crazy and weird

@Additup that was my ex . He was depressed /anxious but refused to do anything to help himself . I gave up trying to help him in the end !

I don't think it's helpful to think of your attraction as a fetish.
That's your thing. It doesn't devalue women, quite the opposite.
Lots of people like big penes but don't say it because it's unladylike.

Ok was gonna post this last night but thought better of it until now🤣
I have a male ndn who i believe has a crush on me.
He has a view into my living room as do I.
Sometimes at night after my shower I walk around in just my bra and underwear on and pretend I can't see him watching.
It gives me a thrill that I can't explain.

@Travelfairy why can’t you meet your sister in private .Why deprive yourself of a relationship if she wants that too ? As someone who is trying to find family members I would love to be contacted .

I do this! I don't even feel guilty. I cooked it, I'll clean everything up after so I deserve the best bits. I've never told them though.

Doesn’t everyone do this? If you have cooked it’s fair enough!

I'm a really, really shit parent. I have let my kids down so much. Not like the department of human services will come and take me away, just that I always feel so busy, so stretched, and my husband dumps everything on me. I feel like I'm this person with no good qualities. No one likes doing anything for my birthday or mother's day. I'm just someone who lives in the house, cooks, cleans, goes to work etc but I don't think my husband and kids actually like me.

Completely agree re the child.

@blinkisbirthday I agree with you, and gave everything to my children. Now adults and we don't have a great relationship. This has completely crushed my sense of identity and self. Its not something I advise. You need more than your kids.

I do sometimes.

Me too!!

Blonde ringlets were the highest ideal when I was growing up - shudder.

I totally get this (minus the husband as I no longer have one) but that feeling of being totally unappreciated.
I only exist as carer to my severely disabled son. I'm no one beyond trying to manage his behaviours ( non verbal teenager with the developmental age of a toddler) and changing his incontinence pads. I don't get any respite.

I hate pretty much all celebratory/special events unless they're very very low key. Hen dos, weddings, parties, sports days, graduations etc. Loathe them.

I have no respect for women who dance to the tune of their neurotic/lazy/infantile husbands. I will not be stepping in to rescue you as your husband unnecessarily works 60 hour weeks to avoid his own wife and children, I will not be a childcare option when you are overwhelmed and your husband is off on his bike/playing golf/socialising with his friends etc.

You may be happy to facilitate this ridiculousness, but I am not, and will not be stepping in. I think it's deeply misogynistic that you expect the women in your life to compensate rather than taking the useless/wet/egotistical man to task.

Stating that you "like travelling and eating good food" is like a fish stating they like water.

I see how much time, energy and effort most people put into impressing others or keeping up with the Jonses or living life inauthentically and it makes me feel both really sad and incredibly exasperated.

I secretly think that keeping cats is an ecological disaster. All that meat! All that shit, All that cat litter. The toxic chemicals (to kill fleas and worms) that gets into our rivers and wipes out native wildlife.
Toxoplasmosis in the soil and even the water supply, the cute little furry bastards killing everything that moves.
I have a cat! I'd never tell her.

I think sex on a first date is not necessarily a bad thing.

I would have said this 8 years ago. I left, got therapy, and realised my exDH was extremely abusive and alienating my children from me. He was slowly destroying my mental health and self worth. Are you sure this isn't happening to you?

I’m with you on weddings. Have always loathed weddings.

Would never tell my friends this but I have found all their weddings unbearably boring and self indulgent. I think adult women who want to be “princess/queen for a day” and think wearing a white dress for a day compensates you for decades of inequality and being ignored need to grow the fuck up.

I feel this too!

I am worried about what will happen to me when i am old and frail. I dont want dd to have to look after me and I dont want to waste her inheritance on my care. I am a single parent and am lucky to own our home but with the prices going up she will have to pay IHT on it (I never married and her dad is no contact and never paid naintebance, so the limit lower than most families). It depresses me I am happy to commit suicide when I get too frail to simplify things but that that will probably mean she has to sell the home she grew up in. It feels like a first world problem which is weird.

Comparing yourself to others doesn’t equate to low self confidence. I compare all the time - I nearly always come out on top. I’m fairly confident when it comes to my looks. Objectively I can see my flaws but they don’t bother me. Comparing is just an interesting passtime.

That i dread visiting my parents. Now in their 80s and DM has dementia. I know she cant help it but the repeated questions drive me fucking mad. Its been 5 years now...not sure I can cope with another 5 months, let alone 5 years... only my DH knows how I truly feel and I feel guilty for feeling it, but there we are.

For me it was that I used to be addicted to crack, heroin, cocaine, morphine, amphetamines and alcohol, and I quit cold turkey when I realised I was pregnant. I basically swapped those addictions for food. Took me a while to realise that.

I was addicted to those things after being trafficked into prostitution in my 20s by a man I had thought was my boyfriend, sold to up to 10-15 men a night for years and years, before he tried to beat me to death with an iron bar because I was too old to be profitable.

I ended up in a mental unit, then homeless, I was already an addict and just carried on. Having my daughter saved my life really.

I've lost 4 stone since 2024. 4 more to go.

This whole story is what I can't admit in real life!

My family, who I only really got back a couple of years ago, would absolutely never speak to me again if they knew. They're of the "She was asking for it" school of thought.
We don't live in the same country so they had no idea what was happening.

It's hard enough being fat in front of them, they think that's a moral failing as it is.

I’m really embarrassed by my book choices. I basically only read romantacy smut. The more unhinged the male romantic lead the better. love a literary red flag man.

Meanwhile in real life I have a lovely bf who spends his evenings tinkering with computers. Defo not a red flag.