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I don't want to let gas man in

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Whyohwhy99 · 04/08/2026 14:49

I don't want to let the gas man in. I have already cancelled twice. Every year I get warning letters.. I don't want to let anyone in. I don't want have any form of interaction. I don't want anyone physically in my house. I don't even know when they are coming. I just know its an afternoon appointment.

OP posts:
ifonly4 · 04/08/2026 16:15

Seriously, if it's a safety check, get it done. Engineer always says our boiler is in good condition, but last time he picked up a seal had gone and we were close to a Co2 leak. Very quick to sort and cheap, so he wasn't trying it on.

You could tell the landlord, you're not overly comfortable having someone in your own, so would prefer to just show engineer the location of boiler and leave them to it. You could also clarify beforehand if they'd need access anywhere else without your home, so you can prefer.

Anextrasetofhands11 · 04/08/2026 16:16

BauhausOfEliott · 04/08/2026 15:51

OP, I've just seen your other posts.

You are seriously struggling with your mental health. You are fearful, anxious, confused, clearly panicky and overwhelmed and struggling to think clearly, and you seem to be struggling with low self-esteem. You sound possibly a little bit manic in the way your thoughts are racing and you can't focus. You've posted several times, clearly distressed, over the past few days. And you also have children living with you, one with complex needs.

You absolutely MUST have gas safety check and/or meter readings. You have children and a gas safety check is vital to make sure they're safe from things like gas leaks and carbon monoxide. And if they cut your gas off because they aren't able to read your meter. your children will obviously suffer.

You need to see a doctor and give them a very comprehensive account of your feelings and how you're struggling with irrational fears, racing thoughts, low mood and executive dysfunction, and you need to tell them that it's at the point where you feel sick and get palpitations at the thought of a routine visit from the gas man and so on. You need some proper mental health support because you are not well at the moment.

I think you are being very unfair, calling out OP on other posts she may or mat not have made.
Who suddenly made you a doctor?

maslinpan · 04/08/2026 16:16

I work for a homeless charity and many of our residents have complex issues such as anxiety, and PTSD. When we have appointments with external contractors, we ask them to make it as easy as possible for the resident, not to try and engage if that's not wanted, and do the job as calmly and efficiently as possible. Nobody will think you are a prat if you share your worries beforehand, it is quite normal to make adjustments and be sensitive if someone is genuinely dreading an appointment.

SamphiretheTervosaur · 04/08/2026 16:21

You are putting your landlord in a really tricky legal position

Contact the agent and explain, get them to liaise with the gas man for a specific time and to tell you how long.

Then do whatever you feelnyou have to to manage your anxiety. Get out of the house altogether if you can

And discuss it with your GP. It is a mental health issue and you might find enough support to be able to manage it better in future

Best of luck

KaleidoscopeSmile · 04/08/2026 16:22

Anextrasetofhands11 · 04/08/2026 16:16

I think you are being very unfair, calling out OP on other posts she may or mat not have made.
Who suddenly made you a doctor?

No she's not being unfair. If OP having multiple issues with her mental health and is posting for advice then they're all pertinent.

Who made you the thread police, "calling out" PP?

Ipollita · 04/08/2026 16:22

Anextrasetofhands11 · 04/08/2026 16:16

I think you are being very unfair, calling out OP on other posts she may or mat not have made.
Who suddenly made you a doctor?

PP wasn’t calling her out or being unfair at all - it was a very compassionate and helpful reply to someone who is obviously struggling a great deal.

Delphiniumandlupins · 04/08/2026 16:23

Are your children young or adults? Do any of them live with you?

Boomer55 · 04/08/2026 16:27

Whyohwhy99 · 04/08/2026 14:49

I don't want to let the gas man in. I have already cancelled twice. Every year I get warning letters.. I don't want to let anyone in. I don't want have any form of interaction. I don't want anyone physically in my house. I don't even know when they are coming. I just know its an afternoon appointment.

You don’t want to let the gas man in, for a few minutes, to read your meter?

