What wouldn't you admit out loud ?

[2ndNatureTime]

Im sure they'll be lots of judgement on here as always but here we go

I really wish I hadn't married my 1st husband. He was a loser and still is.
I find 99% of kids so dull

I didn't tell her off as such - I said I can't believe anyone would think that about someone they loved.
And that is something I would say out loud!

I hate big male dogs. I think they’re disgusting, cocking their legs pissing on fucking everything

I especially hate big un neutered dogs with their balls just hanging there 🤮

eta - I have a lovely wee bitch

I have no bedroom, I gave up my own bedroom to let both my teen boys have their own personal space as I felt it was important and something I never had as a kid. No one else knows this.

This thread is very cathartic!

It's actually the best username I have ever seen.

Are both your families and friends OK with that? No criticism from me - I think it's brilliant!

That reads like a telling off to me. As I said, this is a thread where people are talking about things they wouldn't say in real life, it should be a judgement free zone (within limits, if someone said they were a Nazi that doesn't deserve to be respected)

When im walking by myself and its late or quiet I do a little internal monologue like i have been murdered amd crimewatch are broadcasting my story. 'Angrybird was last seen coming out of the co op with a family bag of wotsits and 4 doughnuts. Its not known is she was meeting anyone, but the crisps have never been recovered. Don't have nightmares.

I bitterly resent the thought that I will have spent my whole adult life caring for other people as by the time my youngest has left home/gone off to university, my PILs will be needing help. I’ve been a parent since 21 and before that I worked as a live in help for physically handicapped children. I’ve not had my own life at all. I just want to die when I think of moving to a village in the arse end of nowhere to look after my racist and unpleasant PILs. I owe it to my DH to help him but it makes me sad.

Of course you do. All the time. There are many of them. You just don't realise because they haven't told you they support Israel's right to exist (which doesn't mean they must support every government or leader it's ever had, but of course nobody is so thick as to believe that) and as they aren't stupid and insane, you think they can't possibly hold a differing viewpoint to your own.

Still, that ridiculous list will make you feel superior in your own head, and as that is the actual purpose of it, job done I guess.

I can't bear being around infantile adults. I want to scream when grown adults rely on others for their needs, take no responsibility for things like earning a living, paying for insurance etc. and regulating their emotions.

I’m lonely.

I have friends but life gets in the way. I understand that but it still hurts to hardly see them.
Nobody ever seems to organise things unless I suggest it or remind them we exist. I love my son but a bit of grown up time now and then outside of work would be great.

I don’t really enjoy anyone’s company.
I would be fine if i never saw most of my friendship circle again.

Don't do it. I'm serious. Tell your husband he's on his own with his parents. Another thing that I wouldn't really say out loud (but am actually increasingly brazen about) is that old people who expect their kids to care for them are selfish and shouldn't be indulged. Fine to have the odd visit, but these people whose whole lives revolve around elder care? Wouldn't be me. That goes double for old people who didn't help out with grandkids: if they did, I feel they are maybe owed a bit, but if not, they aren't owed a goddamn thing.

There's no such thing as a neurodivergent child who is "clever" but fails to achieve academically or socially in other areas of their life. It's something parents love to tell themselves and others, but the child is simply not as smart or capable as they think. It sets unrealistic standards for the child because they end up believing they could have achieved incredible things in their lifetime but the only thing that hindered them was their neurodivergence.

Genuinely clever neurodivergent children go on to achieve success in their lives just like clever neurotypical kids. Neuroplasticity and meta cognition means they know which areas they have to work on and actively practise those until they reach the desired level of performance. Many learn how to use their special interests, talents or hyperfocus to give them a professional advantage. A huge number of well-known geniuses and millionaires have ADHD, ASD or both.

Money definitely buys happiness.

My husband came into a lot of money a few years ago and it has absolutely transformed both our lives. I don't have to work full time, and I can pursue hobbies, interests and retrain for a new exciting career within worrying about the training costs.

Absolutely this. I think too many people have seen Rain Man and believe that autism actually makes a person more intelligent rather than less. It's maybe a bit of Just World Fallacy. Also, a lot of people who claim to be Autistic are nothing of the sort, they are just self absorbed and want an excuse that lets them off the hook for being anti social.

One of the reasons I chose my DH is that his family is too far away to be involved in our everyday lives. They seem fine and we’re all polite when we meet once a year, but I’m not sure they’d be the same if they were closer. I also left my previous long term relationship partly because I was horrified at the thought of having his mother as a MIL.

I now have a son and fear he’ll one day meet a woman who feels the same as I do.

That my home has been a joy to come home to since next door and their 3 kids have gone away. The youngest is a right moany whingey kid and its only since they've gone away that I've realised my dissatisfaction with living here is due to them. I cannot open a door or window in nice weather without screeching then the inevitable faux crying. I hope they don't come back.

Solidly agree. We need a test to allow people to vote. If you don't know what you're voting for, your vote shouldn't count.

You sound absolutely normal to me

If he does, he does. I don't think that mothers of sons ought to expect to be as involved in their lives as mothers of daughters. It's just the way of the world. I wouldn't have married my husband if his mother was as close to him as mine is to me.

I'd say this out loud, with caveats... it can't buy everything, you can be rich and struck by tragedy, but there are few situations it can't improve in any way at all. It buys some degree of happiness, although not everything. But I do think that once you reach a certain point of wealth, more money doesn't make you happier.

I'm 2 beers and a gin & tonic in, but, man alive, your post has completely cracked me up. Absolutely brilliant ❤

I was…… it was delicious 😜