You’d best let him in - they have a legal right to read and inspect their meters.

And your landlords have the legal right to insist you let them in.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 04/08/2026 16:30

I understand this is a serious post, and I totally empathise with letting certain people (strangers) who are professionals / tradesmen etc into the home, as I used to worry about this too sometimes.

Can I add a bit of a lighthearted comment tp the thread please? (And apologies in advance as I don't want to make it sound like I'm unsympathetic, as I do understand!) Just when I read your thread title, my mind immediately thought of the scene in the comedy series Bottom, and the episode Gas Man, where he is at the door and he says "Gas man! I've come to read your meter!"

Cue frantic running around from Eddie and Ritchie trying to get the hose out of the hole in the wall from where they've siphoned off next door's gas! 🤣

Anyway... sorry, OP. On a more serious note, I do hope you can find the courage to get the Gas man to visit. (And apologies if my comment offended anyone at all, it was purely meant as a lighthearted remark)🥰❤️

JustJugglingCats · 04/08/2026 16:30

How old are your children @Whyohwhy99 ? Could they be there instead and you go and sit outside or in your car, or walk round the block? If they are too young, do you have a patent or sibling? A care worker? Please do make sure you attend your GP appointment and be really honest. They are there to help you and can guide you to getting some therapy to help you with your anxiety. You owe out to yourself and your children to take the help and lead a happier, less anxious life.

TicklishReader · 04/08/2026 16:31

I used to feel like this before I got help. It's awful, and I am sorry.

Try to focus on how you will feel when it's over. No more letters and warnings. It will be a huge weight off of your chest.

Please bring this up with your GP at your appointment. Anti-anxiety medication changed my life.

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/08/2026 16:32

DeanGaffneysCumFace · 04/08/2026 16:12

You sound very anxious and stressed OP. Do you have a holiday planned? Maybe something else to look forward to that could help you calm your nerves while the gasman does his thing?
Even if you don't have a holiday booked, maybe you could plan one? I'm sure that would take your mind off things.

Edited

I'm not sure that a person who is so socially anxious they can't let anyone in their house will feel able to go on holiday.

TicklishReader · 04/08/2026 16:33

Boomer55 · 04/08/2026 16:27

You don’t want to let the gas man in, for a few minutes, to read your meter?

You’d best let him in - they have a legal right to read and inspect their meters.

And your landlords have the legal right to insist you let them in.

She is aware of this.

MargaretMeldrew · 04/08/2026 16:33

concertinacornflake · 04/08/2026 16:08

It's out of order to search and post like this. Leave the op to post as she wishes, if you think she is breaking talk guidelines then report.

I absolutely agree. It’s disgraceful. There’s an implied judgement that the OP is some kind of ‘repeat offender’ and doesn’t deserve help or advice. I hate all this scrabbling around for posting history.

Seriously, have a word with yourself @LondonLass2026.

HPD76 · 04/08/2026 16:34

I absolutely relate to you. I hate having anyone in my house, my house is pretty tidy etc, I just don't want strange men in my house. I decided after a couple of bad experiences to get only female tradespeople, and that's massively changed things for me. I still don't love people being in my house, but it's so much less stressful with women, and they get it. Google female gas safe engineers in your area and go with the one with the best reviews.

One found a leak in my boiler which had been badly fitted the previous year by a man, she spent half a day fixing it and it was about half the price a man would have charged me and her work was incredibly clean and tidy. Women are the way forward with this. Good luck.

XenoBitch · 04/08/2026 16:36

I am the same, OP.

What helps is being given an exact time. None of this all day crap. And having a friend you trust to be there with you for a while before. Get involved in something like a craft with your friend.. be focused on it, and the gas man turning up will be a minor inconvenience.

takemeonholidayrightnow · 04/08/2026 16:41

Whyohwhy99 · 04/08/2026 15:10

I don't know if it even comes under metal health. I just know it feels like my heart is in my throat. And my stomach is in knots.

Sorry to be blunt but you’ll feel a whole lot worse than that if your home gets blown up via faulty gas.

DeanGaffneysCumFace · 04/08/2026 16:42

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/08/2026 16:32

I'm not sure that a person who is so socially anxious they can't let anyone in their house will feel able to go on holiday.

Why not? She managed it last year? I figure a nice week away in the sun and a fling with the pool boy will do her the world of good.

HumberSquid · 04/08/2026 16:43

Anextrasetofhands11 · 04/08/2026 16:16

I think you are being very unfair, calling out OP on other posts she may or mat not have made.
Who suddenly made you a doctor?

Hard disagree. It gives context to an otherwise rather strange thread and the OP clearly, clearly needs mh support.

REP22 · 04/08/2026 16:44

I hate having anyone in too @Whyohwhy99 - I dread it. I anticipate the arrival of the notification letter weeks before it arrives. I have had warning letters in the past and my house is a grubby hovel of which I am profoundly ashamed. But it is a condition of my HA tenancy that they must do these checks once a year (as must all landlords); I don't want to risk my tenancy or any evictionary actions, which are a real risk if access is repeatedly denied. I am ashamed of my home - but I am very lucky and very thankful to have it.

Let them in, hover outside while they do their thing and get it done before the warning letters start. The engineers are not there to chat or to pry; they have to get as many checks properly carried out in as short a time as decently possible and they need to crack on. It's not a "home" to them; it's a place of business. In - job done - gone. I do make sure my bedroom door is closed and blocked, but that's the only outward manifestation of my own fears.

They don't know you; it's a short necessity; it's done and that's it for another year. Think of all the angst and despair you save yourself by just keeping the first appointment and not putting yourself through the torment of delays, more, build-ups and warning letters. The first visit avoids ALL that and, as you say, you will let them in eventually, in the end. So snip off the dread and cut it off at the first stage. In - out - done. Quick as that. As @maslinpan says above - you can let them know your concerns in advance. But do let them in. They will not judge you - they're there for a specific, short-lived, task and that is all.

The saving grace for me is that my dog invariably loves them and is always pleased to see them (the last one said that he had to do a 40 minute return drive to his previous client because their cat went and sat in his van while he was working, nobody noticed and the cat was only discovered, purring in a tool box, when he arrived at his next job)!

It will be alright. Honest. x

LiuBei · 04/08/2026 16:46

AuntieBiotics · 04/08/2026 14:51

if it’s a safety check it’s not really up for negotiation.

Can you explain to me what's going on? Why can't someone just say "yes, there's a safety risk, I accept that risk." I've never had someone want to do a gas check, I don't really understand.

Baskingintheheat · 04/08/2026 16:48

LiuBei · 04/08/2026 16:46

Can you explain to me what's going on? Why can't someone just say "yes, there's a safety risk, I accept that risk." I've never had someone want to do a gas check, I don't really understand.

It's a legal requirement. Even if the gas is capped it'll still need to be checked annually.

Iloveeverycat · 04/08/2026 16:52

Are you a tennent. If you own your own home that's a different matter

Whyohwhy99 · 04/08/2026 16:52

RedRock41 · 04/08/2026 15:56

OP sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like you have real difficulty interacting with others. Reflects on our society that you can go a whole year without letting more than 3-4 people into your home.

How do you get other repairs done? Shopping? Medical help etc? Having no one is as small a network as you can get. Have you been let down by others so feel safer alone?

You should let your Housing Officer know of your struggles. There are people who can help if/when you feel ready. Least then they’d know it’s not a case of won’t but can’t.

Existing not living not a great place to be.

I get shopping delivered. I haven't physically been to the gp in years. It became a bit easier when it became on line and via phone calls. I don't reported repairs.

OP posts:
Iloveeverycat · 04/08/2026 16:53

Baskingintheheat · 04/08/2026 16:48

It's a legal requirement. Even if the gas is capped it'll still need to be checked annually.

It doesn't if you are a home owner.

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